Basically, a few points I wanna say:
1. Try out
Love@Lycos. A friend of mine found a girl on there and they have been going a long time now. When my emmigration is sorted, and if i'm going to remain here, then it is the first place i'd choose.
2. Don't think you are too ugly. Noone is. How you act speaks far more. I know where you are coming from though, because I used to think the same way. But my older brother, is a little big bigger than me, or the same size. He certainly isn't an oil painting, but he doesn't do bad for women, I must say. Looking at him smashes the myth in my head, that I can't get women because i'm too fat. I now think it's my character. I'm not outgoing enough. He is VERY outgoing (way past the point of brash even) but it seems to work. I know your very shy, but like Debsy says, try and work at that, and over time you'll get better. As she said again, do some volenteer work. Spend more time around people. Try saying different things and see how people react. If you always say something wrong, you can always pull out and try something else. And anyway, girls love someone with a social conscience. What helped for me (besides going away to university), was bar work. People always want to be friendly with barstaff, so it is only half the work, but once your interracting with people just try different things and be a little more outgoing. It's hard, I know cuz i've been there, (still there most of my friends still say i'm far too shy), but i've also come a long way too.
3. Don't try too hard (or at all?) Like Debsy said (again?
) People tend to find partners when they least expect it. When I met my last girlfriend, I had totally given up on the idea of dating someone, and thought i'd take a break. Strangely enough she made her feelings clear and I had pulled. Maybe women can pick up those feelings.I must admit, if I was a woman, and I thought a guy was being nice to me just so he could get in my knickers, i'd probably keep him at arms length. So don't go overboard and lay it on too thick.
And good luck, don't give up hope mate.
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Originally Posted by alanmelon
Yeah, wait til you hit 23, then you can start worrying.
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Don't say that mate, you'll start getting me worried now.
