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nashville 07-07-2017 10:57

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Originally Posted by Uncle Peter (Post 35906485)
When my house was built some numpty decided to plant 4 hybrid black poplar trees in the front garden. They are now approaching 80ft tall and the roots are undermining the driveway and the drains have had to be repaired on several occasions recently. There's a great deal of expense looming on the horizon methinks.

People forget trees grow to some height. We used to have 13 trees around our corner house and it was always dark, The council took 8 of them away. I used to think trees were nice. Now I detest them

weenie 07-07-2017 12:39

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Originally Posted by nashville (Post 35906536)
People forget trees grow to some height. We used to have 13 trees around our corner house and it was always dark, The council took 8 of them away. I used to think trees were nice. Now I detest them

Yes they do nash they also forget the damage trees can cause to someone's home. Nash like you I used to like trees that was until my neighbour was willing to leave me with a property with both a lot of problems and be basically worthless. I still cannot believe how someone could be so stupid both by there failings to take any action and her selfish attitude. I remember when my neighbour was asked why are you willing to risk and cause such structure damage to not only your own property but your neighbours, my neighbour replied in a very arrogant tone "because when and if that happens I won't be here as I'm an elderly lady you know" in which the Judge replied "my dear you could be 102 but you still have a duty of care to your neighbours property" At the end of the day she ended up with a lot of interdicts against her. I do think it is very sad that she has also ended up with CCJ against her but at the end of the day this could have been so easily avoided.

nashville 07-07-2017 16:18

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Originally Posted by weenie (Post 35906547)
Yes they do nash they also forget the damage trees can cause to someone's home. Nash like you I used to like trees that was until my neighbour was willing to leave me with a property with both a lot of problems and be basically worthless. I still cannot believe how someone could be so stupid both by there failings to take any action and her selfish attitude. I remember when my neighbour was asked why are you willing to risk and cause such structure damage to not only your own property but your neighbours, my neighbour replied in a very arrogant tone "because when and if that happens I won't be here as I'm an elderly lady you know" in which the Judge replied "my dear you could be 102 but you still have a duty of care to your neighbours property" At the end of the day she ended up with a lot of interdicts against her. I do think it is very sad that she has also ended up with CCJ against her but at the end of the day this could have been so easily avoided.

Cheers Weenie ;)

Osem 07-07-2017 19:00

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Originally Posted by denphone (Post 35906327)
Even looking away the feel and the thought of needles can make a grown man or woman agonize.

Osem Jnr # 2 always hated having blood tests etc. and it was truly horrendous having to hold him down whilst he struggled and screamed. As he grew older and got stronger it became almost impossible to hold him and we really dreaded the prospect every time it had to be done then something remarkable happened. I needed a number of blood tests before I had my surgery a couple of years ago and on one occasion we took him with us to the hospital. When I was called in I decided to ask if he could come in with me hoping he'd see me having it done and that would stop him being so scared. As it turned out, it was even better than that. After I had mine done, he wanted to have his blood taken and got quite upset when we had to tell him he couldn't have it done. The best part is that ever since that day, having a blood test is so much easier. He's 6ft 2" and a strong as an ox so there's no way anyone could hold him down now and to be honest it's an extremely painful thing for any parent to have to do.

denphone 08-07-2017 04:27

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Bloody noisy street neighbours.:(:(:td::td:

Russ 08-07-2017 05:50

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Extortionate Family Court fees :afire:

papa smurf 08-07-2017 11:15

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scooters hundreds of bloody scooter driving past on way to beach surrounded by the blue haze of 2 stroke oil what a racket

papa smurf 08-07-2017 16:04

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aghhh its been like this all day

http://www.grimsbytelegraph.co.uk/ne...ttracts-166241

denphone 08-07-2017 18:42

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Originally Posted by papa smurf (Post 35906709)

l hope that you kept out of trouble.;)

weenie 09-07-2017 18:17

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It never rains but it pours as they say. My Dad wanted me and my sister to go through my Mum's clothes last Sunday personally I thought this was far too soon but naturally I did as he requested although I suspect my sister was the driving force behind this, anyway I realised mid week that my engagement ring was missing and I'm both very upset and kicking myself as due to weight loss because of my illness my engagement was too big and my hubby kept saying let's get that resized doll and guess what I never got round to it.

I just have this underlying gut feeling that my engagement has fell off into one of the bags that were either taken to the charity shop or dump :( and to be honest I'm dreading making a claim as I have no receipt as the ring was bought over 30 years ago plus the insurance card that came with my engagement ring has since been lost due to moving house 3 times but I do have pictures of it sadly the jewelers that we bought it from has since closed down.

