kronas needs a woman ! - Page 8

bbwannabe · 14-08-2004, 18:51

the thing is people can only point you in the right direction. You have to be willing and brave enough to go where you wanna go. I'm roughly in the same situation, but i am older and am shy, and I know i have to take the first step to get anywhere.

kronas · 14-08-2004, 19:01

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Originally Posted by bbwannabe

the thing is people can only point you in the right direction. You have to be willing and brave enough to go where you wanna go. I'm roughly in the same situation, but i am older and am shy, and I know i have to take the first step to get anywhere.

i know that, confidence, ability, technique, are important, but even more so is being yourself. but its being confident to make the approach and what do, shyness, confidence are factors then.

Escapee · 14-08-2004, 19:01

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Originally Posted by kronas

i used to smile all the time.....i try and do it as much as possible, i suppose i have come to expect what you get from a woman in their late 30's but i dont discriminate, let alone becoming a toyboy

thats what i do, and i believe you

i have put my picture up on a few sites, i thought why not

its only the net

im not really desperate, i dont show it, its just that a couple of things run against me.

Sorry if my last point made it look like I was saying you were desperate, I didn't mean that at all. I was just highlighting from my personal experience and my divorced friends, women are like buses (in looks sometimes) there are none interested in you and then 2 or 3 seem to come alomg at the same time. I always find that if I walk into my local with a woman other women seem to notice me, if I go in on my own they dont notice me.

I guess women always want what another woman has. Escapee hides from the site females

kronas · 14-08-2004, 19:02

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Originally Posted by Escapee

I guess women always want what another woman has. Escapee hides from the site females

from what i know jealousy is common amongst women!

Escapee · 14-08-2004, 19:03

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Originally Posted by kronas

from what i know jealousy is common amongst women!

Not biting tonight ladies?

Ramrod · 14-08-2004, 19:17

With some reservations, could I ask you to look here kronas.....

Marge · 14-08-2004, 19:22

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Originally Posted by Escapee

Not biting tonight ladies?

No

**Maggy** · 14-08-2004, 19:42

One day kronas you will look back at photos of yourself and wonder what you were so worried about.Hopefully you will have teenager of your own who laugh at the clothes you wore in the first decade of a new century.

I didn't think I was going to meet anyone either.

kronas · 14-08-2004, 19:44

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Originally Posted by Incognitas

One day kronas you will look back at photos of yourself and wonder what you were so worried about.Hopefully you will have teenager of your own who laugh at the clothes you wore in the first decade of a new century.

I didn't think I was going to meet anyone either.

i can live in hope, its just im not used to having things happen to me in a positive light, so it gets frustrating! and lonely

Escapee · 14-08-2004, 20:00

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Originally Posted by kronas

i can live in hope, its just im not used to having things happen to me in a positive light, so it gets frustrating! and lonely

On a light hearted note:

I can see a thread in years to come by kronas entitled "kronas needs a woman like a hole in the head"

kronas · 14-08-2004, 20:03

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Originally Posted by Escapee

I can see a thread in years to come by kronas entitled "kronas needs a woman like a hole in the head"

if i ever do find someone i bet ill be requesting the hole in the head then

jtwn · 14-08-2004, 20:14

never ventured into this forum....how interesting it is!

kronas, by saying this i dont mean turn yourself into somebody you arent, but i doubt you are as ugly as you make out, im sure alot of people think this way.

Small things to boost your self-esteem like after ive been to the barbers, theres that small bit of extra confidence or if im wearing a particular t-shirt...i know it sounds very materialistic and a crap view that people judge you on looks first, but i just find that thats how our youth society ticks, i do try and keep in with small things like that, but am still a free spirit.

Maybe you can get a job? (sorry if you alread have...im clueless on people here :s) preferably where you'll be meeting people (what job doesnt?!) and im sure your confidence will grow with it.

I know you said that you wouldnt do weights, but since i have been doing it i find it uplifts my confidence. Not that the girls like a buff looking person, im not the person to flaunt my body in any way, and wouldnt, but it does rise your self-confidence.

but hey kronas, your hormones are still raging, what says that in a few years you wont be so complied to feel you have to have a girl...but then again you probably will be by then

I think most people fear rejection or feel they are not up to the job, heh theres no harm in trying? If somebody doesnt like you move on, its no loss to you, there are plenty more fish in the sea.

Good luck

kronas · 14-08-2004, 20:23

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Originally Posted by jtwn

kronas, by saying this i dont mean turn yourself into somebody you arent, but i doubt you are as ugly as you make out, im sure alot of people think this way.

i sincerely doubt that.

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Originally Posted by jtwn

Small things to boost your self-esteem like after ive been to the barbers, theres that small bit of extra confidence or if im wearing a particular t-shirt...i know it sounds very materialistic and a crap view that people judge you on looks first, but i just find that thats how our youth society ticks, i do try and keep in with small things like that, but am still a free spirit.

i was thinking about buying a particular shirt, *hint avatar *hint but its more or less the lack of confidence that allows me NOT to wear such a thing...

