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Had similar problems with Tesco, i went to order an item of clothing and it was saying 1 instock but after signing in and adding to my basket it says something like....sorry we don't have enough of this item in stock....

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Well it has finally happened grant you far sooner than one suspected it would my Dad has just phoned me and asked me to do something that my sister said she was going to do but guess what she did not bother her excuse was that she forgot and advised him to ask me which he did and I finally said no I can't. I made a promise and I'm keeping it and that is I will not make it easy for her anymore and let's face it if I keep coming to the rescue then my Dad will never see her for she is or ever realise just what I am expected to do at a drop of a hat.

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Stay strong and try not to feel guilty

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Will do Hom3r but when I said no my Dad did say I beg your pardon and I said "Dad I said no can do Dad far too short notice sorry".

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Well done weenie.

I've been called in for a disciplinary meeting in 2 weeks time. I am now going to be nervous for the next 2 weeks. Ugh. Apparently my behaviour during a recent count was put into the customer feedback report and they need to discuss it with me. I cannot think of anything I've done wrong. Ugh.

Eventually, found out what it is about. Some job I did in March for VS, run by Americans. I swore at one of my coworkers in front of them. Thing is, a couple of others have also been called in for a disciplinary meeting.

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A sore posterior.:(

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it's bingo bum mate ;)

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What a morning we have had. We were on our way to a funeral and we had a piuncture in the car, I had turned off my mobile ( one that my daughter in law Had gave me last week , ) as we would be going into the service. The phone would not turn on the screen just went green and it was pouring of rain. I knocked a door for help and the couple could not have done enough for us, They let us phone the RAC and while Joe waited for them coming the man drove me to the service, We are now back in the house and now the phone is working when I charged it up again. This couple was a God Send,

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No me dear as its something that flares up now and again as when we went out the other day to visit a famous house the ride was sometimes rather bumpy in the wheelchair sadly.

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Wheelchair and cobblestones - now that gives me a numb bum!

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Oh nash sorry to hear that you had such an awful morning I hope the day improves for you and yes that couple was a God send.

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There are really very nice people who help others in distress, Weenie,

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Sometimes I feel I can't do anything right even when I thought I was good :(

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What with sickness diarrhoea headache and dizziness I had to cancel my transport to dialysis this morning gosh I feel terrible.

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It probably wasn't coming anyway! Hope you feel a bit better soon matey

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My thoughts are with you dilli as l hope and pray that you will feel better soon.

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I actually managed to get a drs appointment (as soon as I told them I'm a dialysis patient) so off to the dr shortly.

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l am glad of that dilli.:tu:

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What's the point of making a bullying complaint when it gets basically swept under the rug, especially when that person is on one of their last warnings? I need to get out of that company, they keep promising me work then never give me it.

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I feel knackered.

It's the end of our financial year at work, so as a requisitioner (purchaser), I've spent the last few weeks getting quotes for equipment, most of which I've never even heard of, and ordering it. We have to have all the deliveries today (a deadline I am already going to miss, as two suppliers have had problems with stock, and have not been able to deliver), and I have a pile of equipment in boxes in my office that I can't get rid of as the lecturers who have ordered it are not answering my emails asking where they want it sent. The reason for the panic? The Uni operating a system whereby any unused budget is clawed back, and the lecturers failing to realise they will have unspent money at the end of the year in reasonable time to get equipment ordered and in.

Thankfully, my line manager's boss has stated that next year, the last date for orders (to ensure we get any quotes and equipment in for 31st July) is the last day of May.

It's not even as though the equipment is anything particularly interesting.

---------- Post added at 16:03 ---------- Previous post was at 15:57 ----------

I feel a bit the same way. Getting out of the company, I mean. My problem is not them not giving me work. There is plenty of that. The trouble is it's mostly administrative tasks (such as the requisitioning I mentioned above). That's not what I applied for my job for. It's also not what I did my degree for.

Regarding your own position, is it possible for you to move to a different building? While it's not an ideal solution to the problem of bullying, it would at least reduces the chances of you being bullied?

