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Well,he may have put it crudely but he is basically correct..She is very unlikely to find a position that pays well unless she has some really much required skills where her appearance can be discounted.
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I agree...while the job centre advisor may have been rude, it doesn't make it any less of the truth. If I went to an interview showing face studs and numerous large tattoos, I wouldn't be looked at twice, no matter what my skills are.
I think, to get a job, she needs to at least remove and let heal, the face studs, as they make her look worse anyway. Why anyone would want to deface themselves like that is beyond me. I'm not against tattoos but having a stud in lips/cheeks is a bit much for me. However, as she says, its her lifestyle choice, but she needs to deal with the consequences of that particular choice. |
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The Job Centre was giving her honest feedback, although a little bit insensitive in the way it was delivered! :p: |
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Instead of commenting about how she looks in relation to her job hunting perhaps the advisor should be taking courses to help him do his job without having to get personal or abusive..
What an idiot!! |
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It would be nice if we could all get the jobs we want, looking whatever way we like but realistically,pragmatically it's not going to happen any time soon.:shrug: |
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And the point could have been put across by simply saying "Your Tattoos and peircings may effect your job hunting"
Instead he gave an answer that would make most people complain... I used to turn upto a lot of customer jobs in full biking gear and strip down in warm offices to a top that showed off one of my tattoos, did they tell me to put a paper bag over my head.. Nope, instead they were happy with the quality of my work and always asked for me personally on future calls... If comments like that are all the guy can make then he shouldn't be in a job that involves him talking to human beings.. |
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The trouble is the english language can be corrupted, take this point.
You have a college that has done your head in you say "Go home will you", if that person comes from an ethic minority then it could be deem racist. |
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Dignity at work..takes a beating
I'm not keen on piercing..but always wondered about the girls getting tongue pierced No harm thinking :D |
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She looks awful.
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,because the perception is often that they are yobbish. Now, I am not saying that all people who have tattoos or body piercings are yobs. They aren't. It's just people percieve them as such. |
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He didn't tell her to put a paper bag over her head though did he ,neither did he tell her stand behind a wall .He was trying to get her to decide how her appearance would affect her job hunting without resulting to telling her she looks ridiculous and doesn't stand a cat in hells chance of getting a decent job looking like a pin cushion
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Oh please looking the way she does i am struggling to believe she is that thin skinned and i am sure similar comments have been made in the past. Was he right in saying what he did well that all depends on the context of the full conversation something this woman has no reason to fully disclose at this point in case it shows she wasn't badly treated. I would prefer all the facts before jumping in and condemning this worker as i think there is probably more to this then what we have seen so far usually is in these types of cases.
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I would say it's all depending on what job she or anyone is after really. not all jobs mean having to have an interview, do they? |
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There is no way of knowing how the complete interview went and the previous meetings went. I wonder if he was giving plain, blunt advice.
Would I, as a prospective employer, pick her out because of her looks? Nope. How much of a statement does she need to make? Does she have other qualities that an employer requires? She's not really redeeming herself to the fierce competition of the job market. I think that it's difficult to give advice to people on how to make themselves employable, sometimes, seeing as they couldn't do it for themsalves. Tact goes a long way: and back to my first sentence. |
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But aren't we discriminating? or on the border of it?
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The aspects of your appearance that you can choose to modify, can be seen to give an indication of your attitude and therefore your suitability to a job.
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But what if you had a mohican, a pierced tongue, dreadlocks, face that looked like you put the make up on with a trowel?
could we get to the stage where the unemployed get told how they have to look if they want benefits? that would be funny though. all the unemployed going to sign on in suits and wearing acceptable footwear. |
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What you can do if you have face studs, is remove them for interviews, and use a wax filler.
One thing any employer will look at is "will this person fit in?" You wouldn't employ a Chelsea fan if all you works supported Millwall |
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Those look would unlikely get a job dealing with the public, and most campanies have dress codes. |
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does anyone know what work she's looking for? |
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Believe me its best to not judge a book by its cover these days, inevitably someone will sue you! |
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Mebbe her character and appearance might fit the bill but if I had to choose between her and 200 others then I'd privately be wondering about her applitude, attitude and dedication. And I'd hopefully be more diplomatic in my response. I'm struggling to find a reason to say that she is the lass for a job. |
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I do know that a large number of people (even the best candidate) will be rejected just by their CV. |
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Here is the story from the local paper the day before it appeared in the Telegraph - strangely enough, it doesn't mention anything about a paper bag / head interface scenario.....
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Damn, she must have been lying about the paper bag bit because she didn't mention it before.
It's actually irrelevant anyway really. people have made up their minds about her without taking the paper bag into consideration :) |
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I disagree, Gary - If the JCP employee said what he is alleged to have said, he was wrong; I was pointing out that the original report did not mention this.
