Re: Crush at work
 

H

that may be a little over-reacting.

Why not try something along the lines of "sorry you couldn't make it - when would be a good time?".

This leaves it open for her.

Re: Crush at work
 

From things she has said in the past she likes people to be upfront when asking someone out and seeing as this has dragged out for way too many months, I think maybe just setting the record strsaight and telling her my feelings may be a good idea. Tell her I wish we could get t know each other more, why I find her attractive, etc.

Re: Crush at work
 

Well don't be to disheartened if she chooses the friendship option.

I was given the same choice, opted for the friendship and then a few years later married the guy. Nearly 40 years of marriage later he's still my best friend.

Re: Crush at work
 

I personally wouldn't go too deep in telling her stuff. she might think it's too heavy and not want to bother after all. it's your first time with her. just have fun with her and see how it progresses after that. if she wants it to go any further she'll let you know. if she doesn't then don't despair, you can always do the revenge things suggested earlier :)

Re: Crush at work
 

Blimey - you must have got married young then ;)

Re: Crush at work
 

The thing is she knows and half the world around her know I like her. It's been obvious.
It's just I havent ever told her face to face or directly.

Re: Crush at work
 

But there's a difference (imho) between liking her and expressing deep feelings - it's OK at the beginning of a relationship to like someone and find them attractive, but to state anything more might be seen as being too "heavy", and wanting too much too soon (in an emotional sense).

Anyhoo, good luck.

Re: Crush at work
 

If your heavy and give her all your reasons why you fancy her you will blow it, don't forget you have had months and months of getting it all straight in your head and she may only just be thinking about you 'that' way..

Your gonna scare her off dude..

Take it easy, offer her another date and include your mobile number then she can contact you, women like nothing better to be chased but they get very very intrigued when you stop chasing..

It's her turn..

Re: Crush at work
 

Intrigued............ dont you mean relieved!!;)

Re: Crush at work
 

Ok how does this sound:

(Names and a few places details changed as it would be sods law she comes on here and reads it)

Re: Crush at work
 

Dont send it!!

Never put anything in writing, she may show it or send it on to others!

Personal chat would be better!

Re: Crush at work
 

Yeah but I dont have her number and Email is the only way.
I don't really mind if she shows others. I've nothing else to lose.

As women, would you think this letter is sounding ok?

I appreciate your help. :tu:

Re: Crush at work
 

I've used your letter with a few changes made, and sent it on to see if the reaction is a good or bad one.
I'll let you know what the women think :D

Re: Crush at work
 

OK here's my tuppennys' worth. I like the first paragraph and even if she shows it to anyone you just come over as a nice guy. I wouldn't use the last two paragraphs though as they are a bit over the top at this stage and mentioning staying friends if she doesn't want to go out with you just comes over defeatist.

Just add something like..

"I enjoy going out for a meal (pictures/whatever) and wondered if you would like to come with me."

Give her your phone number and ask her to ring you with her answer.

Re: Crush at work
 

Ok, I've got rid of:

I'll add the lines you reccomend. Thanks again :)