Depression and the Dangers surrounding it.

alanbjames · 19-08-2013, 18:29

Im typing this to anyone who visits the site and suffers from depression to seek help NOW before its to late.

I myself have tried twice in 2 years to take his own life because of chronic depression and post traumatic stress.

My friends older brother hung himself last night aged 35 because of depression and an alcohol problem. Watching their family crumble around them and how its affecting them has opened my eyes for me to seek more help than what i am getting now.

PLEASE PLEASE SEEK HELP!.

Jimmy-J · 19-08-2013, 22:04

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Explains depression, including possible causes and how you can access treatment and support. Includes tips for helping yourself, and guidance for friends and family

http://www.mind.org.uk/

MalteseFalcon · 19-08-2013, 22:18

I agree with this, seek help. I go through patches of very deep dark depressions. A course of 3 months on anti depressants and a few sessions of counselling soon help me out. I have in the past thought about taking my own life, but because I am close to my brother and sister the thought of them stopped me.

Stephen · 19-08-2013, 22:22

I have been on anti depressants for a few years now but still get periods of heavy anxiety and depression. Have had counselling in the past which does help. This occasion I've been off work since April which has been my longest time.

Get help, I've had suicidal thoughts and once tried to act on it, fairly recently in fact.

Helpful site

http://www.depressionalliance.org/

19-08-2013, 22:50

Im ok I I suffer from depression but I am scared of death also so topping myself is nto gonna happen

alanbjames · 20-08-2013, 04:07

ive suffered from depression since age 7 since my grand dad passed away. By aged 14 i had been hospitalised with a nervous breakdown and was on anti depressants. I was also bullied for 10 years between ages 7-17 because i had psoriasis bullied to a point where i was attacked and through the beating caused a spinal problem which now i have to use sticks to walk. I get flashbacks from school, nightmares, panic attacks its still with me even all these years later.

Halcyon · 20-08-2013, 07:44

A lot of you are probably thinking it would be strange to go and talk to someone, seek advice, or even go to counciling......But it isnt at all.

I was one of those people that didnt want to go and felt like it was a bad thing to seek help but I went to some counciling sessions and it was the best thing I ever did.
It is all confidential and you can choose what you say and don't say. Sometimes it helps just to let things out and talk to someone else unrelated to you about what is on your mind.
And it doesnt have to cost either. A doctor can refer you to see someone or you can attend many different help groups that exist.

I'm telling you all this becuase I want people to see it is not a bad thing to seek help and that it can be the best thing you ever do.

MalteseFalcon · 20-08-2013, 08:27

I agree, when I was going through secondary school I had a lot of anger management issues. I saw someone once a week for 4 years and it helped me keep a lid on my anger. I had just one blow out and it was spectacular.

Talking helps, I find it easier to talk to someone who doesn't know me and who won't judge me.

peanut · 20-08-2013, 08:28

I agree totally with Halycon, but it's not always that easy. A lot of the cut backs have hit this kind of service hard so getting help isn't as straight forward. You might have to wait 6 months+ to seen, then it could be only 6 sessions which is quite pointless.

You do have to fight your own corner which isn't easy when you're going through it yourself, when all you want to do is give up. There are a lot of misconceptions when it comes to getting help.

I'm in the process of going through the pain management dept and they have their own psychotherapy which is an ongoing service, and without that kind of help I would be on my own so to speak. I'd dread to think now not having that hope / help. Some days, more often that not I feel that I'm hanging on the thinnest of threads. But often people with suicidal thoughts are not seen as a risk. I personally take comfort with suicidal thoughts as it is a coping mechanism, it is sometimes and very often a normal response and part and parcel of certain problems.

People often wonder why I can't talk to my wife but that isn't the case, the effect is totally different as to when you talk to someone independent. I talk to my wife constantly and she does understand but it's nothing like talking to a professional. And on top of that at least it's recorded medically too.

Take every day as it comes and use any reason possible to keep going is all I can say.

And finding someone else with depression to talk to will help far more than talking to someone who doesn't understand.

Waldo Pepper · 20-08-2013, 16:25

A good read is "Curse of the Strong" by Dr David Cantopher. Helps you understand yourself and those close to you to understand your predicament.

I bought a copy to understand my ex who was a sufferer and it's helped my mate in understanding the causes. He is now in the process of weaning off them with help from the Dr.