Gay men and children

Originally Posted by greencreeper

Now that is a long time ago Coggy! Crumbs.

I'm backdated.

[Ramrod]

Originally Posted by greencreeper

That would depend on the parenting skills of the parent - if a kid has a sense of what's right and wrong, and is aware that not all adults are nice people like mum and dad, then they should be alright. When I say kid, I'm taking about someone in their mid-teens - 15/16. No way should, say, a 10 year old be left to use the Internet unsupervised or be allowed to use MSN/chat That's why I dislike nanny software - it's just a very poor substitute for decent parenting.

Good point but I feel that no matter how good your parenting, the child might still do something stupid. I certainly did....

[greencreeper]

Originally Posted by Ramrod

Good point but I feel that no matter how good your parenting, the child might still do something stupid. I certainly did....

You could say the same for adults but point taken. A guess if parents took an interest in what they were doing, that would help. Too many parents don't understand the box with the wires coming out the back and tend to use it as a reward and/or pacifier.

Originally Posted by greencreeper

Mac as in the plastic thing, and not the poor substitute for a proper PC

Well, i wouldnt let anyone talk to you if you dont like macs

kidding....

Originally Posted by Ramrod

Good point but I feel that no matter how good your parenting, the child might still do something stupid. I certainly did....

ummm.....will you be expanding on that or would you rather not?

Originally Posted by greencreeper

You could say the same for adults but point taken. A guess if parents took an interest in what they were doing, that would help. Too many parents don't understand the box with the wires coming out the back and tend to use it as a reward and/or pacifier.

The mistake is allowing the child access to the internet out of sight in a bedroom or study.Ours is in the combined living room/dining room.It's in full view of everyone.

[greencreeper]

Originally Posted by Incognitas

The mistake is allowing the child access to the internet out of sight in a bedroom or study.Ours is in the combined living room/dining room.It's in full view of everyone.

Yeah - good point Coggy

[MadGamer]

Originally Posted by Damien

I agree, i think that it would be a good idea for a parent to keep a careful eye on their childs net activitys. Not just because of 'dirty old men (or women)' but i would imagine that a parent would fear their child being exposed to certain themes to early in life.

Norton Internet Security for safety?

Good parenting and education, not just for the child, but for the parents who do not understand the internet would be far more effective than a computer program (which can be by-passed easily anyway). After all norton wont stop pervos or block all sites

The Issue is far more complex than blocking a few porn sites and stoping a few viruses

greencreeper can I have a word with you on messenger after this?

And back on-topic, I don't tell my parents anything, my life I do what I want + talk to who I want, I used to know some one at my school for 4 years who was gay and I didn't give a damn about it.

[Florence]

I understand why some children struggle to tell their parents that they are guy. It is the fear of rejection by the parent. Since becoming a mod on our forums I had the chance to meet ups with the other Mods. I felt out of place and was refusing to meet up in Manchester so they said they would come to my house if I didn't. I found out a few weeks before the meet that the oldest was 18yrs old and the youngest just 16yrs. At my age I felt awkward but what a great crowd we talked and interviewed an ISP MD before they caught their trainââ‚ƚ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢s home.

I have to say parents have to trust the children if they have been good parents the children will not disappoint them.

I have trusted my two children talking to people who are guy on MSN and know they are like me understanding of the gay community. We treat them no differently to our other online friends and I have often bee the listening ear for an upset gay person.

[Ramrod]

Originally Posted by Damien

ummm.....will you be expanding on that or would you rather not?

Too many things to mention

[greencreeper]

One important point is that gay men are just like straight men in terms of desire - this has already being touched upon. Just because I'm gay and I chat to a male, doesn't mean I want to bed them. In my case I prefer older men (at the very least in their mid-twenties) and, for example, I have a thing for tall men just like a straight man might have a thing for women with black hair and green eyes.

[TheBlueRaja]

Originally Posted by Kits

I understand why some children struggle to tell their parents that they are guy.

I didnt have to tell my parents i was guy - they always knew.

Oh - and as for the old guy / young kid thing - well - uneasy on that one i have to admit - but im 28 and speak to loads of young people on here, most of the time without even knowing it, but using MSN and developing a friendship is a little different IMO.

Saying that - your not that old at 27, but still... Oh i dunno - i suppose it depends what the context of the online relationship was...

It intreages me why you had to mention you were gay though - why not just that you felt uneasy speaking with a much younger person than you as opposed to mentioning that?

[greencreeper]

Originally Posted by theblueraja

I didnt have to tell my parents i was guy - they always knew.