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Originally Posted by RichardCoulter
For the record, I don't think the post was done with any malice, but was trying to look on the bright side of things, but I do think it was unintentionally insensitive to those who have suffered because of this virus, up to and including permanent disablement and death.
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Anger is an aspect of grief. Grief may be at the loss of freedom caused by disablement, and not just at the death of a loved one. And it may manifest itself as anger at the world for going on as normal while the one grieving is in pain. How can they carry on as if nothing has happened? How insensitive are they? I’ve experienced this, as I’m sure many here have, both in the death of a loved one and also in dealing with major, life-changing tragedy. The world can seem an especially cold place when grief is raw.
I don’t intend this as criticism, but rather as advice for your own mental well-being: please stop looking for examples of insensitivity. The whole world is insensitive by the measure you’re using, and it is unfair of you to expect others not to attend to their own mental well-being by focusing on the positive aspects of their lives. Their positive decision to be thankful for good things is not a slight against those who have suffered. It doesn’t imply indifference and it should not be taken that way.
At its best, this is a forum for mutual help and support as well as a place where we have our rough edges smoothed off by having our ideas and prejudices challenged. I’m convinced Jon’s post was absolutely in that spirit and I commend his suggestion as something we should all have a go at over the next few days. I certainly will do.