[joglynne]

@ Osem. The main thing now is to ensure that you all feel happy that your Dad has the best possible care and that he is kept pain free. Personally I would ask to have a word with his Consultant, not in any confrontational way but to establish why you weren't informed of the full position. Fair enough if your Dad asked that his family not be informed but, even so, I think you should ensure that his paperwork is officially noted that for XXX reasons any future information, arrangements etc must be conveyed to you first so that a member of the family can be available to support your father.

His mental well being is possibly the main thing that you will be able to protect at this stage so knowing that you have taken these steps may help you all to come to terms with what may happen in the coming months.

We were in a very similar position just before Dad died but as he had made a Living Will and, although it was not legally enforceable, he had a Consultant who was willing to respect his wishes and Dad died at peace and pain free.

Hugs to you all, Jo.