Well the news on my old man isn't great. It seems palliative care is the only option and the prognosis is not good i.e. months rather than years. In spite of his recent improvement, the news is not a complete shock but we only found out by chance today when the palliative care nurse appeared to see him and on being asked, told a family member the full extent of what they've found. Of course it may be that he declined to have anyone present with him when he was told the bad news but even so, given his age and state of mind, I'd have expected someone to let us know what was happening because we've made it quite clear to the staff that he's easily confused and were asked to call in to discuss matters with his registrar only last week.
Is it worth making a fuss about? I don't know but right now there are so many things going through my mind that maybe I'm not thinking clearly. Maybe he decided to tough it out and not tell us, maybe he didn't understand, maybe he's in denial and doesn't really believe it because he's been feeling better.
I just hope that what time he has left is as comfortable as it can be and that he doesn't suffer too much.