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Originally Posted by Maggy J
I'm so sorry to argue with someone I respect but I have to take issue with you.Smacking is in no way akin to using a cane on a child.I have smacked my children on very few occasions but I've never used cane on either of them.I never would on any child.
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Agreed. It doesn't even have to be a hard smack. A light tap often works.
In fact, I read somewhere that it's actually the noise that works rather than the pain. Not too sure about that though.
My own opinion? I do differentiate between smacking and other more severe forms of punishment. I don't think the ODD light smack is a bad idea. If becomes something else (either frequently smacking, harder smacking or another form of beating) then there is an issue that needs to be addressed.
Smacking should not, however, be the only way you interact with a child/ You should not only punish or reward that child. A good upbringing needs to be a combination of both rewards for doing right and punishment for doing wrong.
You could argue that a lot of people on council estates use smacking and their kids still regularly do terrible things. This is true. However, I'll lay odds that in a lot of cases, the only interaction the parent (s) have with the children is to punish them.