The AOL dialer is used as we aren't connecting to a VM broadband connection, but an AOL one.
As AOL won't start without screen name and password I tried, amongst others, just plugging in the router - modem not found, dosen't connect, no lights flashing on modem.
Next we tried putting username and password in the router, but can't find the cable modem, some lights flash but no connection. IE fails to connect.
Tried altering the AOL settings, but we were again stopped by the inability of the PC to see the CM.
The router installs on the PC without difficulty, of course.
Pulling the router restores the connection and AOL starts up normally.
I am going to have another bash this Wednesday. I'll restart the router in default configuration and see if Netgear's advice gets me further.
If I had my way I'd push for my nephew to get VM broadand, when all would be simple.
It would be simple if his phone line would accept a digital signal and he wasn't hijacking the Virgin phone line for his AOL broadband.
If I find a solution, I'll post it - even if it makes me look a chump for missing something obvious, as someone else may find it useful

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Cheers
Rick