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Sorry to hear that Dill Hope you are feeling better by now

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Sadly with bullying , discrimination , sexism and some other things it is often paid insincere lip service to Mark and often swept underneath the carpet but l do hope things improve quickly for you as its never nice being bullied.

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I can't move office sadly, my only option is to resign and then not be allowed to claim benefits. I have applied for some agency work today so hopefully that comes off so I can pick and choose my shifts. Must say, one manager has been brilliant. The one I had all the issues with last year, laid into a group of them who were teasing me last week when it was obvious I wasn't in the mood for teasing. She told them it has to stop, if they carry on then I can make a complaint about them for bullying and that it might be wise to not let that happen. A couple who were there that night and with me yesterday did apologise to me, saying they never realised it upset me that much. I told them normally it doesn't bother me, I love a laugh as much as anyone but since the whole thing with my Nan started my sense of humour has failed big time.

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I prescribe Marmite on toast. :tu:

(be strong Dilli)

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As you may recall I thought I lost my engagement ring last month, hubby is just off the phone to me and my engagement ring and wedding band are going into the jewelers to be rhodium plated and taken down a size as he said we really cannot risk me losing them.

Why is this moan well because I will be without both rings for 10 days :( but the good news is they will come back all shiny and brand new looking. I'm looking forward to seeing them back to their former glory just not looking forward to not having them while the progress is being done.

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You sure he's not just after a 10 day loan against them? :erm:


;)

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LOL

That is what my friend said as she knows we have just had my engagement valued for insurance purposed and let's just say the report was a shock and so much more than we expected.

Well tbh she never said 10 day loan she said pawn shop.

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This wretched excuse for a Summer. We've been down here in Cornwall for nearly three weeks and you can count the days it didn't rain on the fingers of one hand.

It's all rain and mist now as I type. At least we're in that guaranteed oasis of the British pub.

Must be hell for those with kids on a camping holiday not to mention the strain on the wallet.

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Sadly old bean this is typical of a British summer.:(

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Except that it's not usually this relentlessly awful. Especially in July/August.

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Really feel fed up and downhearted with all this rain, Is there no end to it, not really a dressing person. but getting that way

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Having to argue the toss just to get a copy of my prescription from the dialysis team.

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You should not have to do that as they should have to give it to you without any hassle for your self..

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People who stir trouble, suffice it to say the last 48 hours has been full of arguments with 2 people at work.

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Some people Mark tend to love drama sadly, what I tend to do is ignore trouble makers 9 times out of 10 they soon move on to someone who is willing to play there game the game I call tit for tat.

I personally think in cases like this it is far better to watch the show than be in it!

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Well said Weenie,

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So tomorrow, I was scheduled to go literally 15 minutes down the road to count, and then it disappears from my schedule. I query it, and now I am expected to go to Worthing, 111 miles away, to help another office AND train some new starters too while counting. So not impressed with this.

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Do you get paid for travel time?

It's good that they look to you when people need training, and it's also good on your CV.

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Only paid for travel over 100 miles, and then it's only 8p a mile, so 88p there and 88p back. I just would rather be doing the job just down the road.

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That's disgusting - you will be travelling for around 4 hours unpaid, and then losing money on the travel.

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Tell me about it. Still, by the time we get down there they should have the back of store done, and all we have to do is assist with the shop floor which is over 2 levels. I did it in February, we got to the store at 15:27 and didn't leave until 01:47.

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Mark do you not have a union who could negotiate better terms and conditions and if not you and your co workers could always join a Union.

https://worksmart.org.uk/work-rights...n-i-join-union

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Sadly, we don't. And been told that because we are all on zero hour contracts they don't owe us anything. Never mind the fact that when I joined I was promised a minimum of 16 hours a week.

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Mark have you thought about shop work Sainsburys, Asda etc where you would more than likely be offered anything between a 8-20 hour contract and remember you would more than likely be offered overtime plus working in supermarkets at least you would have holiday pay etc.

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You can claim the milage from hmrc, form P8700 iirc

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Mark supermarkets tend to advertise for the Christmas period staring from September through to November they usually say the post is for a temporary basis but saying that many do get kept on if they show that they are a good worker.

