It's so hard coping with a break up,but to suffer a bereavment at the same time is terrible.
I split up with my partner of over 10 years about 3 years ago.I still have dreams and wake up in a total panic.I can usually cope with it now,but the worst thing is similar to the op,she gets in touch now and again,just for a chat type of thing as friends,it throws me back,but have'nt got the guts to tell her to leave me alone.
As others have said,talking helps much more than anti d's,for a start they take too long to kick in,but a friendly,understanding ear is instant.Try not to lock yourself away,try to get out,but do avoid any trigger points,ie,things you used to do together or places that have a special meaning to you.
Do you have a herb shop like Holand and Barret near you?
Get some Valerian root very good for relaxation and non addictive,should help with the sleeping.
Remember,you think you're the only one right now,plenty of people feel just as bad or even worse,try to hang on,things WILL get better!!
