Crush at work

[Halcyon]

Hello!

So here is this weeks topical question..... Has anyone got or had a crush at work and have you done anthing about it ?

Does it affect your life ?

You know what I mean..... You now look forward to going to work. You now spend more time in one department and make excuses to go down there.
You pretend the job takes twice as long just to spend time with someone.

And deep in your heart you know that you are at work, that you shouldnt be thinking this way and you know they may not have feelings for you, but you still can't help but go see them and look forward to seeing them at work.

I'm in a situation liket that at the moment. There is one girl I always go and see and will go out of my way to go down to her department to see her.
I'll put off one job to do her job instead. It's strange.
It helps that I'm not married and not already tied to a relationship at the moment but it is always daunting.

Do you tell them, risk a friendship, keep on working with them everyday and know it could get tricky if you fall out.

What are everyones experiences ?

[lucy7]

Just ask her out man!!

Take the bull by the horns!

She will know you fancy her anyway, and so will everyone else, so just do it!

I lost my cherry with an older woman I worked with I was very grateful I was 18 and thought I was gonna die a virgin lol

[LondonRoad]

I asked my crush at work out. She was a bit taken aback but with some, out of character persistance, she agreed to go out for a meal.

That was 8 years ago and 2 kids and 1 marriage later suggests it went OK. It was the best thing I ever did plucking up the courage to ask she who must be obeyed out. I've since reverted to my usual yellow streak down the back characteristic.

My concern at the time was losing a valued friend because I enjoyed her company. It couldn't have worked out better for me.

[WHISTLED]

Been out with loads of girls from work, some colleagues some staff... Only once caused problem.

You only tell them if you think its mutual, easily find out while your chatting say your going for a beer at lunch and do they fancy it..

[fireman328]

Bromide will soon make it go away

[Halcyon]

Originally Posted by zinglebarb

I lost my cherry with an older woman I worked with I was very grateful I was 18 and thought I was gonna die a virgin lol

LOL Sounds like it must have been a top night.

Originally Posted by lucy7

Just ask her out man!!

Take the bull by the horns!

She will know you fancy her anyway, and so will everyone else, so just do it!

Yep I think she knows. Others know I spend time going to see her. It's crazy. She's so hot as well. Ahhhhhhh, I think she only wants to be friends though so it is so fustrating. I love joking around with her. She's so much fun.

[lucy7]

I ended up marrying the guy I worked for too.
He saw me as a challenge, and won me round!

We may be scaring you now.......best to take Firemans advice!

[Halcyon]

Sounds good Lucy. You seem a happy lady so it seems it can work out.

Originally Posted by fireman328

Bromide will soon make it go away

Noted. Will buy some tomorrow. lol

Originally Posted by WHISTLED

Been out with loads of girls from work, some colleagues some staff... Only once caused problem.

You only tell them if you think its mutual, easily find out while your chatting say your going for a beer at lunch and do they fancy it..

Yes, and with women it is so hard to read signs.
Still we only live once don't we. So you have to chance it.

[DRZ400]

I dated every girl on my floor at work apart from the ugly one.

[Halcyon]

lol

There is more to love than looks Mr DRZ400.

I'm sure Mr LoveMonkey has had a few tales at work. Where is he these days.

I need to stop drinking and stop thinking about this girl! Agggh!

[Hom3r]

I fancy a woman where I work, but don't have the bottle to ask her out, she is a friend in facebook. She is on a scale of 1 to 10, a 30.

She says hi everytime we pass, but then agian she does this to everyone.

[superbiatch]

Mine isn't such a good story, but we became friends when he was coming to the end of his 10 year relationship and I had just split up with th e ex-hubs about 6 years ago. It was easy to see there was an attraction, but we were both carrying so much baggage.

Anyway, we dated and after a little while at a mutual friends wedding it all came to an abrupt end. We went our separate ways for a little while but realised we missed each other. Anyway, we became friends again and eventually ended up sharing a house together. This was not such a good idea because occasionally we crossed the line and then we'd have HUGE arguments when things looked like settling into a 'relationship' again.

I decided to get out and buy my own place and he got his own also and we stayed friends for a while. We seem to have a happy medium now
where we spend time together and either of us stays at the others' house mainly at weekends. We go on holidays, concerts, go the zoo - all fun things and very rarely disagree. We don't really see each other through the week due to work commitments. I think the problem for both of us is commitment after getting out of such long term relationships - so there is my story.

I stand by what the others say though, you'll never know otherwise and will always regret it. That said, i'm pretty happy with how things are now - just not sure if its enough to keep me happy long term.

[Halcyon]

Originally Posted by Hom3r

I fancy a woman where I work, but don't have the bottle to ask her out, she is a friend in facebook. She is on a scale of 1 to 10, a 30.

She says hi everytime we pass, but then agian she does this to everyone.

Yeah women can be like that I think. She's on my facebook too and likes when I come give her things or help her out, compliment her, but sometimes doesnt respond to hints which makes me wonder if she is maybe not too interested and prefers friendship.
She dresses really sexy too. Cant stop glancing over when I pass her. It must be so obvious but I just cant help it.

[lucy7]

Those women who say hi to everyone who pass them by........shame on them!