[me283]

Jeez, I thought my divorce was nasty!

What can I say? I don't know the parties involved, so this is pretty general. It seems like there's a lot of hurt involved here; the adults will just take swipes (verbally), and bounce back. But somewhere in the middle is a little girl who probably doesn't understand it, but who will grow up knowing that there has been a level of hatred on either, or both sides. Even if she doesn't know you as her dad right now, she will at some stage. And at that point, how will she feel?

I admire your bravery in posting such a personal letter, and you are obviously going through a tough time; if I were to hear your ex's side, I am sure it would be different, but also pretty tough. But if I could hear your daughter's side, it would probably be a version that has a lot of fear in it.

The advice to get a solicitor is the best I can think of. Also, it may not be easy, but just waiting in the wings until something is sorted out will be for the best. It may be hard now, but at least you can only be described as doing what is best for your daughter.

Whether you are right or wrong in what you say, I wish you all the best. At 2 years old a child can very perceptive, and it would be in everyone's interests if she grows up with a mine of happy thoughts and memories of her childhood.

Good luck.