However, most people's first impression of the lady would be negative, and that may be the message he was trying to get across. |
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And so, it begins...................
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LOL is it really getting to the stage where any colour other than white is a taboo? I mentioned a mohican, and dreadlocks earlier. nobody batted an eyelid. mention a colour and peoples PC senses kick in. a psychologists wet dream :) |
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I don't mean better in you looking better than her. I mean better in discrimination. be that looks, colour or race. |
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20 body piercings? Seems excessive..maybe even smacks of obsessive.:erm:
One,two,three perhaps but that many would make me pause and wonder when considering someone with that many for a job..I also don't think anyone would have a leg to stand on claiming discrimination either. True it may not have a bearing on how well she could do a job but on the other hand someone who mutilates their body that many times might just have some issues that may lead to depression.Any hint of such a condition can make a would be employer shy away very quickly. I think she has made her self unemployable and insisting that she can't remove any of the facial ones indicates that she isn't really taking on board what potential employers may be looking for. |
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What if she's the sweetest and kindest person you'll ever meet?
would you blame it on "it's not me, I like her. it's my customers. they can be a bit funny and think the worse in people" ? or would you be honest and say what you really mean? saying that. you can't risk her wanting to top herself in the workplace. |
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Oh! - and I agree |
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just a small input to the thread, hopefully to give some perspective..
I was talking to someone who visited a food factory in Vietnam, recently - they weren't allowed into the production area until their finger nails had been trimmed. - on the second visit, a few months later, the same person cut her finger nails before the visit, in anticipation. - but the factory still insisted on trimming them, again, before allowing her in the production area. NO jewellery of any kind was allowed, rings, earrings, piercings, etc were specifically forbidden. - if you wanted a job at the factory, you complied with their standards, no arguments. There were always (several) people willing to comply, if you didn't... Now I'm not suggesting this is necessarily an universal scenario - but it does illustrate that in an area where getting a job is subject to intense competition, compromises may have to be made.. |
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People can glance at someone for 5 seconds and know more gut instincts - to get to know them better is your choice and holds whatever is in store and if you plain dont want to know then you don't. I keep thinking that the interviewer reacted in a way she might understand and for some reason it got into the papers:angel: |
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I can wear whatever I like when working at my own desk, because I work from home. But if I go out to meet a customer I have to be able to dress appropriately for that situation and dressing appropriately is as much about what I don't wear as what I do. The problem with body 'art' and piercings is, you can't always easily hide them or take them off. That's why they are problematic to so many employers. The girl in the article can put on a suit but she can't hide what she's done to her face. Any potential employer will see her as someone who sees her own personal body image and need for self-expression as more important than the ability to present herself in the way that might be appropriate in any particular situation. She does of course have the right to do that to herself. But she shouldn't be surprised if other people use what she has done to herself as a factor when evaluating her during a job interview. |
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This all reminds me of Pulp Fiction :)
The scene where he meets the drug dealers mrs and says something along the lines of - 'Who is the girl with all the (word i cannot say on a family forum but can say crap even though it means the same thing) in her face?' 'Oh, that's my wife.' Lol worthy, I mean seriously, would you even dream of turning up to an interview like that? Come on! |
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It looks to me like she has made herself unemployable. I'm aggrieved that the taxpayer has to then fund such a persons existence. Take it back to our hunter gatherer past. A hunter could, if he or she chose, wear bells around their wrists and ankles (a legitimate expression of their personality you may say) but then they wouldn't catch any game and would go hungry-tough luck! Fast forward 5000 years......we have a similar situation in a technological society and yet we are now expected to give the idiot in question a free lunch. Marvellous! :dozey: |
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????? What you on about, it's nothing to do with a culture lol |
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One thing picked up here is that she's restricting her job prospects by having such piercings/tattoos and as such has made herself unemployable...
I find that attitude quite pathetic... Have the piercings reduced her IQ?? Have they disabled her movements in any way?? Have they restricted her communting ability?? Do they stop her communicating with others?? In other words should the tattoos or piercings matter.. Just the same as color of your skin/hair, racial background, sexual preference and religion shouldn't matter... |
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You're conflating what should be with what is.
I could jump up and down and scream until I'm blue in the face about how much I'd love to be able to turn up at a client meeting in my comfy tee-shirt, combats and Merrells, but it won't make a scrap of difference. The shared, agreed values of the business community demand a certain dress code. If I want their business, I show respect for their wishes in this regard. Simples. ;) |
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The are many businesses that she could get a job with such as in a call centre for example.
