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Originally Posted by idi banashapan
it seems you failed to spot the irony in your own post there - how I commented that smacking the child will generally teach that child to believe smacking others is ok. this is proven by you saying you were smacked as a child and that you then grew up to smack you own, and then say that by smacking a child, they won't grow up to use violence on others...
in the same light, I was not smacked as a child. i turned out ok. never taken drugs, never drink alcohol, never been cautioned or arrested, did well in education. I have never smacked my daughter her entire life. she too is doing very well at 9 years old. 6er in brownies, was in a competing gymnastics team, is doing really well at school in top groups, every review she has, the school always comments on her excellent and kind attitude and nature....
which leads me to think, if children who are not smacked turn out just as well as those who are, why would one chose to smack a child at all?
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I wasn't smacked all the time and I didn't have to smack my children all the time.This is the fallacy that you like to smear perfectly good parents with.That just because we choose this option that we must do it all the time.The things is I didn't just smack my children..I used a reward system as well..but you don't want to know that I'm sure.You have already labelled me as a bad parent in your own mind.
Neither of my children are criminals or thugs or bullies,take drugs, steal and are delightful adults with no hatred of me at all.
So if smacking doesn't make a bad adult why not smack them?
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Originally Posted by idi banashapan
why rule with respect when you can rule with fear instead?
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Good use of emotive language there.Good job that my kids did and still do respect me though.
As I said you must do as you see fit in punishing your children BUT you really should respect that others may have a different way to achieve the same ends.