Crush at work - Page 11

Halcyon · 09-04-2009, 17:04

LOL

Lust, Affection, Love, whatever you want to call it.... It all ends up together at one point.

Hom3r · 09-04-2009, 17:58

Tell her that women have messed you about and you don't want you heart ripped apart again.

or words to that efffect.

Thats why I'm single and living at home, my hearts been bust twice, and theres a nice big busted red head where I work and I don't have the plums to take it any further and as we will all be out of a job by the end of the year time running out sharpish.

My only options are ask her if we do a goodbye Stansted do, or via private message in facebook.

WHISTLED · 09-04-2009, 18:21

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Tell her that women have messed you about and you don't want you heart ripped apart again.

U mental?

Women are no different from men, they want someone with confidence, someone they can have a laugh with, uncomplicated and someone that will look after them.

If someone said 'dont break my heart' I would think needy, too soft, and be more worried about upsetting them than enjoying my time with them.. Not worth the bother!

Hom3r - If you are 40 and have only had heart broken twice, think yourself lucky! Additionally if this lady is around the same age as you, is single and has the same sense of humour as you then stop buggering about, she is probably as lonely as you and would welcome the attention.

Halcyon - If it happens it happens, to be honest it sounds like your coming across as needy and too keen, major turn off..

Halcyon · 09-04-2009, 18:59

Hom3r, I totally know what you mean. I was dragged along a I want you/ I dont want you phase for way too long and then the last relationship I was in a few months ago...Well that was just a nightmare as I didnt want to let go but everytime we met it was painful and hurt so much. I had so many dreams and you could just watch them fading away.

Facebook could be a good way via a private message. I find that whilst a company do / party will let you socialise with that person more relaxed and out of work there are always too many people to have a private conversation.

At the end of the day she may say yes or she may say no.
But I felt the same about asking this girl out. I knew that not knowing was a feeling that atleast gave me hope. Now it's a feeling of I wish she says Yes or I didnt know as then it would feel not so bad..... BUT you have to take a chance otherwise you will never know. I have learnt that.

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Originally Posted by WHISTLED

Halcyon - If it happens it happens, to be honest it sounds like your coming across as needy and too keen, major turn off..

That is how I feel when I describe my feelings for this person on here.
It doesnt mean I am sending her roses and standing outside her house with a banner saying "LOVE YOU" on it.
Ive just told her my feelings and that it would be good to go out. Nothing too big and committing.

alferret · 09-04-2009, 20:38

This has been a good read, an interesting thread. Some witty comments and good sound advice offered.
I would like to offer a little bit of advice that may be of some comfort Halcyon.
If all else fails and she spurns your advances, reach for the oil, shut your eyes and "wave" bye bye to her. At least she'll have put a smile on your face for a brief moment and onwards to the next beauty

**Hugh** · 09-04-2009, 20:39

Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew!

Mr_love_monkey · 09-04-2009, 20:51

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Originally Posted by foreverwar

Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew!

Is that the noise you make?

**Hugh** · 09-04-2009, 20:53

No

lucy7 · 09-04-2009, 20:57

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Originally Posted by alferret

This has been a good read, an interesting thread. Some witty comments and good sound advice offered.
I would like to offer a little bit of advice that may be of some comfort Halcyon.
If all else fails and she spurns your advances, reach for the oil, shut your eyes and "wave" bye bye to her. At least she'll have put a smile on your face for a brief moment and onwards to the next beauty

I like this response, but whats the oil for?

**Hugh** · 09-04-2009, 20:59

WHISTLED · 09-04-2009, 21:13

LOL

fireman328 · 09-04-2009, 21:20

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Originally Posted by alferret

This has been a good read, an interesting thread. Some witty comments and good sound advice offered.
I would like to offer a little bit of advice that may be of some comfort Halcyon.
If all else fails and she spurns your advances, reach for the oil, shut your eyes and "wave" bye bye to her. At least she'll have put a smile on your face for a brief moment and onwards to the next beauty

Where does the oil come into this then ?

lucy7 · 09-04-2009, 21:24

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Originally Posted by fireman328

Where does the oil come into this then ?

See above!!
The Scottish photo!!

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Halycon is just after a really long thread, he wants it as long as the God one!

Halcyon · 09-04-2009, 21:25

Oh dear, I think at this rate we are going to need a Relationships, Dating, Counciling, and Get physical sub forum.
Keep your trousers on everyone!

Back on topic....

I've just been talking to my sister. She's a female and said that I shouldnt worry too much either about the Email and just wait and see.

The other night I whispered something into her ear as we came out the club and I was thinking it might be a good idea to E-mail her and tell her I still mean that.

09-04-2009, 21:28

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Originally Posted by lucy7

See above!!
The Scottish photo!!

i.e. in the absence of someone else to help, one has the 'caberbility' to amuse oneself