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Originally Posted by chambece
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I don't actually think that this is actually an issue - from my past experiences.
Having never *donated* sperm I don't actually know the process, but we are familiar with other things in the system, and I would have thought that the same screening process would be in place.
If we want children then we will would need help, and although we cannot find out who helped us, we can find out about 'their' medical history.
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The other thing is that I feel this is slightly different to adoption - from what I understand, you, the adoptive parents, do not get to find out that much about the child - I would have thought that in a fair few cases toady it wouldn't even be possible to trace 'who donated the sperm' to a child that was put up for adoption, for reasons already stated. In addition to this, it probably wouldn't be in the child's best intrest if that *was* known.
The other thing is, again, as already stated, is that is pretty much an altruistic thing - and although the donation would still be if it wasn't annonymous, people may certainly be less likely to donate if there was any prospect of another child turning up at the door in twenty years time! It it'd be - "I'm John, 45, Married to my beautiful wife Jane for 18 years, with our two lovely kids, Jack, 16, And Jill 13. It's both our first marriage." when all of a sudden 19 year old Bob turns up at the door, "Hello Dad!". Bob may have gained a father, but this is gonna be a lot for the wife and kids to take in - and there could perhaps be a strong possibility that Jack an Jill could be loosing one!
Of course this can happen for egg donation too, but I don't mean to sound sexist, (but it's gonna), but I think in many ways the implications, whilst still as severe, are a little more 'explainable' - If a kid turned up at you door, and you'd never given birth, and said "Hello Mum" you'd know something was amiss - It'd be intresting to get a womans' point of view on this - If you found out your husband had a child, how would that go down?