Drink binge mother left children

[xpod]

Originally Posted by Fingy

The thing that really gets me about this is that I am being hounded by my health visitor as my nearly 16 month old isn't 'complying' to commands like putting stuff in the bin and doesn't have very many words yet and being made to feel like I am failing as a parent?!?

Your health visitor would probably have our kids off us then because our teenagers wont comply with commands to put stuff in the bin either and getting two words out of them is like getting blood out a stone at times.
In all seriousness though i think your health visitor possibly needs some retraining.Either that or wait until they`ve had a few kids of their own and they finally realize theres no set time for a child to begin walking & talking.......or indeed "complying" if thats your thing.

[Mr Angry]

Originally Posted by Fingy

The thing that really gets me about this is that I am being hounded by my health visitor as my nearly 16 month old isn't 'complying' to commands like putting stuff in the bin and doesn't have very many words yet and being made to feel like I am failing as a parent?!?

I told you that Calpol and Buckfast chaser idea would never work!

[moaningmags]

For Fingy's peace of mind (hopefully)

Stacey (18) learned to tie her shoelaces at 4, could tell the time at 5, but couldn't ride a 2 wheeler bike until she was almost 7.
Stephanie (16) didn't learn to tie her shoelaces until she was almost 8, learned to tell the time about 6, but was doing stunts on her 2 wheeler at the age of 4.
After this I stopped comparing, figuring they'd learn it when they wanted/needed to.

Stephanie was referred to a speech therapist as she only grunted, wouldn't talk at all, the referral didn't happen as we realised Stacey was speaking for her, Stephanie would point at something and Stacey would tell us what she wanted so she didn't have to bother learning how to talk properly. Once we stopped Stacey from doing this Stephanie learned very quickly to ask for what she wanted.

[Flyboy]

Originally Posted by Fingy

The thing that really gets me about this is that I am being hounded by my health visitor as my nearly 16 month old isn't 'complying' to commands like putting stuff in the bin and doesn't have very many words yet and being made to feel like I am failing as a parent?!?

As to the post about leaving your kids... all kids wind you up from time to time, it is very simple to put them somewhere safe, in their cot for instance, and go outside for 5 minutes to calm down, totally leaving is a different story altogether!

If you feel as though you are being "hounded," you can ask to change your health visitor. But, that doesn't mean that another one won't have similar concerns. It might mean, however, that they be more tactful and more constructive about how they can help you.

From personal experience, it is far better to identify developmental issues early on, rather than much later. If you are in the system early on, it is much less difficult to get the help you may need.

I know this is off topic, but how many words does he/she have? The average at his/her age should be about fifteen to twenty.

[Fingy]

Thanks everyone, I'm not really too worried about him.

Lets see, mummy, daddy, nana, granda, tickle, up, again, meow, makes an attempt at woof, quack, uh oh!... think that is most of them, but she didn't hear him say any.

I know I can get her changed, but hopefully the next visit will be the last. If this was the only thing she had done I would possibly be more understanding in her being concerned about him but I have an ever growing list.

Mr A... thought you said that worked for all yours? Should I stop his daily pint of guinness?

Only a pint?

Or is that one before nap time, and two before bedtime?

[Fingy]

I thought he was meant to get whiskey before bed?

As a chaser, obviously

[LondonRoad]

Originally Posted by Fingy

I thought he was meant to get whiskey before bed?

Malt gives health benefits.

My Mum swore by it and she was so proud that I had the biggest liver in the class in P1.

[Flyboy]

Originally Posted by Fingy

Thanks everyone, I'm not really too worried about him.

Lets see, mummy, daddy, nana, granda, tickle, up, again, meow, makes an attempt at woof, quack, uh oh!... think that is most of them, but she didn't hear him say any.

I know I can get her changed, but hopefully the next visit will be the last. If this was the only thing she had done I would possibly be more understanding in her being concerned about him but I have an ever growing list.

Mr A... thought you said that worked for all yours? Should I stop his daily pint of guinness?

At sixteen months, if one is to go by the "average," it would appear to be a little on the short side, but, if his words are continuing to grow, there shouldn't be too much to worry about. However, if they haven't progressed much more (i.e. at least trebled) by the time he is two years old. It may be wise to have him assessed. It doesn't do him any harm, but may help you to understand any questions you might have.

Your current HV maybe tactless and lacking in experience, but don't put her thoughts completely to one side. I would say that it is wise to continue monitoring his speech development and not worry until he is twenty to twenty-four months old. If he is not balancing enough to stand still for a short time, or cannot formulate a sentence (it doesn't have to make too much sense ) of up to four words, you might want to consider your GP referring him to the relevant specialists.

[Fingy]

Thanks, I do understand that his development needs to be monitored and where he 'should' be. He certainly understands a lot more words than he can say and will look for a certain toy or his juice etc if I ask him to. He also started today going aww at the cat, so mark the list up one.

It just winds me up, she has been trying to force me to anti-depressants from my son was about 10 days old when there is totally no need for them. I'm as balanced as I have always been. (shurrit Mr A!)

My mum did not speak a word until she was 2 and then spoke in sentances, a few kids I know didn't speak at all until quite late and are now fine and none of them have been referred etc.

Most people I have told about this have been baffled, but there again, most of their health visisors have not been in touch since their kids were about 6 weeks old. One doesn't even know who her health visitor is. There is an estate very close to where I live and there are toddlers out playing in the street on their own, some kids running about the street with hardly if any clothes on etc, yet they do not seem to be getting any attention. Though I have a feeling they may have told their Health Visitor to leave them alone as I am led to believe you are allowed to do.

Anyhoo, totally brought off topic (ish) sorry Moddy People.

[Mr Angry]

Do the digits thing sometime after 8pm.

Mine were all reared on Calpol & whiskey - that's why you're confused!!

Calpol for the kids, and whisky for you - win/win.



(there appears to be a superfluous 'e' in your whisky - one way of getting loved up )

[Fingy]

Originally Posted by Mr Angry

Do the digits thing sometime after 8pm.

Mine were all reared on Calpol & whiskey - that's why you're confused!!

Done, ta! (the digits not the calpol)

I'm surprised Fingy's Health visitor has the time...I barely saw mine especially once both mine turned 2.