Pseudocommunity
The first response of a group in seeking to form a community is most often to try to fake it. The members attempt to be an instant community by being extremly pleasant with one another and avoiding all disagreement.
What is diagnostic of pseudocommunity is the minimization, the lack of acknowledgement, or the ignoring of individual differences. In pseudocommunity it is as if every individual member is poerating according to the same book of etiquette. The rules of this book are: Don't do or say anything that might offend someone else; if someone does or says anything that offends, annouys, or irritates you, act as if nothing has happened and pretend not to be bothered in the least; and if some form of disagreement should show signs of appearing, change the subject as quickly and smoothly as possible -rules that any good hostess knows.
From the book "The Different Drum" by M Scott Peck
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