[merged] what to do (etc .....)
21-12-2003, 22:33
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Re: what to do ?
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Originally Posted by kronas
first of all i would like to say a big thank you to everyone who has commented on my problem and the advice you have given its shown me that people on here are caring.........
and also a big thanks to those who have sent me pm's and messages on MSN unfortunately i have no credit on my phone so i cant ring anyone at the moment im not a talkative mood anyway
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Nice to know we are appreciated.. 
Seriously, I think there are a lot of people on here who care about you Kronie.. You are a good person to be on the forum.
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i understand that i need to talk to someone and i have thought about the suggestions such as the samaritans etc but im a little uneasy at doing such things as im not a person who likes to open up infront of people i simply dont know it goes the same for people i know im just shy and dont want to impose on people i know some are there to help but its been slightly embarssing for me even to type on here
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You have taken the first step by admitting you are having problems on here. I can understand you feeling embarassed about talking about something so personal, but, remember that the samaritans are totally anonymous, so no one will know who you are, and they may be able to help.
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21-12-2003, 22:37
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Re: what to do ?
Hi Kronas sorry that you have some probs  you know we all get them from time to time,and it does help to talk,I have missed your posting I am new to this site but you can even PM me if it will help
Most things can be worked out you just need to trust someone,its dark at the bottom but they is a light at the top,you need someone to hold the rope so you can climb out,trust me on that I have been they and its ****
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21-12-2003, 22:40
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Re: what to do ?
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Originally Posted by luftys
Hi Kronas sorry that you have some probs you know we all get them from time to time,and it does help to talk,I have missed your posting I am new to this site but you can even PM me if it will help
Most things can be worked out you just need to trust someone,its dark at the bottom but they is a light at the top,you need someone to hold the rope so you can climb out,trust me on that I have been they and its **** |
very poetic lufty....and wonderful of you to offer your support......  and yes we have all hit rock bottom, but there is always someone around to help you out.....
one thing that has struck me from reading these posts on this thread is the real sense of community that this site has, one of our members, and a much loved member, is having problems and everyone has come out in force to help him...i think it is wonderful 
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22-12-2003, 09:55
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Re: what to do ?
Kronas,
We haven't always seen eye to eye on everything (Kate Bush still better LOL), however I strongly suggest you talk to someone, either from here, samaritans, or a new GP. You have people on here who do care, myself included, please continue to talk to us.
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22-12-2003, 13:48
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Re: what to do ?
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Originally Posted by kronas
when you feel down and out have nothing to live for and might as well 'top yourself' ?
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I have felt that way a few times, especially over the last 2 weeks.
I find that revenge always occupies me and makes me feel better!
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22-12-2003, 14:30
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Re: what to do ?
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Originally Posted by kronas
.........being an underachiever due to ones health ruining the chance, not being able to get a job because no one is willing to take you on, being accused of lieing about your health threatened about being locked up because your starving yourself on purpose which is false, having 0 prospects in life absolutely nothing to live for........
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Hey !! What's wrong with being an 'underachiever' ??  Just join the other 90% of us who feel the same !! Except in my case I am an underachiever !
Several years ago my wife divorced me and as I don't get along with my own family and all the friends we had were hers, I found myself totally alone in the world. I felt I didn't have much to live for.....but I thought "Why should I give up without a fight and let them 'win'. No way JosÃÃâ€*’© !!"
What did I do ?? First off, a good cry, put on my favourite sloppy record and get into a really self pitying, sad mood and let it all out !! Sounds weird doesn't it ? But you know when the music stops and you come around the only way is up. I took myself to the pub or my local club and hung around until someone I 'sort of knew' turned up. Took a few weeks but I soon found someone to talk to and they knew other people and so it went on. Pretty soon I was going out with a whole new bunch of folks having a great time and eventually found myself a new partner !
I'm still an underachiever, living in one of the most affluent areas in the country (South Manchester) seeing all the millionaires in their Porsche Cayennes and mega mansions is hard, especially when I can't really afford everything my kids want, but hey we all do our best and I know they love me for all that.
To see my little 8 year old look up from her bed, give me a big hug and whisper "Love you dad" is the best feeling in the world ! If you carry on the way you are talking you may never get that and that would be criminal !
Talk to people by all means, but the real solution is to get out and make a new life. I don't know your circumstances, but write down all the places you could perhaps go to meet new people..pub, social club, sports club or even join somewhere like that...maybe others here can make suggestions, maybe some here local to you and of your age group could meet up ??
I think you may be an Avril Lavigne fan ?? :p :p Surely there are fan sites with message boards where you can chat and arrange to meet a group of like minded people ?? The possibilities are only bounded by your imagination.  Get up and go for it ! 
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22-12-2003, 15:52
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Re: what to do ?
Admin Edit: Inappropriate Post Removed-Please do not post like this again.
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22-12-2003, 15:55
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Re: what to do ?
wtf is going on now  , not sure i like it though 
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22-12-2003, 16:12
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Re: what to do ?
Can't see that being of any help, just makes you look like a ******.
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22-12-2003, 16:15
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Re: what to do ?
Surely what Kronas needs is support through this, not people just attacking and having a go. There may be things that he needs to face as an individual, but a post like that can just push people over the edge .... bad taste
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22-12-2003, 16:20
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Re: what to do ?
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Originally Posted by paulyoung666
wtf is going on now , not sure i like it though |
dunno - it does sound like 'Bug Infestation' knows 'Kronas' quite well & sometimes a 'kick up the bum' can work in cases of low self esteem? 
I wouldn't be happy if there was any malicious intent, though. , but for now will give the benefit of the doubt this was a well meant attempt to 'snap him out of it'?
Gaz
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22-12-2003, 16:20
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Re: what to do ?
Although making people face up to their problems (and causes) is one way to stop a suicide, Bug Infestation, could you not have done it in PM? Was there a reason to air kronas' personal problems in public? I know he did, but that is his choice to make. It is not yours.
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22-12-2003, 16:23
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Re: what to do ?
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Originally Posted by Bug Infestation
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Well intercepted, DP
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22-12-2003, 16:24
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Re: what to do ?
Personally I think he was on the right track, tea and sympathy are all very well but they won't solve anything.
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22-12-2003, 16:27
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Re: what to do ?
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Originally Posted by Bifta
Personally I think he was on the right track, tea and sympathy are all very well but they won't solve anything.
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Maybe he was.
I still think he should have done it in PM rather than on the forum though.
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