Originally Posted by Ignitionnet

I entirely empathise I just don't patronise or inflame by taking offence by proxy.

People, especially children, can be cruel. It's usually catharsis, covering up some personal insecurity, done to feel better, improve self-image, feel a sense of superiority over other people.

A bit like taking more offence for slights to others than the recipients themselves do just the opposite side of the coin.