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Originally Posted by peanut
I know someone with a brain injury, and I'm polite and courteous towards this person. Just like I would be to anyone who doesn't have a brain injury.
Now this person isn't my friend and never will be, due to his injury no one can ever be. As this person will not know or remember who I am a couple of hours after I've spoken to this person. Quite an eye opener and very sad.
If it is one in eight, then for some as you say it is hidden, probably means I wouldn't notice so therefore unless I was told I'd treat whoever as I would normally.
I have multiple invisible illnesses. In real life I strive to make sure it stays that way to those that doesn't matter to me. Not because I'm embarrassed, but because it's no one else's concern and I don't want to be treated any differently. But to those that do know me in real life, they have to make allowances for me as I or anyone would expect. But most importantly sometimes the allowances can mean make or break for some people (friends & those close to me) that is something I have accepted. That's life.
If a person with a brain injury posts something on a forum then can't handle the response, then who's problem is it?
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By being open about it it allows other people to make allowances for things like mood swings or not understanding things that others find easy to follow.
Of course, an individual is free to keep it private, but then they have to accept the risk that others might think they are being deliberately obtuse or being sensitive/emotional for no good reason.
This applies to both online & offline.
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Whilst not caused by a brain injury in tje conventional sense, dementia affects people in different ways too.
I was in the company of a woman recently who kept shouting, swearing & being aggressive.
Apparently, dementia had affected the part of her brain that deals with reasoning & self control, so in order to communicate her brain was using the part where bad language, aggressive emotion is processed. You never know why someone is behaving in the way that they are so it's a lesson to us all to be tolerant and kind instead of assuming that they are just rude and unpleasant people.
---------- Post added at 18:48 ---------- Previous post was at 18:47 ----------
Whilst not caused by a brain injury in tje conventional sense, dementia affects people in different ways too.
I was in the company of a woman recently who kept shouting, swearing & being aggressive.
Apparently, dementia had affected the part of her brain that deals with reasoning & self control, so in order to communicate her brain was using the part where bad language, aggressive emotion etc are processed. You never know why someone is behaving in the way that they are so it's a lesson to us all to be tolerant and kind instead of assuming that they are just rude and unpleasant people.