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We will make sure the R is OK.


I'm speaking to her on Thursday and let her know she's not alone, and if she need me I'll be there.

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That's lovely and I'm sure her Mum will appreciate that Hom3r as a parent I know that I would. It's just a pity that R and your niece broke up as R sounds a lovely caring girl and very mature for her years and who know's they might get back together in the future, if not I hope they remain friends.

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I too do hope they can stay friends.

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My mums was at my sisters yesterday, lookinh after my niece and making sure she eats, R turned up with some flowers for K and collect some of her stuff.

My mum asked her how she was, she started to answer then burst into tears.

My mum told her that she's not alone and that we will all look after her.

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Such a sad and frustrating illness. I have been reading all your posts Hom3r and my heart goes out to you all. I may not be posting much at the moment but please know that I am here most days, hoping to hear that that things improve.

Hang in there, you are one of the most caring people it has been my pleasure to know and if there is anything I can do, even if it's just giving you a shoulder to lean on I will be here for you.

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I spoke to R today and told her again that she's not alone, and I'll look after you.


I said about on saturdays if she wants go to the cinema, drink or meal. She seemed ok.


Earlier she had a blood test and wanted someone to go with her as she doesn't feel to good after.

just as well I went as she nearly passed out, so walking her when she was able to walk I supported her arm as we walked, I joked about people think my mum and me are married, so I said I wonder what people think when they see us walking is is lucky gut or sugar daddy :D that got a laugh.

Plus she said that she is staying down here and not going back home to Glasgow.


Plus on the positive side my nice got 2 A's in her first years A-Level results, shes just go
t the BTEC Law result to come.

Im so sorry this is going on :(

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Unfortuneatley it's not a quick fix.

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Don't force her to eat, be mindful of what she does eat and if you can find out what worries her most about what she eats this can help.

My daughter became obsessed with exercise whilst she was in the midst of anorexia. Fortunately this gave us a way of encouraging her to eat protein rich foods and carbs so she got the energy to exercise. She is still very wary of too much butter or oil, but otherwise is well and now does not exercise excessively. She walks a lot and cycles in moderation.

Whilst she was away at uni, we used to eat together over skype. It meant I could see what she was eating and suggest energy boosters.

Also getting the right therapist is essential.

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She's not being forced, but she measures as close to the exact weight and measurement as possible, and she has been know to sneak of and exercise.

I was with her this morning and my sister had prepared everything I needed while I was there.

She did spend a lond time in the shower, i tried to listen to see if I could anything out of the norm.


She is seeing a therapist.

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While we were on holiday, she had gained weight.

This week my mum was with her, and she thought she saw her pocketing some food.


Well this afternoon, she had lost weight.

So next week she must eat all meals at the table and wear clothing without pockets.

Next Friday is D-Day to see if she is admitted, the therapist will have the admission papers ready, incase she needs to be admitted.

Today was my alternate Friday off, so I was with her, and talking about her illness, which is similar to drug & alcohol addictions.

Part of me wants her to be admitted so she gets the 24 hour supervision she needs.


Just bben told she can do one of her A levels at home or residential, should it be required.

The other A Level will be done next year.

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Hom3r you must realise an anorexic will cheat and lie to your face. It IS just as bad as a drug or alcohol addiction if not worse!

I know you may not be keen on the idea but her being admitted for specialist care would be the best thing.

I hate to appear as being cruel or insensitive but believe me I'm not. She has a mental health issue that the family cannot cope with but will be essential to her recovery once she has undergone the specialist treatment she obviously needs.
Stop burying your head in the sand she needs help!

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I understand totally what you are saying.

She is seeing a professional, she is the one who will decide if she is taken in to residential care.

My sister said if she had been at college, they would remove her from it.

She has been caught out cheating/hiding food.

But I guess the experts see if the person can overcome it with help from family, before taking family out of the equation.

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I don't think they will take your family out of the equation Hom3r as Family therapy seems to work well with ED maybe your sister could ask your niece's therapist if this is an option and if so what is the waiting time for Family therapy within your area. Family therapy is exactly that for the family where you all discuss how this horrid illness affects all, it is my understanding once someone becomes anorexic outside help is needed the majority of the time.


Family therapy involves you and your family talking to a therapist, exploring how anorexia has affected you and how your family can support you to get better.

Your therapist will also help you find ways to manage difficult feelings and situations to stop you from relapsing into unhealthy eating habits once your therapy ends.

You can have the sessions together with your family or on your own with the therapist. Family therapy is sometimes offered in a group with other families.

You will usually be offered 18 to 20 sessions over a year, and your therapist will regularly check that the schedule is still working for you.

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/anorexia/treatment/

I agree with Pip and that an anorexic will cheat and lie to your face and what the family need to remember this is the illness, not the person as once an ED has you in its clutches it controls you a bit like an addict a drug addict will do and say anything for the next fix, an alcoholic will do and say anything for the next drink and someone with Anorexia will also do and say anything to convince other's that they have eaten, not exercised etc basically what you have experienced with your niece, I also thought Angua tip was good if your niece likes to exercise you could maybe also try and mention protien bars like Angua did. Your niece is lucky to have such a caring Uncle and supportive family take care Hom3r

I'm sending you a :hugs: Hom3r as I know this must be really hard on you to see someone who you love and care about so much and I suspect you're also worried about your sister.

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Thanks