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Originally Posted by Ramrod
exactly!
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The law allows for doctors not to advise the parents when a child of 14 wishes to go on the pill, so I assume that the medical staff involved were within their rights not to tell the mother about this procedure.
This whole situation is unfortunate, but probably more common than we realise (not all mothers go to the tabloids when they do find out - if they ever do)
As I have stated before, my personal belief if that the parents should be consulted, however I am not so naive as to assume that there is never a time when doing this will do more harm than good. (I know of a friend, who at 17 told her parents she was pregnant, and they told her to either abort, or leave their house and never come back- fortunately her boyfriend (now husband of 7 years) and his family were more than supportive - even when her dad went round to their house, where she was now living, and threatened to "beat the living s#1t" out of the boyfriend).
We do not know what sort of relationship the girl has/had with her mother, just that she didn't feel that she could confide in her about this issue. When it all came to light, we are informed that the mother was supportive, and the girl realised she could have told her, and decided to keep the baby (unfortunately too late).
What we do not know is whether the mother convinced her of this, or whether the girl wanted too, but was too ashamed to discuss it with her mother for fear of upsetting her.
People can have a wonderful relationship with their parents, but because it is so good, and the parents have been so supportive, they feel that something like this is going to be a cause of embarrasment for them and they feel that this may sour the relationship. Unfortunately for most, this turns out to be a false fear, but by the time they realise that parents still love and support you even if you do something that you think(maybe correctly) will cause them embarrasment and pain it is too late, as the percieved lack of trust will more than likely cause the relationship to sour.
In a large number of cases love will still forgive all.....