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Originally Posted by weenie
You have a amazing outlook dilli. You always flip what is happening to you when it's bad into a positive. I think many could learn a lot from you, I know I now look for the good in situations rather than focus on the bad so thanks.
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Nice one Weenie.
I can't speak on Dilli's behalf and never would, but when you're out of options so to speak and dealt a crap hand you do strive to look (and make) for positives as whatever is left ultimately is depressing and all too easy to spiral downwards. It's a way of coping.
Some people take different routes, some get off on 'hey look at me' kind of thing, some keep themselves to themselves, some are realists to the point that their outlook and their way of thinking is beyond what anyone else can understand. Of course some it will be an act, a way to be 'appear' normal and be accepted without having to show anything (not healthy). Some though just be themselves and are not affected because of other reasons I myself don't really understand.
Personally I hate all the crap like 'how do you cope', 'amazing how you stay positive', labelled as 'brave' etc etc. Like I have a choice in any matter and it makes me cringe. I tend to say I don't (as in cope), and when told brave or positive I say it's because I'm too much of a coward to take the easy route. Honesty (which took a long while) has changed opinions for the better for me, and sometimes others rather not want hear the truth. I no long make up excuses or hide. But I am firmly in the leave me alone camp. But I do fight to stay positive but I'm not sure if it's working or not.
I also see Dilli as inspirational but I'll never understand how or why he is as positive as he is, I know I'll never be.
My moan - Hospital cuts are kicking in and becoming noticeable and having to postpone hydro-therapy indefinitely till a time I know I can make use of it. - Which could just as well be a happy thought too.