Crush at work - Page 15

**Maggy** · 21-04-2009, 17:23

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Originally Posted by Halcyon

And that my friends, is how this thread ends, on planet disaster!

Halcyon · 21-04-2009, 17:58

She E-mailed me and wants to remain good mates, as in her words it is due to us working together.

So yet another mess up! Time to pour a good drink!

WHISTLED · 21-04-2009, 19:41

And what if any lessons have you taken from this...?

Halcyon · 21-04-2009, 19:46

That all women are evil!

No, that right now, I don't want to go to work as I will see her every day and it will do my head in for the rest of the week, month, year.

It has taught me one thing though that I should have done something about it sooner as otherwise the feelings build up in your mind and that isnt good when it all goes wrong.

So, right now I'm going to get back to E-mailing her one final time to say I'm ok with being friends and though I'd have liked it to be more, I'm happy that we can remain friends.

Argh !!!! My mind is about to explode. I need a holiday.

budwieser · 21-04-2009, 19:47

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Originally Posted by Halcyon

She E-mailed me and wants to remain good mates, as in her words it is due to us working together.

So yet another mess up! Time to pour a good drink!

It`s not a mess up mate, so you`ve been knocked back! Get out a bit more and don`t try to find someone, they`ll find you.
Just be yourself when you`re out and enjoy yourself, it`ll happen, trust me.

If something doesn`t go quite right, it just means that something else is coming up. It may be with the same girl, don`t pin your hopes on it, but it might happen.

Halcyon · 21-04-2009, 19:57

Thanks, I think I probably got too hopeful with this girl as I wanted to get over my last relationship that had been sadness and hurt for the past year and a half and I pinned too much hope in this to make things better.

I really liked the girl. It wasnt rebound or just wanting her for one thing. I truly liked everything about her, but I guess that for the moment it's not to happen.

I will try to be more hopeful and optimistic.

PS: To all that have survived 15 pages of this thread...... Thanks for putting up with my moaning posts.
I just wanted to say thankyou to everyone for their help and friendship and I really appreciated that.

Gary L · 21-04-2009, 20:02

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Originally Posted by Halcyon

That all women are evil!

and they only want one thing. your body!
Or not in your case

WHISTLED · 21-04-2009, 20:04

The lesson I was thinking was that you need to be a bit cooler, gain some perspective, and adopt a bit more balance with your emotions.

I have no doubt that you scared her off by coming in too strong, thats amplified in a work environment.

When you stop trying you will get on just fine.

21-04-2009, 22:07

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Originally Posted by WHISTLED

The lesson I was thinking was that you need to be a bit cooler, gain some perspective, and adopt a bit more balance with your emotions.

I have no doubt that you scared her off by coming in too strong, thats amplified in a work environment.
When you stop trying you will get on just fine.

I don't always agree with you - but I think you have it 'spot on' in this case - are you going soft?

Caspar · 21-04-2009, 22:32

I disagree, I halcyon has been very open and honest with this thread and to us - very brave imo.

I'm pretty sure that he's not been so upfront in person with el chick. He sounds hurt, and cautious becuase of history, and second guesses his every move. He's so focused in getting this right and doing it right cause maybe that's how he wants to be treated.

...don't we all, but most of us either don't know it, are already in a relationship, have already been hurt and learnt... or live our lives miserable and sad.

My final words are to keep going and have some fun don't let one set back set you back (!)...life is short and you never know what's around the corner....most of it is pretty fun, so embrace it ...especially the blondes with the big knockers!

Gary L · 21-04-2009, 22:41

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Originally Posted by Caspar

...especially the blondes with the big knockers!

They hate it when you press the doorbells.

Mr_love_monkey · 22-04-2009, 06:00

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Originally Posted by Gary L

and they only want one thing. your body!

Only one woman ever just wanted my body - and I think that was for medical research, as beagles were quite expensive

superbiatch · 22-04-2009, 10:24

I'm sorry things didn't go so well Halycon, but i do think it might have been a rebound thing. Give yourself a break and have some fun, get yourself out there and enjoy the summer. You sound like a great guy, so maybe if you stop looking for that 'someone' then maybe they'll find you

lucy7 · 23-04-2009, 07:39

Lesson to be learnt..........
Do we ever learn them?

Move on, don't go seeking a girlfriend, when it happens it happens!

Sorry, but best to go out with your mates, have some fun amd enjoy yourself.

Match.com worked for one of daughters friends though.
On line chat and banter is always a good way to get to know someone first (never thought I would ever type that), but it is sort of fun at times!
Just make sure they are not an ageing man trying to befriend you!!

Julian · 23-04-2009, 08:25

Bad luck there...

Maybe you should join your local Monastery, after all as the saying goes...

What fun do Monks have?

Nun.