Also in relation to your current employer you do have rights even on a zero hour contract.

http://www.acas.org.uk/index.aspx?articleid=4469

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Can I claim it though? I don't actually drive, I just sit in a van and get driven to jobs.

Also weenie, I am looking now for a job with more regular hours as they are taking the absolute Mickey Thomas. Someone suggested to me that I email HR on Monday to see what they can advise.

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:doh: No it's not for you then

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Sadly I predict a large vets bill as my poor dog is not too good at all so will have to make him an appointment asap. Over the last week he just seems to be off his food and let's just say his toilet is not good at all :(

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l hope its not too serious weenie as do you have pet insurance for your dog as that can help with the hefty bills..

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Filling out forms. Especially as I can't see the firm and have to rely on Natalie to do it for me.

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Even Einstein would have had trouble with these forms.

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Logging in to the EDF website to put in a meter reading. They now have an extra capcha stage where you have to tick images that have a certain character such as a car in them. Bleeding thing! It took me 7 or 8 goes to get in. If there's any reason to change supplier this has to be top of the list: Stupid websites.

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Sadly den we don't we used to have pet insurance but the premiums kept going up and when they wanted £80.00 plus a month yes a month once he reached 10 we then decided to cancel. We were also advised by our vet because our dog is slightly overweight they might not pay out for certain conditions :(

What we do now is we have a savings account on where we put money away each month so we should be covered for a while. I know this may sound bad but I would not do what many I know have did and pay out thousands for a operation that will only give my dog a extended period of say 6-12 months.

When the time comes which I'm dreading by the way then we will way up the situation and if it is going to give him a better quality of life & high percent of cure then we will go for. I will not do what we did with our first dog and that was we kept him going for as long as possible but looking back this was selfish on our part and the only excuse I can give is we were young and naive as we took out a loan that we were still paying long after our first dog had passed, the only thing I would still do the same and I have no regrets at all doing is we paid for him to get cremated separately and his ashes returned to us I think that cost alone just over £100 and that's going back 15 years ago.

I had to laugh today when I phoned for a vets appointment and they said tomorrow at 5pm and can you bring a urine sample as that is one of the reasons why were taking him is he can't seem to pee atm among other stuff, so I really do not know how I'm expected to do this I think I may leave this job to hubby ;)

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Hope your dog gets better soon

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Thanks nash.

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Hope your pooch gets better, you could try the dogs trust

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I get this sometimes on a plain old Google web page. Seriously? You need to prove you're human to use a search engine??

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Thanks TD don't know if the dogs trust would pay for treatment I think if they did offer this service it would be means tested therefore hubby would more than likely earn too much.

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Damn it to Hell. Because I switched jobs yesterday without anyone being told, I have now had a PCR added to my personnel file. A PCR is a Performance Counselling Record, in other words it's a record of me being absent from work. I am so angry about it. Don't think the manager will be able to help me get it off my file though, as I don't see why I should suffer when it wasn't my fault that I was moved to her job.

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This must happen all the time, HR is bound to have a mechanism in place to sort it

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You're clearly under a great deal of stress for all sorts of understandable reasons and have bravely admitted to anger issues here recently. I think you ought to get some help from your GP before all this takes its toll and you either get ill or blow up and do something you later regret. Counselling can be a big help in situations like these and I speak as someone who's been very dismissive of it in the past but have come to realise how valuable is through my own painful personal circumstances, albeit quite a long time ago now. You clearly don't mind seeking help here but now's the time to seek proper professional advice and pay heed to it. I'm sure everyone here wishes you good luck. :tu:

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Or join a union who would sort out issues like this for you.

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I would if I knew which union to join, and it's not counselling as in counselling we think of, it's just the fancy name they give their formal warnings for not showing up to a job. I can have it removed from my file, but I would need to talk to the manager who gave me it. As I am firmly against him (he still owes me money from March, which has been escalated to area management) and will always back the other manager against him so the chances of me getting it removed are slim to none.

