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Originally Posted by Russ D
lololol 
I wouldn't go that far....but what didn't help was the person who brought her 'complaint' to my attention was male and he certainly seemed to be on her side. |
hmm us blokes should stick together, or maybe he was trying to find his feminine side
It's extremely diifficult to read anyone with just the typed word, even with emoticons. Face to face you can often see by body language and perhaps expression that somebody is gettig uncomfortable and it's time to change tack. Even by phone you might get some idea from the tone of voice. email is a harsh medium.
Peer pressure, may have made it difficult for her perhaps to say no wherever you probably publicly (reading between the lines) made contact asking was it OK to email, and she positively responded. Even if she did then receive and open the email (without knowing how she then put you down), she should have been able to simply say, on second thoughts, sorry, but I can't help. Put as simply as that, you would have been able to accept that inability and left it there.
It sounds as though neither you or her have been able to find that simple, oops step to far, leave this alone and stop now, common ground.