I was wondering can anyone advice on claiming is it really worth the hassle as I just cannot be bothered as I have my Mum's funeral tomorrow. I'm finding everyday life extremely hard at the moment and I feel this is a hassle that I could without tbh and anyway the ring might turn up I just do not know what to do. Hubby thinks the ring is lost as we have checked everywhere and we should make a claim sooner rather than later but the way I look at it is we have the money to buy a replacement if needed so why be hassled with making a claim.

nashville 09-07-2017 18:55

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Weenie, you are really have a bad time, Did you ask the Charity shop to check for you, I hope it turns up for you, I am not sure about insurances but when my engagement ring was stolen from my house along with other jewellery in a break in, The insurance asked the year it was bought and what we paid for it and they valued it from that,

I will be thinking of you and your Dad and family tomorrow , take Care Hugs

joglynne 09-07-2017 19:37

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I agree with Nash, I had to claim for a lost ring and the insurance claim was relatively simple. I was able to let them have a photo of the ring and they worked out the replacement value in a similar way. I think it helped that we had only made one previous claim and had been with them for over 15 years at the time.

I shall also be thinking of you tomorrow sweetie.

Jo.

weenie 09-07-2017 20:39

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@ nash I have asked my Dad to ask my sister what charity shop she used.

@ Jo we have only been with Direct Line for 7 years and although they dealt with our legal expenses we remain claim free.

My ring was quite unusual due to being two tone, it was a half carat twist solitaire in two tone 18ct gold the base was yellow gold and the top of the ring was white gold many people thought my ring was all white gold. I have looked on line and have came across nothing that resembles my ring. The closest I have came across is this but my ring cost hubby £850.00 many many years ago no where near this price. https://www.fraserhart.co.uk/18ct-wh...aire-ring.html

Image this ring being half yellow gold at the bottom and this is my ring.



Thanks Jo and nash to be honest I'm absolutely dreading tomorrow.

weenie 09-07-2017 22:51

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@ nash & Jo, looking through my phone I found these pictures of my lost engagement ring and to think I took these pictures to show my friend via text message the state of my nails. I hope this will help the insurance company should I claim as I am still undecided at what to do. If you look closely you will see the ring is both yellow and white gold. I'm still hopeful that my engagement turns up.

Why is these pictures showing today's date :confused:

TheDaddy 10-07-2017 08:30

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Originally Posted by weenie (Post 35906892)
It never rains but it pours as they say. My Dad wanted me and my sister to go through my Mum's clothes last Sunday personally I thought this was far too soon but naturally I did as he requested although I suspect my sister was the driving force behind this, anyway I realised mid week that my engagement ring was missing and I'm both very upset and kicking myself as due to weight loss because of my illness my engagement was too big and my hubby kept saying let's get that resized doll and guess what I never got round to it.

I just have this underlying gut feeling that my engagement has fell off into one of the bags that were either taken to the charity shop or dump :( and to be honest I'm dreading making a claim as I have no receipt as the ring was bought over 30 years ago plus the insurance card that came with my engagement ring has since been lost due to moving house 3 times but I do have pictures of it sadly the jewelers that we bought it from has since closed down.

I was wondering can anyone advice on claiming is it really worth the hassle as I just cannot be bothered as I have my Mum's funeral tomorrow. I'm finding everyday life extremely hard at the moment and I feel this is a hassle that I could without tbh and anyway the ring might turn up I just do not know what to do. Hubby thinks the ring is lost as we have checked everywhere and we should make a claim sooner rather than later but the way I look at it is we have the money to buy a replacement if needed so why be hassled with making a claim.

I think I'd claim, it won't be that much of a hassle and it might help you to focus on something else for a short while. I hope the funeral goes as well as possible for you to.

papa smurf 10-07-2017 09:39

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got another letter from big bill :mad: this time it's big electric bill

heero_yuy 10-07-2017 09:58

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Originally Posted by papa smurf (Post 35907022)
got another letter from big bill :mad: this time it's big electric bill

As Blackadder would say: I feel like a pelican - everywhere I look there's a giant bill in front of me. :D

denphone 10-07-2017 10:04

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Car park attendant's hovering around and taking license plate photos even before one gets out the car..

nashville 10-07-2017 11:28

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Originally Posted by weenie (Post 35906941)
@ nash I have asked my Dad to ask my sister what charity shop she used.

@ Jo we have only been with Direct Line for 7 years and although they dealt with our legal expenses we remain claim free.

My ring was quite unusual due to being two tone, it was a half carat twist solitaire in two tone 18ct gold the base was yellow gold and the top of the ring was white gold many people thought my ring was all white gold. I have looked on line and have came across nothing that resembles my ring. The closest I have came across is this but my ring cost hubby £850.00 many many years ago no where near this price. https://www.fraserhart.co.uk/18ct-wh...aire-ring.html

Image this ring being half yellow gold at the bottom and this is my ring.



Thanks Jo and nash to be honest I'm absolutely dreading tomorrow.

Looks beautiful Weenie

joglynne 10-07-2017 15:55

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Originally Posted by nashville (Post 35907054)
Looks beautiful Weenie

..... and yet again I agree with nash. Hope you are OK.

Jo

weenie 11-07-2017 14:49

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After putting a claim in yesterday I'm pleased to say that this morning the claim was cancelled as my wonderful husband found it in my jewelry box I swear we had looked here at least 5 times. I'm just so pleased that my beautiful engagement ring has been found and the claim cancelled, I know this may sound strange but my left hand feels complete again. The engagement ring is going straight to the jewellers tomorrow to be resized.