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The counselling I was referring to has nothing to do with your employer and would be arranged via you GP and would cover all aspects of your life. Given what's going on I'd have thought it'd be the way to go before something really serious happens either to your health or as a result of anger due to all the stress you're under e.g. being dismissed or assaulting someone. Only you can decide however.

http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/counsel...roduction.aspx

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You seem to be in constant conflict with one person or another. Think you need to take time to examine why and just try to calm down a little

I've taken my sisters kids away for the week and places are charging my niece adult prices as she is over 15.

One of these is the greyhound racin something she cannot drink at or gamble at.

The law should be changed making it illegal for places to charge adult fares for under 18s

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Pathetic BBC can't even get a weather forecast to work in Countryfile. These idiots really are drinking in the last chance saloon.

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Just assume it's going to rain, you'll be right most of the time. :(

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You really have to laugh and feel sorry at people who can only criticize you especially when they need you far more than you need them, and they wonder why their grandsons don't visit. Apparently I spend too much and I should get my dog put down since he is now getting old and has needed to go the vets a few times this year. He even had the nerve to say that I don't need to put flowers on my Mum's grave every week honestly it took me all my time to not say and what be like you and my sister and have my Mother's grave look forgotten and bare so instead I replied Dad it is helping me grieve. Honestly I really dislike him atm still love him just finding it really hard to understand him tbh

Trust me my Dad is walking on very thin ice atm I'm afraid to say and I thought what a low blow even for him commenting on the flowers I buy weekly to place on my Mum's grave.

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Maybe it's too painful for them to go to the grave weenie? But yes, what a low blow. At least he had the guts to do the low blow to your face, unlike some people I know.

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Mark he say's so much if I told you it would make you squirm honestly I have told a few people who I totally trust with what is going on and they are disgusted at him, hubby said he is just a bully always has been and now my Mum is no longer here he just let's rip on me. Unfortunately for me his words hurt and my mood swings are causing my hubby whip lash one minute I'm up and the next I'm down and in tears.

He said 6 things to me today

I should get my dog put down (no way why because I love him)
Why is hubby getting my wedding ring made (don't know ask him)
Why did I need such a big car (hubby picked it so ask him)
Why did we waste our money in sending our son to China (to give him a experience of a life time)
Why do I need to place flowers on my Mum's grave (because I love my Mum and still do)
I lie down to my illness (no I do not)

I have gave my answers on here yet I can't say these to him.


Trust me Mark he constantly brings me down and I have had to stop hubby going over I wish I could get angry but I just get upset. It has got to the stage that when he phones I dread picking up the phone as I know my good day has ended.

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I wonder if he does it to undermine your confidence?

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l don't think you are far wrong there TD as it happens more then some imagine..

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Seems to be a horrible person and should be ignored ;)

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He is a bully who has to feel he is in charge. I can't believe that you are related to such a horrible person but I can certainly see where your sister inherited her caring and loving traits from.

Either put the phone down quietly as soon as he start to make unwelcome comments or work out a phone code for those people you are happy to speak to on the phone. I used a double ring when I phoned my Dad, as did his brother and friends. It ensured that his sister's venomous calls went unanswered. The other alternative is to use an answer machine.

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Thank TD, nash, den and Jo.

I have been advised not to give him the opportunity of stealing my happiness. I suspect that I will kick myself many times as I know I might slip up it could be something as simple as phoning him and saying good news the dog is going to be ok as it's only a infection he has or Guess what Dad your grandson beat his pb today in the gym or the wee one is Maths 2.

Sadly even these simple conversations my joy is shot down with his negative comments as he always has something negative to say like the dog should be put down, or should he not be studying or phone me when he is in maths 1 as no one ever remembers 2nd place as these are all conversations that I have experienced with him.

So for now he will not be hearing about my life atm, I have also been advised that when I take him shopping I have to make him realise that I'm at the shops for him alone so I have not even to pick up a pint of milk what I have to do is say Dad I will meet you here, now this should be good as hubby say's this will shock him and guess what our next shopping trip is next Wednesday. I only hope and pray I have the strength to do this.

