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Originally Posted by kronas
as with many situations the culture is to drink, and remember and be merry that IMO is wrong if you go to a persons funeral especially your family's often the words 'lets get a nice stiff drink down us' comes in or 'lets remember him by getting a drink ' and i think to myself what are these people doing, its a somber time and you should have time to think, take in your loss...........
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In quite a few societies the idea is to celebrate the life of the departed.
I know of a number of people who left instructions that they were not to be mourned, but to be remembered with joy that they were loved by all.
I know that others feel completely the opposite.
In a previous job, when I got news that my Gran had passed away, a fellow worker who was an Indian gentleman could not believe that I did not want to go straight home to mourn the sad event. I explained to him that although I was very upset, there was nothing that I could do at that time and that I would join the family later in the day.
He then made the statement that ' The British people' had always fascinated him by our ability to carry on under the most trying of situations.
He meant it, and I took it, as a compliment.
OT i know but I thought it appropriate