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Originally Posted by Maggy J
See it's that your not a male so you can't understand aspect that annoys.Almost as much as females who say to men you cannot understand because you are a man.
I'm just concerned that issues that affect both genders do not become divisive and then become bogged down in the us and them sort of discussions.I'm on the side of people not gender.
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I'm sure it does annoy you - it annoys me that over the 18 years I've brought up my youngest son and handled all his educational and health related issues, I'm still routinely patronised by women, primarily, 'professionals' who treat me as if I'm invisible and/or know nothing about his problems, needs etc.
Until men are treated equally in matters such as this, family law etc. etc. what do you expect from them? Doing what they've done until now has got them where they are - their views largely excluded and dismissed (even in law) from anything considered a female domain. Sadly we are where we are and 'suffering in silence' has done us no favours. If men want equal acknowledgement, help, treatment etc. then they're going to have to do it largely by their own efforts and by creating the same sort of noises that women have become very good at. The domestic abuse arena is almost entirely dominated by groups set up to represent the needs and interests of female victims as opposed to purely 'victims' as you suggest. They not only hog the resources but sometimes go out of their way to dismiss the existence of male victims. It's the same in the field of cancer in which conditions like breast and cervical cancer are far more publicised than prostate cancer for the very same reason.
It shouldn't be like that but it is and to an extent, men have brought it upon themselves by accepting it and by allowing their suffering to be either ignored, trivialised or ridiculed.