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Originally Posted by Flubflow
My original post was a very a small one so there was no need for you to snip portions out in the quote. If you think your argument is that strong then there should be no need for you to falsely lessen the impact of mine in this way.
Yes children do learn that a slap means that they have done something wrong. Wouldn't you rather not have to slap them at all and get an even better result (especially the child not crying his/her eyes out and hating you even just for a short time)? Also, with positive discipline there is a certain amount of self-learning and general improvement in attitude so that you lessen the chance of other offences occuring for which you would still have to smack for. Specific reactionary physical punishment is just a series of smacks for specific brands of naughtiness throughout each stage of development until eventually they are too old to be smacked.
Doing things more positively does not mean talking to the child in the fashion of an old hippy cliche after the event. It involves getting more involved with them using all of the time you can spare. If you really wanted to you could read about it, learn and try it out.
Anyway, I am one of the old f*ckers around here. Traditionally I am supposed to be the type that says, "bring back the birch" and all that stuff. If even I can realise that there is a more rewarding way then maybe you should give it some genuine thought.
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I'm sorry, I didn't realise snipping bits of your post would lessen their effect, after all, people would have read your post in its entirety before they read my response to it.
If it upsets you that much, perhaps you could respond to some of my earlier replies without snipping parts, such as if the theory you have put forward that using a quick slap as punishment breeds violence, how come society used to be a much less violent place, especially considering children were brought up witnessing/experiencing the cane being used in schools?
As I have said several times, trained professionals who know more about the techniques you've discussed have tried and failed with their own children.