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Originally Posted by jtwn

Maybe you can get a job? (sorry if you alread have...im clueless on people here :s) preferably where you'll be meeting people (what job doesnt?!) and im sure your confidence will grow with it.

i had a job, but had to leave because of illness.

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Originally Posted by jtwn

I know you said that you wouldnt do weights, but since i have been doing it i find it uplifts my confidence. Not that the girls like a buff looking person, im not the person to flaunt my body in any way, and wouldnt, but it does rise your self-confidence.

i do need some muscle, but physically and dieterally its not possible right now.

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Originally Posted by jtwn

but hey kronas, your hormones are still raging, what says that in a few years you wont be so complied to feel you have to have a girl...but then again you probably will be by then

im not hormonal in that sense, as i said before you have needs, wants, expectations, you want to do things which you cant do with freinds, you want something special something diffarent, that something where you can share things moments....

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Originally Posted by jtwn

I think most people fear rejection or feel they are not up to the job, heh theres no harm in trying? If somebody doesnt like you move on, its no loss to you, there are plenty more fish in the sea.

Good luck

i dont fear rejection, i can handle that, its just the approach play, and being confident enough to go up to someone, start a conversation.... atleast i dont have a habit of saying the stupidest things....i hope

Escapee · 14-08-2004, 20:26

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Originally Posted by jtwn

never ventured into this forum....how interesting it is!

kronas, by saying this i dont mean turn yourself into somebody you arent, but i doubt you are as ugly as you make out, im sure alot of people think this way.

Small things to boost your self-esteem like after ive been to the barbers, theres that small bit of extra confidence or if im wearing a particular t-shirt...i know it sounds very materialistic and a crap view that people judge you on looks first, but i just find that thats how our youth society ticks, i do try and keep in with small things like that, but am still a free spirit.

Maybe you can get a job? (sorry if you alread have...im clueless on people here :s) preferably where you'll be meeting people (what job doesnt?!) and im sure your confidence will grow with it.

I know you said that you wouldnt do weights, but since i have been doing it i find it uplifts my confidence. Not that the girls like a buff looking person, im not the person to flaunt my body in any way, and wouldnt, but it does rise your self-confidence.

but hey kronas, your hormones are still raging, what says that in a few years you wont be so complied to feel you have to have a girl...but then again you probably will be by then

I think most people fear rejection or feel they are not up to the job, heh theres no harm in trying? If somebody doesnt like you move on, its no loss to you, there are plenty more fish in the sea.

Good luck

Some good points, some women like materialistic things. I bumped into an ex-girlfriend recently who as it happens dumped me, some will probably remember me being a bit down about it. When I bumped into her a few weeks ago she kept feeling my shirt, it was a very nice looking one with an embroided label but that does impress some people. I am not suggesting you kronas are a scruffy sod, (dont take offence) but some women are impressed by things like clothes so possibly its a good point.

I also dont like the rejection, and its worse in front of your mates. I have a friend who always makes me go and chat to the women, I'm sure he likes to see me rejected as he has a good laugh when it happens. The real funny thing is when I have left him on his own for 15 minutes and I'm having a good time, he comes over then to get in on the action.

Perhaps its better to try chatting to women out of the way of your mates if you are on a night out, I know it used to worry me when I was younger being rejected in front of them. These days I dont care less, if they act all stuck up I just draw to their attention the lack of guys queing to talk to them

It's hard enough plucking up the courage to approach them, but to get an off attitude from them dents anyones confidence. I have often talked to women who have approached me, even if I haven't fancied them, its just common courtesy IMO.

kronas · 14-08-2004, 20:41

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Originally Posted by Escapee

I am not suggesting you kronas are a scruffy sod, (dont take offence) but some women are impressed by things like clothes so possibly its a good point.

yes i know they are attracted, possibly to do with the way a person is built, im incredibly skinny, i dress smart all the time, shirts, jeans....

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Originally Posted by Escapee

I also dont like the rejection, and its worse in front of your mates. I have a friend who always makes me go and chat to the women, I'm sure he likes to see me rejected as he has a good laugh when it happens. The real funny thing is when I have left him on his own for 15 minutes and I'm having a good time, he comes over then to get in on the action.

we were typing about women getting jealous

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Originally Posted by Escapee

Perhaps its better to try chatting to women out of the way of your mates if you are on a night out, I know it used to worry me when I was younger being rejected in front of them. These days I dont care less, if they act all stuck up I just draw to their attention the lack of guys queing to talk to them

its not the fact that being rejected infront of someone is a balancing act, its just the fear of the reaction by the person being approached, what to say, what to do, what if they have a boyfreind ? waiting for somebody ?

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Originally Posted by Escapee

It's hard enough plucking up the courage to approach them, but to get an off attitude from them dents anyones confidence. I have often talked to women who have approached me, even if I haven't fancied them, its just common courtesy IMO.

true, very true.