I had put the engagement ring in one of the drawers where I keep the most precious things to me like my son's baby hospital bands etc.

denphone 11-07-2017 15:08

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That is fantastic news weenie.:tu:

nashville 11-07-2017 15:47

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This is brilliant news Weenie, you have had so much on your mind lately and just forgot where you put it, You deserve this good news, So happy for you

joglynne 11-07-2017 15:55

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I am so happy for you weenie.

I can now admit that I have spent several hours scouring the net for ring like yours hoping that I could in some way help you to come to terms with losing the ring that meant so much to you. I have found more preloved rings than I ever dreamed existed but never found one that matched yours.

Jo.

heero_yuy 11-07-2017 17:53

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Glad you found it weenie. A replacement could never have the same emotional value as the original.

Osem 11-07-2017 18:34

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Originally Posted by weenie (Post 35906892)
It never rains but it pours as they say. My Dad wanted me and my sister to go through my Mum's clothes last Sunday personally I thought this was far too soon but naturally I did as he requested although I suspect my sister was the driving force behind this, anyway I realised mid week that my engagement ring was missing and I'm both very upset and kicking myself as due to weight loss because of my illness my engagement was too big and my hubby kept saying let's get that resized doll and guess what I never got round to it.

I just have this underlying gut feeling that my engagement has fell off into one of the bags that were either taken to the charity shop or dump :( and to be honest I'm dreading making a claim as I have no receipt as the ring was bought over 30 years ago plus the insurance card that came with my engagement ring has since been lost due to moving house 3 times but I do have pictures of it sadly the jewelers that we bought it from has since closed down.

I was wondering can anyone advice on claiming is it really worth the hassle as I just cannot be bothered as I have my Mum's funeral tomorrow. I'm finding everyday life extremely hard at the moment and I feel this is a hassle that I could without tbh and anyway the ring might turn up I just do not know what to do. Hubby thinks the ring is lost as we have checked everywhere and we should make a claim sooner rather than later but the way I look at it is we have the money to buy a replacement if needed so why be hassled with making a claim.

Sorry to hear this weenie but I lost my wedding ring in similar circumstances and later, after a load of panicking, found that it had fallen off in my bum bag when I'd put something in there. Before you do anything else just think about checking the other places you'd have been, jacket pockets, car, under the bed, sofa, kitchen draws, handbags, dirty linen basket etc etc. There's loads of places it could have come off. I even heard about a guy recently who'd found a ring having lost it years ago - it'd come off in a pair of gloves he used to wear and when he put them on there it was.

I hope you find it weenie and have a good feeling that you will. :hugs:

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Oooopppppsssss,

Just read on and found out the result. :)

Great news weenie!!!

(note to self - must read all posts before replying... :) )

TheDaddy 13-07-2017 07:06

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Originally Posted by weenie (Post 35907360)
After putting a claim in yesterday I'm pleased to say that this morning the claim was cancelled as my wonderful husband found it in my jewelry box I swear we had looked here at least 5 times. I'm just so pleased that my beautiful engagement ring has been found and the claim cancelled, I know this may sound strange but my left hand feels complete again. The engagement ring is going straight to the jewellers tomorrow to be resized.

I had put the engagement ring in one of the drawers where I keep the most precious things to me like my son's baby hospital bands etc.


Good news, really pleased for you :tu:

heero_yuy 13-07-2017 08:51

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Computer threw a wobbly on boot this morning: a GREEN screen of death from Windows and suggested a reboot if this was the first time I'd seen it.

It rebooted with no problems except asking the normal "start windows normally" Seems to be running OK.

papa smurf 13-07-2017 09:24

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Originally Posted by heero_yuy (Post 35907622)
Computer threw a wobbly on boot this morning: a GREEN screen of death from Windows and suggested a reboot if this was the first time I'd seen it.

It rebooted with no problems except asking the normal "start windows normally" Seems to be running OK.

i'll give you my tried and tested fix everything method

if it's analogue thump it

if it's digital reboot it

denphone 13-07-2017 09:26

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Originally Posted by papa smurf (Post 35907629)
i'll give you my tried and tested fix everything method

if it's analogue thump it

if it's digital reboot it

You must become less violent old boy as you need to count to 10.;)

papa smurf 13-07-2017 09:29

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Originally Posted by denphone (Post 35907630)
You must become less violent old boy as you need to count to 10.;)

i have just imparted a lifetime's knowledge in that post one could show more gratitude ;)

heero_yuy 13-07-2017 09:44

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Originally Posted by papa smurf (Post 35907631)
i have just imparted a lifetime's knowledge in that post one could show more gratitude ;)

You do of course know the difference between an Engineer and a layperson?

Spoiler: 
The Engineer knows where to hit it.:D

tweetiepooh 13-07-2017 09:57

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Originally Posted by papa smurf (Post 35907631)
i have just imparted a lifetime's knowledge in that post one could show more gratitude ;)

So true, the less mature just throw it across the room, then next stage is the kick and as you become fully enlightened a thump of just the correct weight and location.

dilli-theclaw 13-07-2017 15:26

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Tax credit overpayment!!! More than seven years ago but they finally caught up with me, still it's all paid off now.

