[Halcyon]

Thankyou for your replies. I know it is not a nice topic but I am truly grateful for your help.

I have been making sure not to slag off or bad mouth my ex and as someone who works with primary aged children I know the damage this can have on them.
Unfortunately my ex has involved the children in many adult conversations and talked to them about court proceedings which under the interim child arrangement order no parties must involve the children in any adult or matters relating to the court.
She has also bad mouthed me and made the children worry about money matters, blaming me for this.

I can truthfully say I have always provided for my children and paid towards their upbringing each month.
My ex has now made a claim with the Child Maintenance Service (CMS) which is fair enough and makes things official. What she did do however is say that I never see my children which would increase her payments. This is not at all the case and I see them every other weekend and half the school holidays. I had to complain about this and get it rectified.


I make sure my payments are on time and have a standing order in place.

Sadly, as the house is not sold I am also having to pay my half of the mortgage which is making things very tight each month. On top of that I have had huge legal solicitor bills. It is very sad as this is money I had saved for my family.

I even suggested mediation when this all kicked off to put the children first but after agreeing and suggesting it as well, she then refused. I think this is to maintain her false allegations that she is afraid of me and vulnerable.
This is the person that on the same night she made allegations against me was saying that she wanted me home and telling the children I would be home soon. The same person who was texting me the night before and making plans with me.


She made several wild allegations and luckily I have CCTV on my property that backed me up. Funnily she didnt want anyone to see the CCTV.

I have kept a log of everything from the very beginning, including text messages, photos, etc, which show so many contradictions.
Another example is where she has said I tried to call her repeatedly early in the morning. My phone shows no such calls ever took place. Yet this then means more hell dealing with the police when I have done nothing wrong.

All in all, this had a huge impact on me as I was worried for my children in her care and also the constant allegations. Going to councelling has really helped to process this as it is harassment and totally breaks me to pieces.


My main focus is my children. I want to move on with my life.
I keep getting threatening letters from her solicitor saying I am trying to keep control over her and rekindle the relationship. I cant think of anything worse. I want nothing to do with her!
she even says that I am keeping things inside the house to show power over her. Total rubbish! It's still my home to at the moment and I have nowhere else to put my stuff.


We have not yet done the financials yet but I have had the email saying we can now apply for the divorce final order to end it. Should I wait until the financials are done before getting the final order?


Thankyou.