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Kronie, Talk to someone either a member of the family, a friend or your doctor, if u are feeling this down u really need to talk to someone in your home area. If u keep it to yourself it will only get worst Good luck mate

[Stuart]

Originally Posted by kronas

when you feel down and out have nothing to live for and might as well 'top yourself' ?

Kronas, I have been in that situation. I think I told you some time ago about it (either you or kink, can't remember which). One thing I did realise is that if I had talked to someone about the problem, I would not have been in that situation.

Badly timed jokes (you know what I am referring to) apart, as with the others, PM/Messenger me and we can talk..

Edit: And remember, if you let the b*st*rds get you down, they are winning..

Kronie, lots of us have been there, thought that life was a load of crap & have probably felt like ending it all at some point or another, but that is not the answer. The answer is to talk to people & let them help u through your problems.

PLEASE talk to someone

[Florence]

I have to say Kronas it will not seem such a big problem when you talk things over with friends. Nothing is as important as a life and should never be given up easily.

Everyone that has ever felt so low will tell you its best to talk and we are worried for you now Kronas. Please let us help and talk to one of us.

[kronas]

first of all im sorry for not replying sooner, i have been trying to keep myself busy i have been around freinds and family and they knew something was wrong straightaway, as my mood was not the same........

i am also sorry to those who have had to put up with this on the forum, especially the freinds i have on here and the mod team, i know this is not a 'support' forum for this but i really cant talk to anyone that i know as in close freinds and my family, if you all understand, i am afraid they may laugh at me

i was very nearly ready to stab myself last night, i had the urge to do it i was going to leave my room and do it but my conscience stopped me, i made a vow along time ago to never kill my ownself, i even thought about what it would do to my freinds especially my family if i did it........

im not going to go in to it too much, as i said i dont think this is the right place and im sure many would rather discuss more important issues, as to what the forum is here for

but one thing i will say a person can only take so many knocks in life, being an underachiever due to ones health ruining the chance, not being able to get a job because no one is willing to take you on, being accused of lieing about your health threatened about being locked up because your starving yourself on purpose which is false, having 0 prospects in life absolutely nothing to live for

i feel trapped i feel i need to getaway do something but i dont know.......

i know this post may look like im selfcentered, and i only think about myself but im not, if i did not care about my family freinds i would have killed myself by now, all i want to do is get some stabilty in my life, thats one thing i have never got, sure i made freinds but im talking about going out there and doing something for myself get a job, start earning helping my family with the bills, giving money to the poor, doing good deeds for people who deserve it

i dont ask for much i just ask for peace not just for me but for everyone

[Nor]

There is nothing self centered about posting this stuff here mate. It takes alot of guts to do it and you must be hurting to actually type it here. Whatever anyone has said in the past on these forums about daft arguments is just not important. Whats important is you are okay.

The last thing you probably want is advice, but I'll try and give you some. People telling you to just pull yourself together and snap out of it are the worst bits of advice anyone could give.

Has it got worse over the last few months ? Loads of people suffer from SAD (seasonal affective disorder) and it really has the capacity to get you down in the winter, especially if you spend alot of time indoors and have a tendancy to sleep late and go to bed late.

You might think this is stupid but whenever we feel down its not just to do with whats happening in our lives but to do with the chemicals in our brain. If you are feeling down its important to do what you can to get the chemicals which make you happy into your brain. Best way to do it is to get exercise and also, if you've definately found it worse over winter, see if you can get a SAD lamp. They blast you with high intensity light which helps give you what you need to get a balance. Avoid alcohol, caffine, chocolate, try and not sleep to much. Cos its always hard to fall asleep but easy to sleep late the next day.

There is no shame in popping to the doctors. Everyone goes through things like this at some point and the smart ones visit the doctor.

[kronas]

i dont think i have SAD its happend before once i quicky snapped out of it but its been a tough few months trying to keep a straight face aswell as attitude being happy but when you really try and try to do somethings and consistantly fail or not achieve what you hoped for it gets me down

[Bifta]

As someone suggested, go and see a/your doctor and get professional advice.

[kronas]

Originally Posted by Bifta

As someone suggested, go and see a/your doctor and get professional advice.

due to the previous histroy i have with doctors im not going to do that

[carlingman]

Good to see youââ‚Âà ‚¬ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¾Ã‚¢re still about Kronas.

You have got the right idea being around family and friends when you are feeling low.

If your feeling that low and your friends and family may laugh at you then to me they are not true friends and family else they would have offered support and comfort.

Myself I am not going to pretend to know a lot about yourself or your circumstances but always try and remember the positives.

Obviously you live in a reasonable environment and have as you said your own room and you have access to a PC to be able to post here, trust me there are people in far worse situations.

To me from reading your threads you post in here in general for a 17 year old (if the age is right in your profile) you seem to have a very balanced and mature way of thinking for someone of your age and will achieve success and your goals ultimately.

Try and ignore the people that slate you and put you down and concentrate on achieving your goals and focus on the satisfaction and sense of achievement you will get when someone gives that job or career you want.

Your post does not sound self centered at all but more of a cry for help which many have given here but do seek out some professional help via your GP or similar.

Again I make no attempt to imagine what you must be feeling and going through but from a personal perspective once felt in the same frame of mind after losing my mother when i was a teenager and then having to care and nurse my father through a deteriorating terminal illness and then endure 3 miscarriages with my girlfriend.

As I said earlier look for the positives as I have done, I am now successful in my career along with partner, we now own our house and we are confident we will soon become parents.

I have been kicked so many times when I am down but have got up and battle on and you need to do the same as from my own experiences I can state that things do get better.

As I have I done, draw from the experiences of others and you will get to where you want to be in the end.

To reiterate what others and what I have said though, you need to seek some professional help and guidance.

[Bifta]

Originally Posted by kronas

due to the previous histroy i have with doctors im not going to do that

Yes that's sensible, avoid seeing the one person that might help ...

[Florence]

Originally Posted by kronas

i dont think i have SAD its happend before once i quicky snapped out of it but its been a tough few months trying to keep a straight face aswell as attitude being happy but when you really try and try to do somethings and consistantly fail or not achieve what you hoped for it gets me down

Kronas to help you achieve try lowering your targets so each day you only have a low target to achieve this will help you as you then reach your target. We use these methods in education to help the low achievers it does work.

If you need to talk and can't talk to family or real life friends there are professional people you can talk to trained councilors who talk to you in confidence and cannot pass whatâ₠¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢s said to anyone else with out your consent.

Someone on here can listen to you and some times that helps also try working in the community as a volunteer for a while this helps you to move on into paid work I know its not the same as being paid but its a step into working, like a lower target to reach. If you like music perhaps if you try a local hospital and see if they have a hospital radio where you can spend some hours entertaining patients.

Sit and write down things you like to do and see if any fall into areas where volunteers are accepted keep dates started as when you apply for work volunteer work is accepted as work experience.

Good Luck Kronas you have many friends here who are willing to help in any way you will allow them. Take care and good luck.

[Sociable]

Check your PM's Kronas and give me a call anytime OK.

[danielf]

Kronas, I agree you need professional help. Someone you can talk to without being afraid they will laugh at you. The state you are in is not a good state to be in for a long time. I understand from another thread that Sociable deals with people that have gone through a rough patch professionally. Give him a call will you?

Sociable & Danielf are right,. U need to talk to someone & soon. If u donââ‚Âà ‚¬ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¾Ã‚¢t think u can go u your doctor, is there another adult u can talk to like a member of your family (maybe not your parents, another family member) or a close friend.?? Sociable can & will help u so please RING HIM