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:( ok my mate pete is due to get married next weekend to to i nice girl who
gose my the name of Alice well i Thought she was nice but it turns out she's been haveing an affair :mad: i just can't let her marrie my Friend knowing she's lied to him :( and so i wanna stop the wedding but how can i do so with out hurting him to bad and in the process exposing her for the person realey she is

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I believe the traditional method is to run in at the part where the priest/vicar/rabbi/whatever says "...and if anyone knows of any impedement...." :D

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obviously you need to tell pete everything you know. I'm puzzled as you why you have to ask what to do? are you afraid he wont believe you?

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And as for doing it without hurting him - well that's impossible! He will get hurt and probably hate you for lying (well in his eyes you will be! :rolleyes: ) if you tell him, or hate you when it all eventually comes out for not telling him. Not an easy situation at all :(

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IF i was you, i would tell him. I know it will not be easy to do, i am sure that he won't believe you and it will probably turn pete and his girl against you. How do you know that she is having an affair? do you have enough proof to be able to convince Pete? do you know the name of the guy who she is having an affair with?

Personally i think that in life you regret the things most are the things that you don't do, rather than the things that you do. If you tell Pete, then at least you will get it off your chest. Ok, so he may not react well, but at least you will know that you have done what you can for him.

MB

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your gonna need some really concrete evidence or you could make the situation worse , how do you know she has been having an affair ??????????? , is it hearsay or have you personally witnessed something , your gonna have to get this right or the situation could be made even worse :(

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Dont confront him, confront her.

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[conspiracy mode] pserhaps he is the person she has been having an affair with and feels guilty....[/conspiracy mode] ;)

seriously though take it up with her first...

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no no no , surely not :erm:

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yeh, i have to admit i thought 98 was a bit old to have an affair with someone, but hey.... could happen ;)

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Agree 100%.

Tell her either she tells him or you will. :)

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Exactly! How do you know she's been having an affair? I'd be very careful if I was you...

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I'd second this...There is also the question about "Does he know (or suspect) already?"

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yep i have all the evidence needed i will first go to Alice and ask her to tell pete what's been going on if she dose not do so i will do it for her in the process i will make her pay a dear price of the hurt she caused him :mad:

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don't let her just say she'll stop the affair. she must tell pete about it.
he needs to know what she's like so he can decide what to do.

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fireworks anyone , i must keep an eye on the news ;) , i can see where you are coming from about this , but , have you thought about this letting it run its own course and see what happens , taking this to an extreme for a minute , how do you know he doesnt know , ok so it is unlikely but you never know do you ;)

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Hmmm .... a menage a trois :disturbd:

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french :confused: :confused: :confused:

edit :- a quick google sorted that out :Yikes: :Yikes: :Yikes: :Yikes:

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"threesome" for us common joes

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I have to say I'd hate to be in SDA's position right now.It's a horrible thing to have to deal with on your own.
SDA,do you have any other mutual friend that you could discuss this with and get to back you up?

Incog.

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awwww paul u'r so innocent hun :pp

SDA i think you should talk to the lass..... you don't know the ins and outs of the relationship..... don't judge until you have spoken to her.....
as for this proof......since you haven't atually clarified if there is any, and what nature the proof is, it could be innocent or maybe it isn't.
if you feel strongly about it, speak to her, if not then leave them be