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Salu · 27-07-2005, 09:40

I would go along with the cautious view expressed here. You don't know what her motivations are.

Vice-versa this would be easily termed as sexual harassment, I think it's worth terming it as that.

I would let your manager and other confidents know that she is "sexually harassing" you so that they are made aware and maybe even see it happening for themselves. I would give it a week or so and then rebut her. Tell her not to harass you and use the above term. If she then tries to turn the situation around and indicate that you are harassing her, you will have the backup of other's testimonies. Because the reality is that it is more believable that men harass women, isn't it?

27-07-2005, 11:28

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Originally Posted by zoombini

Get a photo of some big fat black bird & put it on your desk... :-)

That Devine (ala Hugh Grant fame) would be a good candidate...

Escapee · 28-07-2005, 20:49

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Originally Posted by zoombini

Get a photo of some big fat black bird & put it on your desk... :-)

Good idea, but I have already done one better than that!

I found a braided hair extension in my car a couple of weeks ago from a friend (non-sexual) I hung this on th shelf at my desk, it is a fair guess that it has come from a black woman!

All she said was "where did you get that from" and giggled.

I have had one of the guys over the other side of the office being a bit offish with me for the past week or so, I thought I was imagining it first but now I have found out that he's been after her.

Theres even a rumour going around that I have been in the disabled toilet with her!

My director made a comment to me today and said "jammy sod", at least its widely known that she has thrown herself at me. I went into the kitchen today an one of the directors PA's was bent over in the fridge, she said "I'll have to watch myself with you" I said "your OK, I never touch women in work" she said "Oh, I thought you were doing Rachel"

Her exact words, and so elegently put.

Jules · 28-07-2005, 21:41

I am off to have a look for a picture of Escapee cause he must have some thing to have all these women after him

**Maggy** · 28-07-2005, 21:54

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Originally Posted by whyme38

I am off to have a look for a picture of Escapee cause he must have some thing to have all these women after him

Well he doesn't appear to be here.

http://www.cableforum.co.uk/board/sh...mbers+pictures

Jules · 28-07-2005, 21:56

I had a root round and his pic doesn't seem to be on the forum

Escapee · 29-07-2005, 17:40

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Originally Posted by whyme38

I had a root round and his pic doesn't seem to be on the forum

I can assure you its not a pretty sight, I wouldn't want to subject anyone to viewing it. I would never say I am a handsome guy by any stretch of the imagination, I am however (surprise to some) a fairly good person to talk to. I find that women enjoy chatting and flirting as long as theres no groping or disgusting remarks,

I usually leave them to start that sort of thing!

Jules · 29-07-2005, 17:42

You can't be that bad as the ladies seem to like you and the new girl must have gone on looks alone as she hadn't been there long enough to be after you for your personality

Escapee · 29-07-2005, 18:44

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Originally Posted by whyme38

You can't be that bad as the ladies seem to like you and the new girl must have gone on looks along as she hadn't been there long enough to be after you for your personality

Perhaps she just fancies a bit of rough....lol

Jules · 29-07-2005, 18:48

Rofl you are Bad

TheBlueRaja · 29-07-2005, 18:51

Lucky bar steward....

Halcyon · 30-07-2005, 14:20

I wish I could work where you work. She seems pretty cool.
However, maybe she could be just playing a little game, to feel good about herself. Some girls I have known, seem to love getting attention and making men feel embaressed and wrapping them round their little finger.

At the moment what I would do in your case is ignore it and see how long she continues before she finally takes a hint that you are not willing to go down that route.
Unless she continues, then you would have to set her straight and tell her where she stands, but for the moment just see how it pans out and she'l probably eventually get bored. (Unless she is really really obsessed with you).
Good luck.

Angua · 31-07-2005, 15:25

Obession can turn into a nasty problem as they have found out where my hubby works.
One girl tried to frame someone so they got sacked because she was friendly with a (happily married) guy she fancied. Fortunately they have found another means of getting rid of her (she was sending blatant text messages to him to such a degree it was harrassment).