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Originally Posted by greencreeper
Ages ago Electrolyte needed help with a Linux issue so I added him to my MSN list, and we still chat. I've often wondered what his parents would make of him chatting to a much older gay man. Would they think I was trying to seduce him? Would they worry that their perfect son had strayed onto the wild side - and blame me for leading him there?
So, any thoughts? Would you feel uneasy about your teenage son talking to an, er, old puff? What if the leader of the youth group or art teacher was gay - would being able to talk to the person and see him make any difference? What about gay men adopting children - is that appropriate or do think a female is needed? Why do you think there are issues, or am I being paranoid and in reality there are none?
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Yes, I would be worried about my son speaking to a much older gay man. I have not avoided the question and hope you dont take offence at my honest answer.
On the other hand I can see it from your point of view, just because you are interested in men doesn't mean you fancy every man or young boy. It's just the same that I dont fancy every woman I see walking down the street.
I am always uneasy about the subject and wouldn't get too involved in a project with the scouts because it is the route taken by males looking for childre. I also refused to look after a former girlfriends daughter whilst she went out for the night, because I would never want to be wrongly accused of anything like that.
I was in a situation towards the end of last year when a gilfriend dumped me and said she couldnt trust me because I was not religious and may interfere with her two young daughters like Ian Huntley did!
I was shocked, and don't know how she could of come to this conclusion, then I wondered if it was because I'm in my late 30's never been married and I am living alone. I suppose it could make some people wonder about me, and quite frankly I can understand it.
I suppose the situation could be classed as similar, perhaps someone such as yourself who is obviously very open is actually safer than someone who is not so open.
For the record, I am straight and honest. There was absolutely no reason for the things the woman said, I never actually met her kids for her to come to any conclusions.