Crush at work - Page 2

lauzjp · 21-03-2009, 04:22

when I used to work at a major supermarket there was a guy I used to really like, and we were very touchy feely - even on the shopfloor! Despite the fact his girlfriend (now wife I believe) could walk in at any moment.

being an anti-social person though I never got the chance to make a tit of myself at any drunken nights out, which is probably just as well, else I might not be married to Anton now!

I used to go to gigs a lot, sometimes staying in the same hotels *cough* nothing ever happened like that, honest, (ok, once) though once one of my major crushes said to me 'I do like you you know' which took me so by surprise it really freaked me out and I ran away! blew my chances there big time.

I don't know if I ever told Anton that, he already hates the singer of same band,

peanut · 21-03-2009, 04:49

I too married the woman I worked with, we got on well from the 1st day I started, became good friends over a couple of years, managed to get the courage and the rest is history as they say.

tweetypie/8 · 21-03-2009, 05:21

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Originally Posted by zinglebarb

I lost my cherry with an older woman I worked with I was very grateful I was 18 and thought I was gonna die a virgin lol

glad you made it zing,my god what a way to die.

Raistlin · 21-03-2009, 09:34

I'm engaged to my 'crush' from work

Halcyon · 21-03-2009, 14:32

Sounds like some success stories. We only live once so I'm thinking I should just go for it.
Now is asking her to go for a meal too much or is that OK?

It's good it is the weekend. I need time t think this through.

Raistlin · 21-03-2009, 14:35

Perhaps just take her out for a coffee one lunch time or something, or maybe a drink one evening?

I'd save dinner for a different time.

Dinner's great, but it ties the two of you together in a small space for the length of the meal. At least a coffee is short (half hour at most) and a series of drinks is only as long as however many drinks you decide you want to have together.

With those two if you decide that it's not working the way you thought it would, if you've nothing to say to each other, of if you're just not getting on, you don't have to stay together once the drink is done with.

dilli-theclaw · 21-03-2009, 14:36

HHHmmm I had a crush on someone at work. I married her too.

That was pretty much the worst thing I've ever done. BUT I do have a lovely son now so it wasn't all bad

**Maggy** · 21-03-2009, 14:50

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Originally Posted by Halcyon

Hello!

So here is this weeks topical question..... Has anyone got or had a crush at work and have you done anthing about it ?

Does it affect your life ?

You know what I mean..... You now look forward to going to work. You now spend more time in one department and make excuses to go down there.
You pretend the job takes twice as long just to spend time with someone.

And deep in your heart you know that you are at work, that you shouldnt be thinking this way and you know they may not have feelings for you, but you still can't help but go see them and look forward to seeing them at work.

I'm in a situation liket that at the moment. There is one girl I always go and see and will go out of my way to go down to her department to see her.
I'll put off one job to do her job instead. It's strange.
It helps that I'm not married and not already tied to a relationship at the moment but it is always daunting.

Do you tell them, risk a friendship, keep on working with them everyday and know it could get tricky if you fall out.

What are everyones experiences ?

Just ask her out to the cinema or for a drink..nothing heavy and see where it goes from there.

Nice to think that you are getting over your last girlfriend but remember rebound romances don't always work out.Be extra cautious.

Halcyon · 21-03-2009, 14:54

Thanks Incog. I know what you mean. I just want to see where it goes. Don't want to rush anything too quickly, just see where things go. It's been a strange past few months of constant breaking feelings so it's time for a fresh start.

Thanks for everyones replies

idi banashapan · 21-03-2009, 15:23

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Originally Posted by DRZ400

I dated every girl on my floor at work apart from the ugly one.

and the common denominator in the failure of all of those???.. you. oh.

lucy7 · 21-03-2009, 16:13

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Originally Posted by Rob M

Perhaps just take her out for a coffee one lunch time or something, or maybe a drink one evening?

I'd save dinner for a different time.

Dinner's great, but it ties the two of you together in a small space for the length of the meal. At least a coffee is short (half hour at most) and a series of drinks is only as long as however many drinks you decide you want to have together.

With those two if you decide that it's not working the way you thought it would, if you've nothing to say to each other, of if you're just not getting on, you don't have to stay together once the drink is done with.

From a womans point of view, I would say take her out for a meal, shows you are really interested. Its a more relaxed envioment than a bar.
You spend time choosing food, looking at menus, a chance to talk about food if nothing else pops in to your mind!!

Aother great first time date is bowling, if shes a fun girl and you are a fun guy, its always a laugh, unless your competitive streak comes out that is!

WHISTLED · 21-03-2009, 21:19

Its soooooooo much easier to start by emailing.

Halcyon · 22-03-2009, 13:36

I have mixed views on e-mailing. OK Yes it gets you communicating but this can often lead to a difference in things. By that I mean you can have flirty messages by e-mail but then a completly normal conversation in real life.
I know it can be a way to get to talkto her but I don't think asking someone out by email may work with all girls.

superbiatch · 22-03-2009, 13:40

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Originally Posted by Halcyon

I have mixed views on e-mailing. OK Yes it gets you communicating but this can often lead to a difference in things. By that I mean you can have flirty messages by e-mail but then a completly normal conversation in real life.
I know it can be a way to get to talkto her but I don't think asking someone out by email may work with all girls.

Without offending anyone, how old is this girl? Its just that girls of a certain age are used to communicating by facebook, email, text etc and it might just work.

Also, it could save any embarassment for you should she say no. I think you've gotta take the bull by the horns so to speak and ask this girl out sooner rather than later, as someone else might come along in the meantime. And there's nothing worse than having regrets

Halcyon · 22-03-2009, 14:06

She's 32.