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Originally Posted by Bifta
Why can you "be yourself" in a relationship but not now? How does being in a relationship make you worry less? Someone as obviously insecure as yourself, will probably worry more, "will she dump me?", "does she really find me attractive?", "is she sleeping with someone else?". Why does it have to be a "partner" you share things with, are you incapable of making and keeping good friends?
It seems like you're looking for a relationship to cure your depression, women are not attracted to people like that (I'm willing to stand corrected of course, not by you though, but by a woman), and yes, you're right, your "mental display" is certainly becoming most unimpressive (and not just to me)
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sorry kronie but, as i said earlier in this thread, i have to agree with bifta here. if it was as easy as getting a girlfriend to stop your depression, it sounds as though you could snap out of it any time you wanted... yes you may want a relationship but in a way that is a tad selfish, because, as bifta says you have a lot of emotional baggage that will eventually become to much for the women to handle.
kronie, a women will really not solve your problems, in fact you need to get to the root problem and begin to come out the other side before you even consider having a relationship. i am not being cruel or heartless... to some extent i am talking from experience...... it could actually set you back further if the relationship were to break down.
i really think that you should get out and make new friends before you consider getting into a relationship. for your sake and the women's. if you don't feel that you can make friends with people you know already, then think about joining a social club of some kind, of do an evening class or something.