Osem 13-07-2017 15:44

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Originally Posted by dilli-theclaw (Post 35907667)
Tax credit overpayment!!! More than seven years ago but they finally caught up with me, still it's all paid off now.

Well it is all fiendishly confusing isn't it. No wonder mistakes are made.

papa smurf 13-07-2017 15:48

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Originally Posted by dilli-theclaw (Post 35907667)
Tax credit overpayment!!! More than seven years ago but they finally caught up with me, still it's all paid off now.

if you were underpaid seven years ago i doubt they would be so keen ;)

weenie 13-07-2017 16:12

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Only tried to claim this once when it first came out only to be told a big fat NO, so never bothered again. Yet I have a friend who let just say is better off than us that received this benefit but I suspect her and her hubby never declared their actual earnings as he was self employed.

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Originally Posted by dilli-theclaw (Post 35907667)
Tax credit overpayment!!! More than seven years ago but they finally caught up with me, still it's all paid off now.

:( At least it is paid off now dilli

nashville 13-07-2017 17:08

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All paid now Den, Weenie ,How are you today?

denphone 13-07-2017 17:27

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l am not too bad nash as its not too hot today thankfully.

weenie 14-07-2017 15:04

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I know this is bad but the more I'm experiencing my Dad and sister the more I dislike them as human beings as they really are not very nice people in where family means nothing, honestly they do not have a family bone in their body peas in a pod that is what they are.

The two of them deserve each other with their weird idea's. My Dad promised me something only to be told that he and my sister had discussed this matter and guess what he has changed his mind it was nothing of value just yet another broken promise.

I will no longer be taking an active part in his life example hospital appointments, paying his bills etc I will still help out sometimes just not as much he can ask my sister and all I'm saying good luck with that as he will need it trust me.

I need to keep my distance to safe guard myself from further hurt and confusion, Weenie is no longer a doormat for them to wipe their feet on.

I'M DONE!

joglynne 14-07-2017 15:43

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@ weenie.

Big pat on the back from me. Hear weenie ROAR, our mouse has turned into a fearsome Tiger. :D

nashville 14-07-2017 16:12

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Originally Posted by weenie (Post 35907821)
I know this is bad but the more I'm experiencing my Dad and sister the more I dislike them as human beings as they really are not very nice people in where family means nothing, honestly they do not have a family bone in their body peas in a pod that is what they are.

The two of them deserve each other with their weird idea's. My Dad promised me something only to be told that he and my sister had discussed this matter and guess what he has changed his mind it was nothing of value just yet another broken promise.

I will no longer be taking an active part in his life example hospital appointments, paying his bills etc I will still help out sometimes just not as much he can ask my sister and all I'm saying good luck with that as he will need it trust me.

I need to keep my distance to safe guard myself from further hurt and confusion, Weenie is no longer a doormat for them to wipe their feet on.

I'M DONE!

Enough is enough sometimes. ;) Take care of yourself and your own

MalteseFalcon 14-07-2017 20:39

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I'm scared. My Nan begged me to call 999, she wants to be in hospital because she feels safer there than at home. She thinks she only has days to live, I am trying to remain optimistic but I am struggling like crazy to be optimistic with her attitude. When she had the breast cancer, she was determined to fight it. This time, it's like she has accepted she will die imminently from the brain lesions. I feel so alone, and scared.

weenie 14-07-2017 21:21

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Oh Mark just remember that your Nan is very scared as she is at the moment facing what must seem another battle. It may seem that your Nan has given up but no one really knows how one feels or is dealing with their current situation. Mark all you can do is be strong for your Nan be there for her, be brave for her, be a ear for her, a shoulder to place her head in times of trouble and most important be strong for her by doing this for your Nan believe it or not you will be helping more than you ever know as been there done that and at times after dropping my Mum home after yet another hospital appointment I used drive around the corner pull up and cry my eyes out but never once did I show this stress or upset to my Mum as I wanted to be her rock and I have no regrets in doing this although it was extremely hard at times especially when I was asked how I was coping I simply replied I'm fine while inside I was crumbling.

Do you want to know something I would do it all over again in a heartbeat for my MUM and give my eye teeth for just one more minute with her and hear her voice.

If you need to talk do not hesitate in sending me a pm but I won't lie Mark it is hard but you will be the Grandson I know you are and you do have the strength within you to cope my friend.

denphone 15-07-2017 05:37

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Originally Posted by joglynne (Post 35907826)
@ weenie.

Big pat on the back from me. Hear weenie ROAR, our mouse has turned into a fearsome Tiger. :D

Indeed jo weenie has been faced with a family situation which l am sure many have faced and weenie has definitely done the right thing :tu: as things would just fester if one does nothing sadly.

