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Originally Posted by Jaymoss
What helps from others is understanding compassion and empathy
Judging those suffering as weak just makes you a compounding part of the problem
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You can be empathetic, compassionate and be not viewing those suffering as weak. But also the only person that can make the change is you (with support from others …great, but it’s still you).
The victim mentality that it’s all the worlds fault that you’re in the situation you’re in (or anyone’s fault other than you) absolves you of any agency to sort yourself out.
Sometimes telling someone to sort themselves out, can be the compassionate, supportive and loving thing to do.
I can help someone, but I can’t help someone who won’t help themselves.
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Originally Posted by TheDaddy
Same as get a grip or man up really, how does that help anyone having an episode? They'd be better of not saying anything and just listening if that's the best they've got, that is assuming they actually want to help of course
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Not in the snap of the moment, no, not helpful. But long term that has to be faced up.