kronas needs a woman ! - Page 7

kronas · 15-05-2004, 18:50

im not saying personailty is not an issue because it is, but for people in my age bracket it tends to be about looks, im not saying it is the same for everyone, but from what i have seen, and read about diffarent people it seems to be the case, i cant change me to be someone else, im not rude, im not fat and i certainly cannot change myself, i know i need to be more outgoing, and need to demolish the shy quiet person i am, and regain the confidence i once had, because that brought out the best in me.......

Stuart · 15-05-2004, 19:05

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Originally Posted by kronas

im not saying personailty is not an issue because it is, but for people in my age bracket it tends to be about looks, im not saying it is the same for everyone, but from what i have seen, and read about diffarent people it seems to be the case, i cant change me to be someone else, im not rude, im not fat and i certainly cannot change myself, i know i need to be more outgoing, and need to demolish the shy quiet person i am, and regain the confidence i once had, because that brought out the best in me.......

Kronas, this guy is in his early 20's, and the girls he attracts range from 18 to about 23. The girls seem to be attracted to HIM, not his looks. Another thing I have noticed about him is he does not appear to care what people think of him (he does actually care, but you don't see it until you really get to know him).

kronas · 15-05-2004, 19:10

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Originally Posted by scastle

Kronas, this guy is in his early 20's, and the girls he attracts range from 18 to about 23. The girls seem to be attracted to HIM, not his looks. Another thing I have noticed about him is he does not appear to care what people think of him (he does actually care, but you don't see it until you really get to know him).

must be his vulgarity then

, as i said what my view is that i stated in my previous post does not apply to all but alot of people..........

Marge · 15-05-2004, 20:08

Come on now girls, who can resist this gorgeous ickle cutie

kronas · 15-05-2004, 20:09

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Originally Posted by Debsy42

Come on now girls, who can resist this gorgeous ickle cutie

you got my pm then

Chimaera · 16-05-2004, 11:09

Well, Kronas, I showed it to a certain person - and she was not impressed!
Anything a bit more up to date?

kronas · 16-05-2004, 13:39

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Originally Posted by Chimaera

Well, Kronas, I showed it to a certain person - and she was not impressed!
Anything a bit more up to date?

your lieing!!!!!!!!

and you know i dont like photos being taken of me

kronas · 14-08-2004, 01:12

bah, i have given up, i saw one site which 'claimed' to be free and ended up demanding money before i could contact people, the bad thing is i found some absolute ideal personailtys, many with potential!

greencreeper · 14-08-2004, 03:58

I only know only of gay dating sites - not much use to you

Remember that if you go looking for something, at best you'll only find what you're looking for.

Be careful of the online world - the place is knee deep in people with issues and problems. My MSN contact bares testimony to this

I am constantly fending off dirty old men on my other community (OUTintheuk). Plus I have a few stalker trolls (rare hybrid - thankfully).

Good luck and don't put yourself down.

**Maggy** · 14-08-2004, 09:11

kronas I think it's a case of you will have to go OUT and find them.They will not come knocking at your door.

However you need to sort out your issues of self esteem first.Until you have confidence in yourself you will have problems.scastle is right it's about the aura you put out,not looks and that comes from accepting who you are yourself.Once you stop worrying about what people think is the moment you can begin to show people who the real kronas is like.

Besides you are only 18,you have PLENTY of time.

I was a late starter myself(too busy studying,too shy,too concerned with the fact I wore glasses and wasn't like Twiggy).When I look at my photos of my 16-18 year old self I'm amazed I thought I was ugly.So it is about building your self-confidence up.Once you have that you can conquer anything.

Incog.

clupet · 14-08-2004, 14:43

Hi kronas, i dont know you and am new to this forum so i hope you dont mind my advice. I am not the most confident person either but there usually is somewhere you are more confident. Say for saying sake you know everything there is to know about web site design, going to a web site design class you will be more confident, more comfortable talking to people and possibly meet someone with the same interests as yourself which at the end of the day are for more important than looks. You also do not need to go with anyone to a class and the majority of people will be there alone. From something like that you often hear about other like minded activity things. I did meet my partner online but that was a total fluke and I was very lucky that our paths crossed. best wishes

Escapee · 14-08-2004, 15:53

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Originally Posted by kronas

well lets see........for alot of people my age its about looks being at the forefront of a attraction........

ill try but im a realist

i just want to meet someone funny vibrant 'alert' etc for a good laugh/chat and if things go smoothly then who knows, people can become good freinds not necessarily in to a deep relationship but i seek the latter

It's true, I think the majority look at the outside only. You have to be positive and "smile" a lot, I have met women in clubs and they have been very nice people as not all of them are just looking for a quick one night stand. On the other hand I have looked at dating sites and in my age bracket mid-late thirties it seems to be full of divorced women with half a dozen kids that think guys are all nasty ****! It made me wonder why they were on there looking for another one.