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People looking for work in the present day have to be pragmatic and realistic. |
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Just me viewpoint Chris ;)
I will though freely admit that my tattoos are in places I can cover up and made that choice when I had them done, that still doesn't stop the fact that it shouldn't effect my ablity to do a job ;) Now buy me a coffee in the mods lounge before I give you a few tattoos and piercings ;) |
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I know it's your viewpoint ... and in fact, I wish the world was a little less obsessed with external appearances. The thing that gets me about all this is how unwilling she is to recognise that, for better or worse, other people have certain expectations and those other people are the ones with all the cards (money, job offers, etc). I know the article suggests the reason for her anger is the crass way the job centre adviser went about things, but I can't help thinking that what's really behind this is a sense on her part that someone has dared criticised the way she looks. Knowing when to stand out and when to fit in is a critical aspect of human behaviour. I suspect that the person in question here actually doesn't place much value on the concept of fitting in ever, under any circumstances. This would likely be the case even if she didn't have facial piercings and tattoos, but I don't think its unreasonable for an employer to use the fact that she has had those things done to her face to deduce that she may not be willing to conform in certain business situations. |
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or even emptying your bins?! :D nobody will care what she looks like then. |
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The jobcenter once sent me a woman for a receptionists job......she had "big boy" tatooed on her forarm...... If someone turns up for a customer facing job interview and can't even be bothered to cover up a thought provoking tatoo like that (or sports other interesting decorations) then they don't get considered for the job :shrug: .......obviously I took her number and contacted her for evening and weekend 'services' :D |
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No comment :D
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As such, he met the technical requirements of the job, but would have been absolutely awful at it. |
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If this jobcentre person did say this in a way i find it refreshing because as someone with a visual sign of my disability there is nothing worse then going for a job interview and having the interviewer clearly looking at it all the time but never daring to mention it. We are in a visually obsessed world right now and people like it or not have to play to that to a point and while it is all well and good to say that people should be able to express themselves anyway they want and in an ideal world that would be right in the world we have right now looks count and you get both judged and discounted on them. I have had to phone back many times and promise not to hold it against some people to find out the truth for why i never got a job even though i was often the most qualified and most suitable person and the answer has always been my disability. Do i like it no i don't do i understand it yes i do and as time has gone by my skin has thickened to the point where it doesn't bother me anymore and if you want to be visually different thats fine grow the skin to go with it stop expecting the world to molly coddle you something all too many people expect and demand these days precious little things.
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She chose her appearance. I'm sure she'll fit in fine somewhere. |
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My 2p is, she wants individuality and not to live inside what we conciser to be the 'normal visual box', and I am not saying that is right or wrong.
Then sorry, but unless she has the ways and means to cover the individualityness up 'yes it's a word :/' then she has wilfully excluded herself from the workplace normalness we normal people do, And as Caff says, "I'm sure she'll fit in fine somewhere." |
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I'd love a perfect world where looks weren't the basis of aquiring a job, but yes I agree that she hasn't made it easy for herself.. |
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We're all different thank goodness - that's as close as it gets :D |
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I never suggested that he should have ignored her looks, instead I suggested that he could have put it more tactfully (blunt or not) and pointed it out without getting into "Paper bags"
I also don't deny that it will effect her chances of work.. Perhaps that then needs addressing in employers attitudes than her looks :rolleyes: |
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I don't think there's a discrete class of person called 'an employer' to blame here. In my experience, the people running interviews are simply ordinary members of middle management from the department doing the recruiting, sometimes supported by someone from HR. And they make their decisions based on perfectly conventional expectations about personal presentation as well as competency. Those expectations are conventional because they are widely held.
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from what i seen at the job center they do have an attitude problem. when I'm waiting or go in to use the job points a lot of them are shouting. one girl in there came up to me once and said they pick on you for anything as she forgot to put the dates in her booklet and they said they were not going to pay her her money and the bad thing is she had a kid as well to look after.
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I worked with a couple who used to do body building, and have full body tattoos, face and hand were free of them.
But due to the job we did we where required to wear anti-static coats, you could not see them. |
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Here is another one who would have a tought time finding employment :D
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He looks stupid, though?
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She has put her personal statement over and above everything else. So long as she did that in the full knowledge and acceptance of the consequences, then fair enough. |
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The job centre adviser was crass in his approach, no doubt about that. But the reason the story made the news was that the way the person in question has chosen to 'decorate' herself. We all live in community and we are all connected to one another, no matter how badly we may wish to be individual and independent. What she has done is a departure from shared community values. It was always going to set her apart, to her disadvantage, in the community at large.
The question now is, to what extent she was aware of that and to what extent she understood, accepted and allowed for the fact that she was going to restrict her own opportunities. |
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I think it's more to do with peoples opinion of the out of work and getting free money that makes it a story. |
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