im out of it....

[Jules]

Is there any thing that you can pin point that made you start to feel this way or was it just a gradual thing?

[kronas]

Originally Posted by Jules

Is there any thing that you can pin point that made you start to feel this way or was it just a gradual thing?

it started way back in 2003, nothing to pinpoint it, im just bored/tired/ stressed/depressed/ of life....... there is just no interests left for me in anything.


it seems the only thing that 'plays' on my mind is getting a girlfreind, oh and thinking about a childhood sweetheart alot of the time, its not so much about sex, but about the emotional aspect, having fun, doing things together, going out for meals, hugging, kissing, etc

[Jules]

You will find a girlfriend when you are not looking for one but you don't need me to tell you that the more you get out and about the better chance you will have

Seems so sad that some one at the start of there life already feels like this

[kronas]

Originally Posted by Jules

You will find a girlfriend when you are not looking for one but you don't need me to tell you that the more you get out and about the better chance you will have

Seems so sad that some one at the start of there life already feels like this

heh, maybe, everyone thinks im wierd who i know... outside of the forum lol

[lauzjp]

when you stop worrying quite so much what other people think of you, you will find a huge weight lifted off your shoulders. I did.

oh and most libraries have a reference section, go here http://dspace.dial.pipex.com/town/sq...0/weblibs.html or here http://www.direct.gov.uk/LeisureAndR...790&chk=B6pJtJ

kronas - I know you won't believe me, but you will get through this. Things will get better. It just takes time, I know it seems like forever, and that everyone is against you - I've been there, got the tshirt, etc. - Jules is right - you need to find something that will get you out of the house, even if only for a couple of hours here and there http://www.do-it.org.uk/ has a huge db of volunteering vacancies all over the uk and beyond. You could even find a placement where you live on site http://www.csv.org.uk/Volunteer/ and get paid (a small allowance) to do it. Or just go to your local charity shop.

[Ramrod]

Originally Posted by kronas

iv been through every possible avenue, doctor, hospital, crisis team, freinds, family, dunno what else to do.

I know m8, but you have to keep trying.......lauzjp has some good advice there, give that a go......

[kronas]

Originally Posted by Ramrod

I know m8, but you have to keep trying.......lauzjp has some good advice there, give that a go......

yep, i tried my library today but it was closed, going to have to wait till monday.....

just going to have to sort this out somehow, to make matters worse i have been sneezing, coughing, sore throat, fever too

Hi kronnie.

I'm going to tell you about my nephew who is on incapicity benefit.He has depression since he was 17 and is now 28.He has never worked because of his depression.Living on the south coast he could never get the help he needed and was unable to claim incapacity or any sort of benefit.

Then my sister moved to Newcastle and there he did get the help he needed and the correct evaluation (he has a social phobia too) to get incapacity benefit.He is increasingly getting better(although the random beating he got a month ago has knocked him back a little,bluddy thug) and is hoping to either get the further education he lost out on and/or to get a job that he can manage to do with the condition he suffers from.

The point I'm making is that maybe you need a different doctor.This is what helped my nephew.Think about changing to another surgery altogether.

The doctors at the local mental health unit in Mansfield are shocking, they just fill you up with tablets then send you on your way, the way forward with depression is counceling, a mate of mine had the old counceling thing and it worked a treat but the funding stopped so his councelling stopped. He was lucky though because he grabbed a place at a unit in Sheffield.