MalteseFalcon 15-07-2017 08:42

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She didn't go to hospital in the end, I think it was just a panic attack. I came so close to calling my manager last night, I know we've had differences but for some reason I just really wanted to hear her voice last night. I resisted though. Ugh. I know she's scared, I am too. I have cried so many times at work over this.

dilli-theclaw 15-07-2017 19:43

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Just fell asleep for a full 24hrs but I'm still tired :(

weenie 16-07-2017 16:20

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Originally Posted by dilli-theclaw (Post 35907990)
Just fell asleep for a full 24hrs but I'm still tired :(

You must have needed it dilli, take care.

nashville 16-07-2017 16:42

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Glad it was a panick attack Mark although they can be frightening, Hope you are what well rested now Dill

Hom3r 16-07-2017 16:49

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Originally Posted by denphone (Post 35907029)
Car park attendant's hovering around and taking license plate photos even before one gets out the car..

I would ask him "What the fuff are you doing, I haven't given you permission to take a photo of my car delete it now and go away"

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Originally Posted by weenie (Post 35906972)
@ nash & Jo, looking through my phone I found these pictures of my lost engagement ring and to think I took these pictures to show my friend via text message the state of my nails. I hope this will help the insurance company should I claim as I am still undecided at what to do. If you look closely you will see the ring is both yellow and white gold. I'm still hopeful that my engagement turns up.

Why is these pictures showing today's date :confused:

Upload time and date?

MalteseFalcon 17-07-2017 02:21

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Thanks nash.

Had a full on nuclear meltdown at work. Stood there and screamed at them all, like proper screaming. They all looked so shocked, they've never seen me lose my cool like that before.

MalteseFalcon 17-07-2017 08:38

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Nan back in hospital. Rather than waking me up to feed the cat, she tried doing it herself and fell over. Stupid woman.

papa smurf 17-07-2017 09:18

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Originally Posted by MarkC1984 (Post 35908131)
Nan back in hospital. Rather than waking me up to feed the cat, she tried doing it herself and fell over. Stupid woman.

old folk don't like giving up their independence they like to do things for themselves even if it's obvious they can't .

MalteseFalcon 17-07-2017 11:13

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It was just because she didn't want to wake me up as I hadn't got in until after 2 this morning. I told her, just because I was asleep didn't mean she shouldn't have woken me. I could easily have dozed during the day.

weenie 17-07-2017 11:30

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Mark does your Nan used any mobility aids if not then maybe something like this might be worth trying.

https://www.ebay.co.uk/i/17264369832...5983114&crdt=0

weenie 17-07-2017 12:08

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My hubby is really annoyed at me I called my Dad to see how he was doing as he never calls me any more unless he wants me to do something so I decided to call him and the first thing he asked if my hubby was home and I said no he's over at his mates. In the very next breathe he said that my sister is complaining about doing his washing and that he had no intention of doing his own washing and guess what I said don't worry Dad I will do if needed, now I'm just so annoyed with myself as hubby is really annoyed.

I asked hubby if he thinks my sister knew I would offer and he replied of course they both knew as honestly you are the most selfless person I know and your Dad and sister take advantage of that. I'm just so annoyed as all weekend I have been saying and promising my family that things have changed and I will not be doing A,B & C well I have landed myself in it by offering to do my Dad's washing.

My sister who is complaining about the washing only washes it then takes it back to our Dad's still wet, whereas I wash, dry and iron it for him so I know my Dad prefers me doing it, my eldest has said Mum you need to that just wash it and take it back wet just say that your too busy to dry and iron it as you have a family of 4 and even my Aunt could not do this and there is only the two of them.

What was I supposed to do talk about being between a rock and a hard place, should I have allowed my Dad who does not want to wash his clothes, bedding etc and has now got rid of his washing machine get on with it or do I annoy my family who think I'm being taken for granted.

I just could not have allowed my Dad to get stressed over something so trivial that I can do so easily, I really do not see the big issue here so what if my sister & Dad do not want to do the washing like I say I can do it quite easily but hubby and eldest son thinks I'm being taking for a mug, they just keep saying you really can't see it can you but I keep thinking they can't see it from my view point do they really expect me to allow my Dad to do something that he has no intentions nor wants to do.

papa smurf 18-07-2017 10:36

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my mortgage should have been paid off on monday just contacted bank and i owe a staggering £1.57 which they will have to take next month ,it beggars belief why they couldn't take it all on monday .

dilli-theclaw 19-07-2017 16:34

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People who make a promise to me and then don't even try to keep it that grinds my gears.

Being a lazy scrounging bum - that winds me up.

Needles!

Quite frankly up yours life in general.!

Osem 19-07-2017 16:48

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Quote:

Originally Posted by weenie (Post 35907821)
I know this is bad but the more I'm experiencing my Dad and sister the more I dislike them as human beings as they really are not very nice people in where family means nothing, honestly they do not have a family bone in their body peas in a pod that is what they are.

The two of them deserve each other with their weird idea's. My Dad promised me something only to be told that he and my sister had discussed this matter and guess what he has changed his mind it was nothing of value just yet another broken promise.

I will no longer be taking an active part in his life example hospital appointments, paying his bills etc I will still help out sometimes just not as much he can ask my sister and all I'm saying good luck with that as he will need it trust me.

I need to keep my distance to safe guard myself from further hurt and confusion, Weenie is no longer a doormat for them to wipe their feet on.

I'M DONE!