When I told hubby of this advice he said and you could always add now remember and get everything from here as this is the only supermarket that I will be taking you to as I have given some thought about what you said remember you said that I waste money and spend too much well I have given this some thought Dad and your right, so I've now decided to take your advice and to be more thrifty and by not traveling to 3 supermarkets for you to save a penny here and there I'm now going to save on fuel, wear and tear on my BIG car as well as the environment are you proud of me Dad :D naturally hubby was joking well I hope he was as I'm sure he would never expect me to say this but he made me laugh as I know he would say this without a second thought.

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Easier said than done when that person is eroding your confidence and self esteem at every opportunity, it's a pretty effective method of controlling someone and a hard cycle to break when you're so close to that person

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Yip and at the end of the day it's my Dad not making any excuses for him but its hard and I just cannot turn my back on him. I'm learning to change atm but it will take time but I will get there. I have a good support network of people in the know mainly hubby and eldest son and my Mother in Law.

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Bad English on discount adverts: "Save up to 50% off" Wrong!

It's either "Save up to 50%" or it's "Up to 50% off"

As irritating as the relentless odd pricing

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You can add to that quoting a price in digit form.

e.g. £389 - three eight nine :mad::td:

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People who talk to Natalie while I’m in the chair like I’m not there or invisible.

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Dilli that is there problem and not yours it's called ignorance, unfortunately many people seem to be top of the class in having that quality I'm sorry to have to have to say.

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Idiots with pushchairs.

Last Monday we were walking down Regent Road in Great Yarmouth, when some numpty walked into my mum with a pushchair, she fell onto the pavement.

The next thing I remember I'm kneeling on the floor, a woman came over and took control, we eased my mum into a seated position with me supporting her.

She has a small cut where her sunglasses hinge hit the skin.

She's OK now.

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Summed up perfectly weenie.

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That's what you get for wearing camouflage while in a wheelchair like this


https://www.cableforum.co.uk/images/...2017/08/18.jpg


That must be so annoying for you!

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And that's just the people that know you!

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Freezer packed in today. Managed to get some things into my fridge, but I will have to give most of it away tomorrow , what a day.

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Sorry to hear about that nash as have you got any insurance for that type of thing?.

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What rotten luck nash, hope the freezer was not full, plus I hope your insurance cover's you for this loss. :sorry:

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Never had insurance for it Den. Another one coming tomorrow,, I really feel down as well headache, bones sore throat sore. Not my day at all

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Six months ago some numpty crashed into my sisters parked car.

last week her insurance came through, a £600 increase, she queried it they said well blah blah blah, she cancelled it and went elsewhere

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it happened to me a load came off a trailer and damage the paintwork on my parked car next quote had gone up 250 quid i called and they said but its a claim no i said its on someone else's insurance they said it didn't matter then i said but i paid extra for no claims discount protection they said it wouldn't protect me so i joined confused .com and got insured for 200 quid that's 75% cheaper than aviva .

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It’s been a few weeks now and despite all the needles they still can’t get my fistula to work :(

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Just to make me more grumpy I now have to do extra dialysis sessions because I’m not doing well enough. I really don’t know if I can be bothered much longer.

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l know how tough dialysis can be dilli as l feel for you a lot as my late uncle had to have it several times during a week and it was extremely tiring for him and no doubt you probably feel the same..:hugs:

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Thinking of you Dill Take Care, we're all with you

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dilli your having such a rough time at the moment and the your feeling is only natural giving what your going through and your past medical history.

If I were you I would discuss how your feeling with your consultant, nurse or GP as I'm quite sure they have heard these feelings before maybe they could offer some advice.

dilli you are one of the strongest people I know but here is a hug in the hope it will make you feel slightly better :hugs: take care and hopefully your consultant, nurse or GP can give some help to how your feeling.

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Ugh my laptop has gone kaput. Needs a new fan. Can't find one online so have to wait for Tuesday morning to call the manufacturer to see about getting a new fan. Buy means I'm without a laptop for now. Might have to buy a new laptop though.

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What is the exact fault? I had the POST report the fan was faulty in my HP laptop but it turned out that Windows (W7 Pro) had borked the BIOS. Overriding the message, starting up the machine and then shutting it down fixed the problem.