[kronas]

UPDATE so i went to this place on monday, extremely irratic felt like throwing up, totally wacko nice freindly area, allowed breaks, lunch etc... i liked it, but i was not right, one of the guys on the course pointed that out to the trainer, anyway i toughed it out, till i could take no more, so i went to the job centre and told them i need to talk to my advisor, she was off for a week.

so i was told to come back later, which i did with a freind of mine, i explained the whole situation, my problems, the course, why i cant do it etc, she said she would get back to me later in the day to see what she could do, iwent to to the local library which was next door to the job centre and looked around for the 'welfare benefits handbook' read it, was confised read it again, then i got a phone call...

it was the advisor at the job centre she said it was up to me if i wanted to go back, she sympathized with me, im on the wrong benefit she said, so i said i could no longer continue the course, she said that when my own advsior got back next week, id have to come in at somepoint, the case will go to york to be put under review,if after the review the decision maker will make a decision whether i can or cannot continue JSA if it is rejected then there is nothing i can do, no money zip nada, so i said ok, she gave me a number of someone who may help with incapacity benefit, i said thanks and ended the call.

so i rang this other lady up, explained everything, she said she would ring me back after seeking advice, after all that i was told yes i could ask to have a claim of IB be examined, but guess what.... I NEED A SICKNOTE

so i went to another surgery for a doctor, they said because i have a doctor in the area i cannot join them

so i had to signon today which i did and now im back at home, feeling 10 times worse, i just feel like killing myself, thats the feeling i live with everday

Kronas

there was a really good article in the Times the other day - please read it, and it may give you some guidelines/pointers as to a "way ahead".

It starts with

"
Health briefings
The TimesJuly 17, 2006
Times2

Rebuilding the walls of confidence

Jane Wheatley
Cognitive behavioural therapy is the Next Big Thing, but who loses out?

On a fine summer morning, a young man walks across the lawns of his university campus, up to the doors of a lecture theatre. There, he hesitates, then turns, head down, hurrying away against the flow of students, back to his room where he can be alone. Later that week, he sits miserably in front of a kindly looking woman: he always means to go to lectures, he tells her; he often gets as far as the doors but chickens out at the last moment. What is he afraid of? †œThat someone will sit next to me, or speak to me or ask me a question.ââ‚ ¬ÂÂÂ� And if they did †â€ÂÂ� what do you think would be the worst thing that could happen? †œThat I would say something stupid and go red and people would laugh about me afterwards.ââ ¡Ã‚¬Ã‚ÂÂ� NI_MPU('middle');Social phobia †â€ÂÂ� or social anxiety disorder †â€ÂÂ� is one of the most common causes of psychological distress




http://www.timesonline.co.uk/article...4-2271024.html

[budwieser]

Originally Posted by kronas

hmm.. k where do i start, i want to work but cannot because i have depression, also i think i have a mounting social phobia, i cannot think, talk coherantly, i find it hard to type, im basically a potato, been on jobseekers for a while and now i have to go to a training thing mon-friday 9am till 4ish, trouble is i cannot do it, i throw up everyday, ive lost wieght, im paranoid, distressed, relationship wise and sexually frustrated. im so irratic, ill jump off at any idea no matter how insane it is

what do i do

Man! You`re ****ed up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
When did this all start mate? What was the trigger for it?
I don`t mean to sound harsh but you`re still very young and somebody of your age shouldn`t be feeling like this! so i`m just asking, at what age did this start? Did you have a good upbringing? How was/is the relationship with your parents?

[kronas]

Originally Posted by budwieser

Man! You`re ****ed up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
When did this all start mate? What was the trigger for it?
I don`t mean to sound harsh but you`re still very young and somebody of your age shouldn`t be feeling like this! so i`m just asking, at what age did this start? Did you have a good upbringing? How was/is the relationship with your parents?

september 2003, trigger is unknown, ive not had anything to eat today, its been that bad, i barely ate yesterday as i threw up!

Oh kronas I thought as you had been so quiet thhat you were finally getting a handle on your problems...I think the change of doctor is the best bet.

Mind the government are looking at the whole issue of incapacity benefit.They want to get as many people off it and into work.However I suspect that of those that are on it there will be very few that are fit to work.

[budwieser]

Originally Posted by kronas

september 2003, trigger is unknown, ive not had anything to eat today, its been that bad, i barely ate yesterday as i threw up!

So, What happened in sept 2003 then?