Something very similar happened to me (it was a promise made not to me but to Osem Jnr) so I can fully appreciate how you feel. If I were you, I'd do what you feel you need to and let them get on with it. That's what I did and I don't regret it one bit. :hugs:

denphone 19-07-2017 18:05

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Quote:

Originally Posted by dilli-theclaw (Post 35908476)
People who make a promise to me and then don't even try to keep it that grinds my gears.

Sadly there are always some who talk the talk but don't walk the walk dilli.:(

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Originally Posted by dilli-theclaw (Post 35908476)
Being a lazy scrounging bum - that winds me up.

Ignore them dilli as what else can you expect from uneducated prejudiced brains who can't think rationally for themselves.

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Quote:

Originally Posted by dilli-theclaw (Post 35908476)
Needles!

Sadly they are not nice dilli as a invention where needles were replaced by something painless would certainly be something l think we would certainly be in the front of the queue for.

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Quote:

Originally Posted by dilli-theclaw (Post 35908476)
Quite frankly up yours life in general.!

Remember you are never on your own as you can PM me or others at anytime dilli.:ghugs:

MalteseFalcon 20-07-2017 08:27

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Suffering. So many people I love or care about are suffering with different things right now, and I feel so damn helpless seeing them suffer, as there is either nothing I can do or they don't want help in any form.

weenie 20-07-2017 12:00

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Originally Posted by MarkC1984 (Post 35908553)
Suffering. So many people I love or care about are suffering with different things right now, and I feel so damn helpless seeing them suffer, as there is either nothing I can do or they don't want help in any form.

Mark it certainly feels like that sometimes sadly and the only advice I can offer is for you offer a shoulder to cry on when and if needed, an ear for them to listen and if they talk let them even if what they are saying may not make sense it does to them for varies reasons as they will more than likely be worried and extremely scared.

I have experienced family who did not any help or to talk about things only for them to eventually want my support 24/7 which was ok with myself as I just let them go at their own pace.

Mark you know of my situation and I have brutally honest it is not easy. I have said that I used to say my Good byes in the best cheery voice that I could manage then pull my car up just round the corner out of sight and cry like a baby as I knew if I showed any form of upset then everything would go back to the I'm fine attitude we have also discussed this and it is my view this is a generation thing stiff upper lip and all that.

Mark honestly the family member's who do not help will do eventually maybe they are just coming to terms with what is going on and just ready yet.

In regards to your Nan you will feel helpless (because your also angry,scared and hurt) but I know your doing everything possible for your Nan and that is what makes you the fine young man and caring Grandson you are Mark.

You know where I am Mark should things get too heavy or you just need to rant, I may not be on much but I do check my emails daily so I will get back to you as soon as I see your PM.

Mark if your family mention medical worries that you can not answer jot them down on a piece of paper and you can either ask at the next hospital appointment or you can make a appointment with your GP, I did this Mark and I made the decision to tell my findings depending on the answer example when I found out that my Mum was getting tested for Motor Neuron Disease I decided not to say anything and I'm so glad I did as my Mum never had that but what my Mum did have was a tumor at the base of her skull again I discussed this with the hospital and it was agreed not to let my Mother know of this and she never asked for the results of the scan and neither did my Father, Mark this was one of the hardest thing's I have had to do.

Take care Mark and remember I think you should be proud of yourself.

denphone 20-07-2017 12:15

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Mum has had a accident in the kitchen.:(

weenie 20-07-2017 12:18

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Oh den I'm sorry to hear that and I hope and pray it is nothing too serious.

nashville 20-07-2017 15:47

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Quote:

Originally Posted by denphone (Post 35908567)
Mum has had a accident in the kitchen.:(

Hope she is not badly hurt Den.

denphone 20-07-2017 15:51

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Quote:

Originally Posted by weenie (Post 35908568)
Oh den I'm sorry to hear that and I hope and pray it is nothing too serious.

Thankfully we have checked her over countless times since weenie and praise be to god she is alright but my parents are so damn stubborn sometimes that is for sure.

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Originally Posted by nashville (Post 35908593)
Hope she is not badly hurt Den.

We just thank our lucky stars that she is okay nash.

MalteseFalcon 20-07-2017 17:07

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Thanks weenie, I know. And den, I assume like my Nan your parents are of that generation who have the mindset 'I don't want to be a burden to anyone'. Sadly, it will take things getting really bad before they will swallow their pride and accept help.

denphone 20-07-2017 17:15

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Yes you are right Mark as they like to do everything themselves but they don't realise they cannot do some of the stuff they used to do.

richard s 20-07-2017 21:24

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Being quoted £448 for a major car service.. thankfully I can do this myself for £150.

papa smurf 21-07-2017 12:33

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Quote:

Originally Posted by richard s (Post 35908634)
Being quoted £448 for a major car service.. thankfully I can do this myself for £150.

my mum needed a plumber yesterday [broken pipe ] first quote £800 for first hour followed by £400 for every extra half hour , a mate did it for £50 and that included £30 for parts .

denphone 21-07-2017 13:15

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Quote:

Originally Posted by papa smurf (Post 35908695)
my mum needed a plumber yesterday [broken pipe ] first quote £800 for first hour followed by £400 for every extra half hour , a mate did it for £50 and that included £30 for parts .

