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Originally Posted by skyblueheroes
My experience was that I was part of a small family, and my wife has a large family. Partly due to keeping cost down, and not wanting to annoy anyone we got married in Antigua.
We basically booked it and told everyone. We said that we don't care who booked or who came, more the better.
In the end we have just the right people (as in - willing to pay to come) inc both parents, sisters and friends. We had a fantastic time over there. When we got back we had arranged an evening reception for all work mates and relatives etc. Just a simple room with buffet, DJ etc. Good night had by all.
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The only problem with an overseas wedding is that you may be excluding some family members that desperately want to come, but can't afford to...
I missed my cousin getting married in South Africa and I was gutted. I felt it was an unfair demand on those of us in the family who had very little financially. We were being emotionally pushed into something we couldn't afford, because we felt it would be bad if the couple didn't have some family there. I don't think that is a choice we should put anyone through.
My cousin and I are not as close as we used to be and I think that the wedding location contributed to the decline in contact over the last few years.
Also, weddings tend to be far more important to older family members than we realise, one of my wife's relatives flew over from the US just for the ceremony. Not all older folks are that mobile though.
I'd feel very bad if any of my grandparents missed my wedding because I'd made it inaccessible to them.
A local wedding will make things a lot easier from this perspective.
Hope that helps bring another point of view.