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Originally Posted by s1lv3r
The only problem with an overseas wedding is that you may be excluding some family members that desperately want to come, but can't afford to...
I missed my cousin getting married in South Africa and I was gutted. I felt it was an unfair demand on those of us in the family who had very little financially. We were being emotionally pushed into something we couldn't afford, because we felt it would be bad if the couple didn't have some family there. I don't think that is a choice we should put anyone through.
My cousin and I are not as close as we used to be and I think that the wedding location contributed to the decline in contact over the last few years.
Also, weddings tend to be far more important to older family members than we realise, one of my wife's relatives flew over from the US just for the ceremony. Not all older folks are that mobile though.
I'd feel very bad if any of my grandparents missed my wedding because I'd made it inaccessible to them.
A local wedding will make things a lot easier from this perspective.
Hope that helps bring another point of view.
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Yep, I know what you mean. We both only have one grandparent alive now, and she didn't come. Neither did any aunties and uncles. To be honest, we have not encountered any ill feeling afterwards.
But as our parents kept telling us............its our day - never forget that. You don't want to compromise your plans just to make someone else happy.
We largely wanted to keep the cost down. The holiday itself was expensive, but at least we saw where the money went. We probably only spent half we would have done here.