Legit l hope.;)

nashville 21-07-2017 13:34

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Quote:

Originally Posted by richard s (Post 35908634)
Being quoted £448 for a major car service.. thankfully I can do this myself for £150.

Big saving Richard ;)

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Quote:

Originally Posted by denphone (Post 35908700)
Legit l hope.;)

What a difference.

papa smurf 21-07-2017 14:09

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Quote:

Originally Posted by denphone (Post 35908700)
Legit l hope.;)

he's retired so you work it out ;)

richard s 21-07-2017 14:16

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Quote:

Originally Posted by papa smurf (Post 35908695)
my mum needed a plumber yesterday [broken pipe ] first quote £800 for first hour followed by £400 for every extra half hour , a mate did it for £50 and that included £30 for parts .

Ruddy hell £800 smackers what a rip off.

nashville 21-07-2017 14:38

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We had a Plummer came in one time for a choked toilet. He had been laying tiles for us the week before and was paid well for that, He came in had a look and went out to his van for plunger was in 5 minutes and said £30 please. We now have bought our own plunger

MalteseFalcon 21-07-2017 17:15

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Mixed news today. They are going to arrange radiotherapy to start ASAP so they can reduce the steroids, because the steroids are causing the weakness and lethargy. The oncologist then told me alone that even with radiotherapy, the likely time frame she has left is 3 to 12 months. It knocked me for 6, and then I find out that my mum knew on Wednesday afternoon but didn't tell me. I had to find out today on my own. I am so low right now.

denphone 21-07-2017 17:55

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Quote:

Originally Posted by papa smurf (Post 35908712)
he's retired so you work it out ;)

Don't worry l have already done that.;)

nashville 21-07-2017 17:59

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Quote:

Originally Posted by MarkC1984 (Post 35908729)
Mixed news today. They are going to arrange radiotherapy to start ASAP so they can reduce the steroids, because the steroids are causing the weakness and lethargy. The oncologist then told me alone that even with radiotherapy, the likely time frame she has left is 3 to 12 months. It knocked me for 6, and then I find out that my mum knew on Wednesday afternoon but didn't tell me. I had to find out today on my own. I am so low right now.

So sad to hear your news Mark, Thinking of you stay strong for her

Hugh 21-07-2017 22:40

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Quote:

Originally Posted by papa smurf (Post 35908695)
my mum needed a plumber yesterday [broken pipe ] first quote £800 for first hour followed by £400 for every extra half hour , a mate did it for £50 and that included £30 for parts .

That's just extracting the urine at those rates.

Our local plumbers charge £50 per hour plus parts.

papa smurf 22-07-2017 09:59

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Hugh (Post 35908756)
That's just extracting the urine at those rates.

Our local plumbers charge £50 per hour plus parts.

she was on the phone last night she said they offered £30 off the total bill cos she's a pensioner :shocked:

richard s 22-07-2017 20:18

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Phoned VM retensions got through to India (Ugh) tried to haggle a better deal... I said I paid £61.50 for (L) TV; 150Mb Broadband; Evening/Weekends free calls (does anybody think this is a good deal). So she offered me BT Sports and some other channels for £73.00 up £11.50. Talk about bloody useless. I wanted a better deal for the same amount of money not £11.50 more. I told her I wanted better TV programs.

She then sent me an e-mail listing of what I already have.... What the hell.

Seriously considering going to Sky (much to my hesitance).

Osem 22-07-2017 20:23

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Quote:

Originally Posted by papa smurf (Post 35908695)
my mum needed a plumber yesterday [broken pipe ] first quote £800 for first hour followed by £400 for every extra half hour , a mate did it for £50 and that included £30 for parts .

So called 'emergency plumbers' charge what they can get away with, especially when they know they're dealing with someone who's elderly or likely to be panicking whilst not even knowing how to turn the water off. It's outrageous. Watchdog filmed on of these ******* companies the other week - they were charging hundreds to do basic stuff like change a water tank ball valve when all that the researchers had done is bend the ball valve arm a little so the water level was raised and it overflowed. Total, utter *******s.

MalteseFalcon 22-07-2017 22:11

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Quote:

Originally Posted by richard s (Post 35908797)
Phoned VM retensions got through to India (Ugh) tried to haggle a better deal... I said I paid £61.50 for (L) TV; 150Mb Broadband; Evening/Weekends free calls (does anybody think this is a good deal). So she offered me BT Sports and some other channels for £73.00 up £11.50. Talk about bloody useless. I wanted a better deal for the same amount of money not £11.50 more. I told her I wanted better TV programs.

She then sent me an e-mail listing of what I already have.... What the hell.

Seriously considering going to Sky (much to my hesitance).