One of my pet hates, is when a woman looks and you both smile at one another across a crowded bar, she has to look around to her friends to get their approval. Very often her miserable jealous friend pulls a face because her attitude means she never gets any guys herself. I often go out with my mates and I guess most of them could be described as better looking than myself, but I am usually the one to attract the nice women because I am polite and smile. (I know some will find that hard to believe)

Dating sites are not the answer if you think you are not attractive, you will not get very far without posting your photo and if you do start chatting they will want to see what you look like pretty quickly. having said that, I exchanged emails with a lady for a while and I never asked for her photo.
My photo was posted so she knew what I looked like, she asked me why I hadn't asked to see a photo and I told her I was waiting for her to show me one, when she did email me a photo I was very suprised and even more suprised when I met her face to face.

I think dating sites can be more dodgy than meeting in a bar, honest guys are up against the bulls*****ers who will say anything and make their profile look great, just to get their leg over without the wife knowning.
I have looked at datingdirect (Fairly good) Loopylove and udate, I even had a look at adultfriendfinder but wouldn't advise it for prudes!

Best of luck Kronas, the only real advice I can give and it will probably sound unhelpfull is "Women can always spot a desperate bloke, they can smell the desperation aftershave a mile off. I usually get chatted up by women when I am not looking myself, if you go out with the attitude that you are looking for a woman tonight, you will not find one or at least end up with something very unsuitable"

paulyoung666 · 14-08-2004, 17:20

it will happen when it happens , try and force the issue and you could end up with more problems than you bargained for

kronas · 14-08-2004, 18:43

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Originally Posted by Incognitas

kronas I think it's a case of you will have to go OUT and find them.They will not come knocking at your door.

i have been out, but there only so many places you can go though, i suppose im just not used to relating to people who are strangers, making the relative moves i am a VERY shy person.

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Originally Posted by Incognitas

However you need to sort out your issues of self esteem first.Until you have confidence in yourself you will have problems.scastle is right it's about the aura you put out,not looks and that comes from accepting who you are yourself.Once you stop worrying about what people think is the moment you can begin to show people who the real kronas is like.

i have always had self-esteem issues, but my personality and chraricter has carried me over. but when your down on yourself about alot of things it can knock you off balance on what you want to do, achieve, faliure comes naturla so then things start to fall apart, it shows in your facial as well as verbal expressions.

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Originally Posted by Incognitas

Besides you are only 18,you have PLENTY of time.

yes, but i have expectations, wants, needs, in order to achieve them and gain the stability of being with someone its diffarent....

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Originally Posted by Incognitas

I was a late starter myself(too busy studying,too shy,too concerned with the fact I wore glasses and wasn't like Twiggy).When I look at my photos of my 16-18 year old self I'm amazed I thought I was ugly.So it is about building your self-confidence up.Once you have that you can conquer anything.

Incog.

the thing is i do wear glasses, and i AM ugly.....

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Originally Posted by greencreeper

I only know only of gay dating sites - not much use to you

unless im on the 'turn'

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Originally Posted by greencreeper

Remember that if you go looking for something, at best you'll only find what you're looking for.

true.

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Originally Posted by greencreeper

Be careful of the online world - the place is knee deep in people with issues and problems. My MSN contact bares testimony to this

I am constantly fending off dirty old men on my other community (OUTintheuk). Plus I have a few stalker trolls (rare hybrid - thankfully).

Good luck and don't put yourself down.

yes i know what you mean safety is a priority, giving too many details away is a no no, im well aware of that thank you though.

kronas · 14-08-2004, 18:49

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Originally Posted by Escapee

It's true, I think the majority look at the outside only. You have to be positive and "smile" a lot, I have met women in clubs and they have been very nice people as not all of them are just looking for a quick one night stand. On the other hand I have looked at dating sites and in my age bracket mid-late thirties it seems to be full of divorced women with half a dozen kids that think guys are all nasty ****! It made me wonder why they were on there looking for another one.

i used to smile all the time.....i try and do it as much as possible, i suppose i have come to expect what you get from a woman in their late 30's but i dont discriminate, let alone becoming a toyboy

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Originally Posted by Escapee

I often go out with my mates and I guess most of them could be described as better looking than myself, but I am usually the one to attract the nice women because I am polite and smile. (I know some will find that hard to believe)

thats what i do, and i believe you

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Originally Posted by Escapee

Dating sites are not the answer if you think you are not attractive, you will not get very far without posting your photo and if you do start chatting they will want to see what you look like pretty quickly.

i have put my picture up on a few sites, i thought why not

its only the net

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Originally Posted by Escapee

Best of luck Kronas, the only real advice I can give and it will probably sound unhelpfull is "Women can always spot a desperate bloke, they can smell the desperation aftershave a mile off. I usually get chatted up by women when I am not looking myself, if you go out with the attitude that you are looking for a woman tonight, you will not find one or at least end up with something very unsuitable"

im not really desperate, i dont show it, its just that a couple of things run against me.