Thanks again for all replies. THREADBARE'S suggestion has done something significant.
If i send myself a message from Outlook it doesn't arrive in the inbox but arrives in the inbox of OE. If i send myself a message from Outlook and THEN click the Send/Receive button(as Threadbare suggested) i do receive the message in my Outlook inbox!!!(Please note, this is the Send/Receive button and not the Send button that i obviously press when sending the e mail!!) Now, have i just been stupid in not knowing that i should be doing this
or(as i assumed) Outlook should be doing this automatically?? I have gone onto Send/Receive settings but can see nothing obvious to change. Anyone got any suggestions? I feel we are getting close now folks so one more push and my troubles will be over