A simple question about love, poetry and leaving home - Page 4

fireman328 · 15-08-2005, 12:29

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Originally Posted by budwieser

Maybe a Pearl Necklace or something.

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"hmm... i could giver her a picture of my erec" Who is Eric??????????

I am confused about the necklace is she called Pearl ? Who is Erec ?

zovat · 15-08-2005, 12:42

I'm with the majority here,

She has already stated she sees you as a friend, but has no romantic intentions, so buy her a nice little something (note LITTLE - don't go overboard, or she'll just stick it in a drawer and think she's well shot of that "stalker" she thought was a friend) and allow you both to move on with the least amount of awkwardness and embarrasment.

The last thing you want is her last memory of you being one of a bloke who just wouldn't take no for an answer.

**Chris** · 15-08-2005, 12:49

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Originally Posted by kronas

ok so a leaving present then ?

apologies for the spelling, can a mod correct it in the poll ?

Poll tidied up. I've also made the thread title a little clearer.

And for the record - let it go! You will make her feel awkward and risk pouring the memory of your last night out together. Sadly life is not like a Hollywood rom com. Your poetry will not make her suddenly change her feelings for you.

Raistlin · 15-08-2005, 13:16

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Originally Posted by Chris T

Your poetry will not make her suddenly change her feelings for you.

I wouldn't be so sure

**Chris** · 15-08-2005, 13:21

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Originally Posted by Raistlin

I wouldn't be so sure

Well - not in the way he is hoping for, at any rate.

15-08-2005, 17:56

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Originally Posted by Incognitas

kronas has already declared himself and his feelings to this girl..she said she wasn't interested.In fact I think it was the 'let's just be friends scenario'.

On the grounds of this ive voted leave it,I aint been here that long do not know the histories

Seti · 16-08-2005, 00:00

Leave it Kronie,

Seriously.

Although you may feel as if your heart is being torn out she does not feel the same and she will have memories of you to live on with. Just as you do.

Sian

kronas · 16-08-2005, 21:26

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Originally Posted by Incognitas

kronas has already declared himself and his feelings to this girl..she said she wasn't interested.In fact I think it was the 'let's just be friends scenario'.

i think ive already done enough damage anyway might just scrap any idea get her drunk and.... no wait im a gentlemen lol

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Originally Posted by Marge

oi

Kronas, I'm with Ellie on this one, if she wanted any kind of relationship with you then it would have happened by now. She has memories of you and that can be better than any present which could be convienently shoved in a drawer or put on a car boot sale. Cherish the time you've had with her, wish her all the best and put this all behind you, chin up and Miss Right will be along sometime soon for you.

im thinking rollocks to that, ill proberbly never meet anyone, i just dont seem to attract women, i dont try most of the time, i just let things happen, but i tried this time and over did it at many times i think, not out of desperation, but i have been thinking constantly about what its like to love and be loved and i seem to be at my happiest when i can truely love someone for being them, not just on a physical scale but emotionally too.

im missing out on a lot of things in life and i feel empty.

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Originally Posted by zinglebarb

get her drunk while you stay cunningly sober

then poor your soul out ,if she likes it then wayhey if not you can say you were both drunk and just rambling

well i dont drink so thats a good idea, i thought about just doing the rambling while shes drunk, but i would be too tempted to just kiss her on the lips

**Chris** · 17-08-2005, 09:43

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Originally Posted by kronas

im thinking rollocks to that, ill proberbly never meet anyone, i just dont seem to attract women, i dont try most of the time, i just let things happen, but i tried this time and over did it at many times i think, not out of desperation, but i have been thinking constantly about what its like to love and be loved and i seem to be at my happiest when i can truely love someone for being them, not just on a physical scale but emotionally too.

im missing out on a lot of things in life and i feel empty.

For goodness sake kronas matey you're only 19! I didn't even meet Mrs T until I was 24 and when we got married I was 26 and that's relatively young for a man in the UK these days. When I was 19 I had never even had a proper girlfriend. And that's not because I'm a religious nutter, believe me I tried, it just didn't seem to happen.

You need to stop trying to force the issue. As you have already realised, over-doing it does more harm than good. Just try to enjoy life. Concentrate on being the best person you can possibly be, be a good and loyal friend to all your acquaintances. One day, you will find a partner who will truly, equally, and without any forcing on your part, do for you what you would do for her. Believe me, that is the only kind of relationship you want to be in, and you can't force it to happen.

kronas · 06-09-2005, 20:35

well i have deicded not to do anything, this person has become to distant for me (i can see why) so if that person doesent care why should you ?

problem is today its her birthday and im trying to block my emotions out, but i guess im human after all, i care too much

ellie · 06-09-2005, 20:54

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Originally Posted by kronas

well i have deicded not to do anything, this person has become to distant for me (i can see why) so if that person doesent care why should you ?

problem is today its her birthday and im trying to block my emotions out, but i guess im human after all, i care too much

Have a hug

me283 · 06-09-2005, 20:56

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Originally Posted by kronas

well i have deicded not to do anything, this person has become to distant for me (i can see why) so if that person doesent care why should you ?

problem is today its her birthday and im trying to block my emotions out, but i guess im human after all, i care too much

Only just read this thread, so sorry if I'm too late.

FWIW, my thoughts are that you're trying too hard. It's said that a watched kettle never boils, you can never find the thing you seek hardest, and you never know what you're looking for till you find it. This girl may seem wonderful to you now, but that is because you so desperately want to be in love. But going out and looking for it is the worst thing you can do. Love is out there... if you just go about your life, it will come and find you.

Stick with it, don't think about the girl, and concentrate on making sure that every day you do something to feel good about. And KEEP SMILING!! You may not always feel happy, but you will keep everyone guessing!

kronas · 06-09-2005, 22:45

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Originally Posted by me283

Only just read this thread, so sorry if I'm too late.

FWIW, my thoughts are that you're trying too hard. It's said that a watched kettle never boils, you can never find the thing you seek hardest, and you never know what you're looking for till you find it. This girl may seem wonderful to you now, but that is because you so desperately want to be in love. But going out and looking for it is the worst thing you can do. Love is out there... if you just go about your life, it will come and find you.

Stick with it, don't think about the girl, and concentrate on making sure that every day you do something to feel good about. And KEEP SMILING!! You may not always feel happy, but you will keep everyone guessing!

its hard not to, you just see all these people who are pretty much comfortable with life, enjoying, i was speaking to one of my mates he was telling me about a guy who had a girlfreind, was suitably happy, but admits to playing the field, no i dont find that to be right at all, but such is the life these days that people lead.

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Originally Posted by Ellie

Have a hug

danke

me283 · 06-09-2005, 23:55

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Originally Posted by kronas

its hard not to, you just see all these people who are pretty much comfortable with life, enjoying, i was speaking to one of my mates he was telling me about a guy who had a girlfreind, was suitably happy, but admits to playing the field, no i dont find that to be right at all, but such is the life these days that people lead.

danke

People that do that will learn the hard way. When you get something precious you must keep it, not take it for granted.

And as for people who are comfortable with life, let them get on with it. Just remember, when you do fall in love, it will hit you like a comet; then you will know what real happiness is. And you will look at those people, and want to shout out loud just how happy you are, because you alone will know that you are happier than they could ever be.

As Diana Ross sang, "You can't hurry love". Just be patient, it's well worth the wait.

**Maggy** · 07-09-2005, 13:17

And you are only 19.Lots and lots of time to fall in love and form a relationship.Just get on with your life and meeting friends and going places.'Things' will fall into place eventually and you'll look back at your 18/19 year old self and wonder at the person you were.