Try doing this on Monday (or any weekday, 150, 1 for the is this the account you are calling about, then 4 then 5) and just calmly say you have been looking at the package and notice you can get a slightly better deal at SKY but you really don't want the hassle of moving to them. What can they offer you to stay as a loyal customer, rather than leaving. They should then do a full review of the account with you and work out any deals that you might be entitled to (I do stress the word MIGHT) and then it's up to you whether you stay with them at the new price, stay on what you are on now or leave to join SKY.

denphone 23-07-2017 06:53

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My brothers went to a friendly football game yesterday and sadly a supporter collapsed and died at the match.:(

papa smurf 23-07-2017 08:58

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Quote:

Originally Posted by richard s (Post 35908797)
Phoned VM retensions got through to India (Ugh) tried to haggle a better deal... I said I paid £61.50 for (L) TV; 150Mb Broadband; Evening/Weekends free calls (does anybody think this is a good deal). So she offered me BT Sports and some other channels for £73.00 up £11.50. Talk about bloody useless. I wanted a better deal for the same amount of money not £11.50 more. I told her I wanted better TV programs.

She then sent me an e-mail listing of what I already have.... What the hell.

Seriously considering going to Sky (much to my hesitance).

cancel and then set up a new account in your other halves name new customers get discount existing ones don't ,when that deal runs out revert back to an account in your name .

Osem 23-07-2017 08:58

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Quote:

Originally Posted by denphone (Post 35908825)
My brothers went to a friendly football game yesterday and sadly a supporter collapsed and died at the match.:(

Yes it is very sad in some ways but at least the fan was doing something he loved at the time and didn't suffer for very long.

In life it's a toss up between the huge shock of a very sudden death as compared to the suffering of a slower and more painful one... :shrug:

weenie 23-07-2017 12:23

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Quote:

Originally Posted by MarkC1984 (Post 35908729)
Mixed news today. They are going to arrange radiotherapy to start ASAP so they can reduce the steroids, because the steroids are causing the weakness and lethargy. The oncologist then told me alone that even with radiotherapy, the likely time frame she has left is 3 to 12 months. It knocked me for 6, and then I find out that my mum knew on Wednesday afternoon but didn't tell me. I had to find out today on my own. I am so low right now.

Sorry for the news that you received Mark.

Hom3r 23-07-2017 13:11

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Their bring back The Generation Game

http://metro.co.uk/2017/07/22/mel-gi...eboot-6799258/

nashville 23-07-2017 13:38

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Quote:

Originally Posted by denphone (Post 35908825)
My brothers went to a friendly football game yesterday and sadly a supporter collapsed and died at the match.:(

What a shock for him. You never know the minute ,

denphone 23-07-2017 14:36

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Hom3r (Post 35908870)
Their bring back The Generation Game

http://metro.co.uk/2017/07/22/mel-gi...eboot-6799258/

Brucie was the best host of that by a country mile.

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Originally Posted by nashville (Post 35908878)
What a shock for him. You never know the minute ,

Sadly life can change in a instant nash as my motto is enjoy ones life as one never knows what is around the corner as sadly for him he is sadly no more and his family have to face the terrible grief of suddenly losing a treasured loved one.:(

MalteseFalcon 23-07-2017 14:44

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Mum really annoying me. Didn't want to know about it being her house when it came to having to have things repaired, now suddenly it's her house again. Make the most of seeing me around here, because I would rather be homeless when my Nan dies than live here still.

In fact, I wish it was me with the brain tumours.

weenie 23-07-2017 15:05

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Mark posting on my phone so hopefully it will upload. Mark just concentrate on your Nan atm try and not let your Mum bother you I know it is hard when you have a relative that screams me me me but on occasions like this your Mum and her views really are not the most important matter nor person here. You and I both know it's your Nan so you just carry on being you and caring for your Nan.

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I will pm you later today or tomorrow if that's ok

MalteseFalcon 23-07-2017 15:53

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That's fine weenie. I just feel like rubbish because it's just like it was 20 years ago. Everything is my fault, and I am sick of it.

Hom3r 23-07-2017 17:44

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you can get a poxy mobile signal up Mt Everest but can O2 get me a signal, I'm at the point of cancelling my contract, they will be joining EE.
#

Damien 23-07-2017 19:20

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EE are very good in my experience.

richard s 23-07-2017 20:08

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Cheers for the info MarkC and PapaSmurf shall try on monday.

weenie 23-07-2017 21:51

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Quote:

Originally Posted by MarkC1984 (Post 35908904)
That's fine weenie. I just feel like rubbish because it's just like it was 20 years ago. Everything is my fault, and I am sick of it.

Mark don't you dare let anyone make you feel like this do what I now do and that is I just smile at her it will really warm her heart (which I doubt) or really annoy her (which I hope it does) in fact I know it does as she said to my Dad that I was being a betch to her and my Dad said all I see is that your sister is being polite and just smiling because I suspect your making her feel awkward or maybe it's a nervous thing that we have never noticed before, he also said to my sister look you complain when she cries now your complaining now she smiles and I just thought BINGO... :D

dilli-theclaw 24-07-2017 16:26

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Aaaahhhh dialysis- blood blood everywhere I tell you!

denphone 24-07-2017 19:08

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Quote:

Originally Posted by dilli-theclaw (Post 35909024)
Aaaahhhh dialysis- blood blood everywhere I tell you!

So sorry to hear that dilli.

Taf 24-07-2017 20:43

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Sainsburys online ordering system.

All the way to the end before they tell you an item is not in stock....


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