Was it REALLY my fault?

Originally Posted by Charlie_Bubble

C'mon Russ, it's a woman you're dealing with, therefore you're always in the wrong!

He's got a very good point there!

[Russ]

lololol

I wouldn't go that far....but what didn't help was the person who brought her 'complaint' to my attention was male and he certainly seemed to be on her side.

Oh dear

[MovedGoalPosts]

Originally Posted by Russ D

lololol

I wouldn't go that far....but what didn't help was the person who brought her 'complaint' to my attention was male and he certainly seemed to be on her side.

hmm us blokes should stick together, or maybe he was trying to find his feminine side

It's extremely diifficult to read anyone with just the typed word, even with emoticons. Face to face you can often see by body language and perhaps expression that somebody is gettig uncomfortable and it's time to change tack. Even by phone you might get some idea from the tone of voice. email is a harsh medium.

Peer pressure, may have made it difficult for her perhaps to say no wherever you probably publicly (reading between the lines) made contact asking was it OK to email, and she positively responded. Even if she did then receive and open the email (without knowing how she then put you down), she should have been able to simply say, on second thoughts, sorry, but I can't help. Put as simply as that, you would have been able to accept that inability and left it there.

It sounds as though neither you or her have been able to find that simple, oops step to far, leave this alone and stop now, common ground.

[Paul K]

All I can say is this:
Have you ever asked someone what was wrong and within seconds wished you'd never asked? Sometimes we do things with the best intentions and suddenly realise that we are out of our depth or uncomfortable with what we are faced with.
If when faced with the full details your friend felt uncomfortable then you should respect that, as to wether her reaction was wrong.... who knows, we all react differently to certain situations. Maybe it was a subject that hit a nerve? Maybe she just changed her mind, we all do from time to time.
If you know you can trust her with the contents of the email (and you must have to send it to her) then chalk it up to experience.

[greencreeper]

Fans of wildlife programs will by now have realised that the more sophisticated the communication system, the less effective the communication