Crush at work - Page 8

**Hugh** · 09-04-2009, 11:25

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Originally Posted by Halcyon

Yes - The news is she can't make it this Friday. She mailed me.

Which means I have been looking forward to this and now as everything else in my life I get my hopes up for nothing.

Right now I'm emailing her and just going to be straight with it, tell her my feelings and that's it.
Then she will know and it's up to her.

I've had it with women! Complete nutters!

[Apart from the CF women ofcourse, I like you all]

H

that may be a little over-reacting.

Why not try something along the lines of "sorry you couldn't make it - when would be a good time?".

This leaves it open for her.

Halcyon · 09-04-2009, 11:31

From things she has said in the past she likes people to be upfront when asking someone out and seeing as this has dragged out for way too many months, I think maybe just setting the record strsaight and telling her my feelings may be a good idea. Tell her I wish we could get t know each other more, why I find her attractive, etc.

joglynne · 09-04-2009, 11:32

Well don't be to disheartened if she chooses the friendship option.

I was given the same choice, opted for the friendship and then a few years later married the guy. Nearly 40 years of marriage later he's still my best friend.

Gary L · 09-04-2009, 11:49

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Originally Posted by Halcyon

From things she has said in the past she likes people to be upfront when asking someone out and seeing as this has dragged out for way too many months, I think maybe just setting the record strsaight and telling her my feelings may be a good idea. Tell her I wish we could get t know each other more, why I find her attractive, etc.

I personally wouldn't go too deep in telling her stuff. she might think it's too heavy and not want to bother after all. it's your first time with her. just have fun with her and see how it progresses after that. if she wants it to go any further she'll let you know. if she doesn't then don't despair, you can always do the revenge things suggested earlier

Nugget · 09-04-2009, 11:56

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Originally Posted by joglynne

Well don't be to disheartened if she chooses the friendship option.

I was given the same choice, opted for the friendship and then a few years later married the guy. Nearly 40 years of marriage later he's still my best friend.

Blimey - you must have got married young then

Halcyon · 09-04-2009, 12:18

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Originally Posted by Gary L

I personally wouldn't go too deep in telling her stuff. she might think it's too heavy and not want to bother after all. it's your first time with her. just have fun with her and see how it progresses after that. if she wants it to go any further she'll let you know. if she doesn't then don't despair, you can always do the revenge things suggested earlier

The thing is she knows and half the world around her know I like her. It's been obvious.
It's just I havent ever told her face to face or directly.

**Hugh** · 09-04-2009, 13:04

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Originally Posted by Halcyon

The thing is she knows and half the world around her know I like her. It's been obvious.
It's just I havent ever told her face to face or directly.

But there's a difference (imho) between liking her and expressing deep feelings - it's OK at the beginning of a relationship to like someone and find them attractive, but to state anything more might be seen as being too "heavy", and wanting too much too soon (in an emotional sense).

Anyhoo, good luck.

Wayfair · 09-04-2009, 13:23

If your heavy and give her all your reasons why you fancy her you will blow it, don't forget you have had months and months of getting it all straight in your head and she may only just be thinking about you 'that' way..

Your gonna scare her off dude..

Take it easy, offer her another date and include your mobile number then she can contact you, women like nothing better to be chased but they get very very intrigued when you stop chasing..

It's her turn..

lucy7 · 09-04-2009, 13:26

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Originally Posted by Wayfair

If your heavy and give her all your reasons why you fancy her you will blow it, don't forget you have had months and months of getting it all straight in your head and she may only just be thinking about you 'that' way..

Your gonna scare her off dude..

Take it easy, offer her another date and include your mobile number then she can contact you, women like nothing better to be chased but they get very very intrigued when you stop chasing..

It's her turn..

Intrigued............ dont you mean relieved!!

Halcyon · 09-04-2009, 13:33

Ok how does this sound:

(Names and a few places details changed as it would be sods law she comes on here and reads it)

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Hi Anne,

Thankyou for your email.

I wish I could talk to you as Email is not the best way but here goes...
I think you probably guessed that since some time, I enjoy coming down to the finance department to talk to you. You make the days working at Microsoft a little more fun and when we all go out with the department staff it is great to catch up with you.

I've wanted to say something to you sooner but it just seemed complicated at work and I didnt know what you would think.

I think we have things in common and that it would be nice to go out for a drink sometime.
I'd hope we could stay friends but it would be nice to get to know you better.
To me you seem different from everyone else, and someone very interesting.

Bob.

lucy7 · 09-04-2009, 13:38

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Originally Posted by Halcyon

Ok how does this sound:

(Names and a few places details changed as it would be sods law she comes on here and reads it)

Dont send it!!

Never put anything in writing, she may show it or send it on to others!

Personal chat would be better!

Halcyon · 09-04-2009, 13:41

Yeah but I dont have her number and Email is the only way.
I don't really mind if she shows others. I've nothing else to lose.

As women, would you think this letter is sounding ok?

I appreciate your help.

Gary L · 09-04-2009, 13:57

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Originally Posted by Halcyon

As women, would you think this letter is sounding ok?

I've used your letter with a few changes made, and sent it on to see if the reaction is a good or bad one.
I'll let you know what the women think

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Hi Superbiatch,

Thankyou for your PM.

I wish I could talk to you as PM is not the best way but here goes...
I think you probably guessed that since some time, I enjoy coming down to the forum to talk to you. You make the days working at Home a little more fun and when we all debate about God, women and Virgin, it is great to catch up with you.

I've wanted to say something to you sooner but it just seemed complicated in the forum and I didnt know what you would think.

I think we have things in common and that it would be nice to go out for a drink sometime.
I'd hope we could stay friends but it would be nice to get to know you better.
To me you seem different from everyone else, and someone very interesting.

Gary.

joglynne · 09-04-2009, 14:03

OK here's my tuppennys' worth. I like the first paragraph and even if she shows it to anyone you just come over as a nice guy. I wouldn't use the last two paragraphs though as they are a bit over the top at this stage and mentioning staying friends if she doesn't want to go out with you just comes over defeatist.

Just add something like..

"I enjoy going out for a meal (pictures/whatever) and wondered if you would like to come with me."

Give her your phone number and ask her to ring you with her answer.

Halcyon · 09-04-2009, 14:12

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Originally Posted by joglynne

Just add something like..

"I enjoy going out for a meal (pictures/whatever) and wondered if you would like to come with me."

Give her your phone number and ask her to ring you with her answer.

Ok, I've got rid of:

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I've wanted to say something to you sooner but it just seemed complicated at work and I didnt know what you would think.

I think we have things in common and that it would be nice to go out for a drink sometime.
I'd hope we could stay friends but it would be nice to get to know you better.

I'll add the lines you reccomend. Thanks again