[Russ]

I have to be very careful how I word this as not to give the game away regarding who this involves, but I really need the opinions of others to ensure I don't go totally loopy.

I recently asked someone for some advice. I gave an outline of what the matter was but due to time restrictions, we could not discuss it in full and asked if I could email her to explain, to which I was told I could.

And I did.

I've now found out that this person was apparently slightly offended and embarrassed by what I asked, saying it was nothing to do with any area of her expertise and didn't really appreciate my email.

But why? She knew what the problem was, she knew I wanted her opinion, I asked if I could email her and she said I could - if she felt so strongly and uncomfortable about the subject (yes - it was the subject she didn't like, NOT the content) why did she agree to my emailing her? I was told that she probably felt too embarrassed to say no - my view on this is that it can't be my responsibility if she didn't have the courtesy or ability to say 'no' to my request about emailing her. Although we've all probably been in situations where we've felt it hard to say no, she had no business in complaining about my actions if she knew what it was about and invited me to discuss it further.

This has really annoyed me tonight. I cannot see what the problem is. It's hard for me to find any sympathy for someone who kicks up such a fuss like this when they were in control of it ever getting off the groung in the first place.

Sorry for ranting but I really need to ask you lot - who's in the wrong?