It is a balance. And I'm not advocating anything like you are using to pretend I am.
Kids needed to learn that actions have consequences. Nowadays they are taught that it doesn't matter what they do, someone will sort it out for them at everyone elses expense. How does that teach people to become responsible adults? The balance has swung too much in the wrong direction.
I am not Victorian but I'm am sick of working hard just to subsidize the (rapidly increasing group of) feckless idiots of this country.
If these people won't take any responsibility for their own actions and their equally feckless parents won't either then the government needs to step in. But it will never happen because we are far too wet as a country and there will always be a few hard working idiots like me to bankroll them.